Because Daniel is a gay man who lives in Norway, he has a valuable perspective on the political interplay between feminism and gay activism. He’s also honest, which is rare in the US, and has even taken women’s studies classes.
Daniel left the following comment on my earlier article on Nordic men, and I think it’s worth highlighting, so I’m reposting it for the benefit of readers:
I presume you already have understood that the womens movement and the gay movement are closely linked. How so? The way I see it, is because they happened fairly simultaneously. You have perhaps heard of the “Stonewall riots” in 1969. This is considered to be the catalyst of the modern gay movement. Feminists and homosexuals quickly realised the benefits in supporting each other on the issue. They both needed a suitable antagonist. For the women the antagonist was the man, and for the [homo]sexuals the antagonist was the heterosexual. If you combine the two, you get the straight man! The perfect target for the combined movements, and the perfect link. Because when you think about it – there is really no logical reason for homosexuals and women to “team up”. In nature, they should also be antagonists. To me personally, the gay movement stand out as the righteous one, whereas the womens movement is based on the false notion that women too were opressed. Well, women never went to jail or were considered to be mentally ill because of being women, were they?
Anyway, because of the above mentioned link, AND THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART FOR YOU TO UNDERSTAND, you can probably expect that the majority of gay men and close to a hundred percent of lesbian women, consider themselves to be feminists. Personally I view “my kind” as brainwashed. In most universities LGBT courses are a part of women`s studies. And yes, I have also attended these courses. But please don`t write me off just yet… Whereas I do see that feminism certainly has contributed to making it alot easier for me as a gay man to be who I am today without feeling harassed, I do not make the same mistake as many of my homosexual brothers and sisters in believing we have feminism to thank for our privileged position. It was gays themselves who fought this battle, not feminists.
In women`s studies one is taught that both gender and sexuality is a social construct, and can be torn down if we push hard enough. I do not believe this for a second. I do however believe that we socially enforce the differences that are naturally there. And here the subject of this excellent article comes to mind. You Americans ask if the Nordic men are manginas. Well, during my – so far – two visits to the United States I noticed that you American men are very conservatively dressed. It seemed to me, that after a man turns 20, he starts dressing like his father. There is no difference any more. Actually, in general, I have the impression that Americans – and particularly the men – are very much afraid to be “different”. You all looked the same! This is dangerous. I have also heard stories about how this starts early, already in your colleges. The “nerds” can`t sit down at the same table as the “footballers”, and the two can not be seen communicating in public. This is dangerous. Don`t restrict yourselves and your fellow men like this. If you do, then feminsim have certainly won, in that women can be anything, whereas a man can only be a man, and preferably only one kind of a man. And this is one of the major differences between American men and Norwegian men. As I stated in my ranting yesterday, I don`t feel uncomfortable making contact with other kinds of men. One of my best friends is a hunter. Another is a prison guard. They are both happily married to women. They sometimes come with me to gay bars. I sometimes take care of their children. It doesn`t make them “manginas”.
Unfortunately, my visits to the US were too short to befriend any of you American men and to understand how you think. I would very much like to. My observations are therefore mostly visual. I did befriend our hotel clerk – Brian – talking to him whenever I could and he was available. He seemed to me to be very straight and very open minded. I hope that goes for most of you
So, I will stop my ranting now, with an important message to you. If you didn`t fall asleep already then please pay attention:
The feminist movement is bigger than ever, and growing. Both feminist and gay institutions receive millions of dollars in state benefits. The universities educate “professional” feminists each year, who need to find work within their field. The feminist wheels need to keep turning, to employ them. It is a very lucrative business! And it will never stop.
Dear straight men, you can bend over backwards trying to please these people. You can trolley your infants 24/7. You can cook all the meals at home and do all the cleaning. You can give all your top corporate positions to women. You can select gay presidents for the next hundred years. You can submit to them totally. BUT IT WON`T HELP!!! They will just keep pursuing their agenda. The “business” has become too lucrative to stop. I know it, because I know how these people think. I am a part of them.
So please set your foot down now! Before it is too late. Stand up for yourself, and your right to be an important and appreciated part of our common society. Don`t hesitate, and don`t think you have to give in even an inch! Because you don`t.
You have my vote