Journalist Daniel Bergner has come out with a “groundbreaking” book about female sexuality that comes to the shocking conclusion that women are not all sweet innocent little things.
Bergner’s conclusions, judging from the press, are pretty much the same ones we’ve already reached in the androsphere, which leads me to believe he cribbed some of our material. But even we can’t take all that much credit; hell, you can find the same material going back thousands of years to Homer, the Bible, barbarian European sagas, Hindu texts and so on. In fact, the greater part of evidence that has stood the test of time confirms that women’s sexuality is a powerful and often disruptive force.
Salon on Bergner’s book:
In accessible and entertaining prose, “What Do Women Want?” details everything from individual women’s fantasies to the search for a “female Viagra.” More important, though, it represents a complete paradigm shift. The book, which grew from a much-discussed New York Times Magazine cover story in 2009, reveals how gender stereotypes have shaped scientific research and blinded researchers to evidence of female lust and sexual initiation throughout the animal kingdom, including among humans. It reveals how society’s repression of female sexuality has reshaped women’s desires and sex lives.
Bergner, and the leading sex researchers he interviews, argue that women’s sexuality is not the rational, civilized and balancing force it’s so often made out to be — that it is base, animalistic and ravenous, everything we’ve told ourselves about male sexuality. As one researcher tells Bergner of all the restrictions put on female sexuality: “Those barriers are a testament to the power of the drive itself. It’s a pretty incredible testament. Because the drive must be so strong to override all of that.”
“Women’s desire — its inherent range and innate power — is an underestimated and constrained force, even in our times, when all can seem so sexually inundated, so far beyond restriction,” he writes. “Despite the notions our culture continues to imbue, this force is not, for the most part, sparked or sustained by emotional intimacy and safety.” In fact, he argues, “one of our most comforting assumptions, soothing perhaps above all to men but clung to by both sexes, that female eros is much better made for monogamy than the male libido, is scarcely more than a fairy tale.”
Yes, female sexuality can be terrible in its power, but knowledge disarms much of that power. This is why I don’t think the “constraints” put on female sexuality are really hard and fast rules so much as they are components of an illusion — an illusion that renders unknowing men all but helpless in the face of the angelic female ideal. It is women – not men – who have been most vigilant in maintaining this illusion, because it profits them.
People often mention the “Red Pill,” and that term has come to be a catchphrase for male awakening to reality. I’m not a really big fan of the term, because it sounds a bit cultish and brings The Matrix to mind (I wasn’t all that impressed by the film), but it does describe a real phenomenon.
The Red Pill, in short, is simply the truth about female sexuality. All Bergner has done is repackage the red pill and make it look sexy, and even empowering to women. So I suppose we should give the guy credit for doing us a favor, because although it is being sold with some misleading advertising, at least his book will contribute to general knowledge about the ancient truths of the world.