Some men might wonder whether being an “MRA” or caring about men’s issues would affect their lives, particularly where romance is concerned. I suppose it could have an effect in some settings, such as university faculty, politics and so on, but these are self-limiting communities. An important thing to remember is that most people don’t care about these issues, or they are simply repeating what they think is the acceptable opinion.
That being the case, it’s probably wise not to even bother them with it. Simply treat the people around you – men and women – with the good manners you find appropriate. If someone asks you for your opinion, go ahead and give it if you’d like, but if your opinion is not solicited, there’s no need to offer it. This goes for all manner of political issues, from gun control to abortion to illegal immigration.
As far as most women are concerned, the political opinions a man has take second place to the kinds of status and character markers that most concern women. I have no doubt that a liberal female could find herself strongly attracted to a conservative US Marine, for example, if he was attractive, strong and assertive in a masculine way. And women, like men, act on their attractions first, especially when young.
This doesn’t mean you should go out and look for someone that you disagree with, but rather that opinions are less important than people imagine. If they weren’t, how come they change so readily in such short periods of time?
So, instead of fretting over what people think about what you think, which simply leads men to behave in a way that women find unattractive, try to act as you believe to be right according to your own standards. Doing so will give a man some of that assurance and purpose that women like, but more importantly it will allow him to be at peace with himself.
We should save our political efforts for where they really count, and at the intimate, personal level they have little use. Our main concerns are not that our acquaintances or even lovers agree with us on everything, but that powerful people do not have the opportunity to perpetrate injustices against us. So I maintain that it is many, many times more effective to make a statement for men’s rights in front of a city council or citizen oversight committee than it is in any informal setting or in the home, and certainly more than on a date with a woman who probably hasn’t given it a thought all day.
That said, if you are a strong proponent of men’s rights and liberty, consider speaking your mind openly to the powerful. Don’t shy away from doing so in favor of preaching to the little people, who might just become confused and uncomfortable. Let them hear you say it to those with power. That’s really how you’ll bring them around, and that’s how you influence people’s opinions.