A recent Doonesbury cartoon has a few frames of conversation between a young woman who is pregnant, and her parents, to whom she is breaking the news. The strip ends with the mother asking “so what’s on board?” and the young woman saying “a pair of dudes, God help me.” A good friend of mine calls each of these seemingly innocuous put-downs about males “just another little cut — one of thousands…”
Should I write an irate editorial to the newspaper? I have written such letters, on many an occasion, and thereby ran the risk of being accused of making a mountain out of a molehill. I have been accused of being a crank who is “tilting at windmills,” attacking imaginary enemies. Beyond ignoring me, which is the most common response, with this type of dismissive comment, many people hope I will be discredited and shut-up. I have not been silenced, nor should you the incensed reader be silenced. These objections to the systematic and culturally-endorsed maligning of males are legitimate and they deserve more attention.
Beyond the minor off-hand remark appearing in this comic strip, consider the gigantic number of put-downs about males appearing in the mass media, and how these can contribute to the serious and dramatic erosion of male self-esteem. I am particularly concerned about boys and young men, those who don’t yet know who they are, those who don’t know that they are valuable and worthy in their own right. It is these particularly susceptible males that I believe are most influenced, and perhaps even brainwashed, by the relentless stream of male put-downs. It is this latter topic, the larger view of the intended impact of all these put-downs, that is worth talking about more, not just within the men’s rights movement, but with a wider audience as well.
There is now a pervasive US government policy of supporting — if not institutionally encouraging — the put-down of men. Consider the legal definition of hate speech, which succinctly could be summed up as the denigration, humiliation and attack of protected groups (women, racial minorities, ethnic groups, non-heterosexuals, etc.). Note that men do not qualify as one of the protected groups. In addition, the US government does not prosecute radical feminist ideologues like Andrea Dworkin, who spew malicious anti-male hate speech, such as statements asserting all heterosexual intercourse is rape. In fact the media widely circulates and celebrates such bizarre anti-male hate speech. At the same time, major media outlets such as The New York Times have policies that block or severely curtail the publication of terrorist manifestos (such as that of the Unibomber) lest such publications amount to collaboration of some sort. This author fails to see the difference — they both involve hate speech. Radical feminism is not yet seen for what it really is: a hate and a terrorist movement. It has instead been adopted, co-opted, and exploited by the US government for its own purposes, notably the subordination and subjugation of rank-and-file men.
I try to objectively view these matters, so as to reach a place with new perspectives, but no doubt this author’s biases and blind spots have influenced this article. I am hoping that in numbers, those of us in the men’s rights movement can collectively converge on the truth, arriving at an understanding of exactly why such a war of words is being waged against males. I’m not sure why there is such a deluge of anti-male put-downs appearing in movies, TV, newspapers, web pages, and so many other locations including comic strips. I have three specific theories, which I will define below. I invite those who contribute to the comment stream to reveal other explanations of the intentions behind the massive onslaught of anti-male propaganda that seems to have become institutionalized in today’s mass media.
The first of my three theories involves brainwashing (perhaps it could even be called psychological warfare) making a certain segment of the population more readily and more easily manipulated. Through these little cuts, men are made to feel bad about themselves, and are encouraged to adopt an attitude of low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem, especially when that low self-esteem is validated by many different sources, and reinforced on a perpetual basis, are much more easily manipulated, cowed, subdued, and enslaved. The process is cumulative and by the time that most males are of adult age, they put up very little resistance to female and government domination and control. It is important to subdue, control, and manipulate males because rebellions and revolts are inevitably sourced by, staffed by, and fought by males (consider the recent Egyptian uprising where the work was done almost exclusively by men). This type of psychological warfare against men is working well, and that fact is revealed by the surprisingly large number of men who now submit to the most bizarre feminist dictates. For example, consider the men who publicly walk in high-heels to show their support for the end of violence against women. Of course men don’t support violence against women, but there is no need for public displays of male humiliation and subjugation.
People with very low self-esteem are also more likely to try and assuage those feelings by buying unnecessary products and services. For example, so many of the advertisements about cars directed at men contain messages like “buy this car, and you will be a hit with the ladies,” or “buy this car, and feel powerful,” or other patently nonsensical cause-and-effect relationships that fall apart completely if examined logically and dispassionately. The problem is that desperate and low self-esteem people don’t often engage in much logical and dispassionate thinking. They want to feel better, and they will do almost anything (including becoming alcoholics) to achieve that sought-after state. Unnecessary products and services can be offered-up to these people as quick fixes, and if the last quick fix didn’t really work, or didn’t work for long, well, they tell us to try another. So male low self-esteem could be good for keeping the consumer economy afloat, could be a good way to get men to buy products and services that they don’t really need.
While this first theory seems plausible, it does not explain why only men are habitually, and apparently according to policy, put down in the media. Why is it that women can do no wrong, but men are consistently shown to be undesirables such as naïve boy-men, buffoons, idiots, inept oafs, petty criminals, child molesters, and the like? Perhaps there is also an intention to justify the unfair allocation of preferences and resources in our society, to make it look like the favoritism extended toward women is in fact justified? If indeed women were wonderful, in all respects, as the media seems us to want us to believe, then we men should have no objections to special governmental programs like domestic violence safe houses being extended only to women and children (not men). If women really were in all ways wonderful, then we men should have no reason to object to the grossly unfair treatment that we encounter in family court. This justification of gender-based inequity appears to be more of a side effect of the campaign to put down men, in itself desirable to those in power, rather than a primary objective of the campaign.
The second of the three theories offered here involves pushing men into permanent relationships with women. With low self-esteem, and a host of bizarre societal attitudes such as “a man needs the civilizing influence of a woman,” this put-down campaign urges every man to soon take-up some serious committed relationship with a woman, as though this is going to be in some way be a solution to problems of low self-esteem. (Those of us who have been married know that marriage is often a good way to further erode low self-esteem.) Anyway, through the publicity surrounding Valentine’s Day and related romance myths, each of these low-self esteem men is led to believe that if they get the love of a certain special woman, then they will feel better about themselves. And indeed if one is in love, the world does seem to be a very special and magical place. But unfortunately that experience of being in love is fleeting, temporary, and often dangerously out-of-synch with the real world. However, what does stick around afterwards are the obligations (child support, alimony, etc.) from which men cannot distance themselves. But, alas, at that point it is too late, for the men are already financially enslaved.
By urging men to get into serious relationships with women, in the form of marriage and kids notably, the men become domesticated (I used the word “enslaved” in a prior article). What I mean by this is that they become financially obligated to support the wife and family, and that makes them good workers, workers who are much less likely to quit their demanding, dangerous, miserable and boring jobs, because these men know that their wives (and maybe children too) are depending on them, and that they would in many cases be financially ruined if they were to get a divorce and have to split the assets, pay child support, and perhaps pay alimony as well. Guilt and obligation morality is also commonly used to get these men to submit the saddle of being a financial provider.
So the low self-esteem hypnotism provided by the media encourages men try to make themselves heroic, notable, and lovable in the eyes of women. This is helpful for the military, which needs recruits seeking to be heroes. It is also notably useful to corporations, who want men who will put in great amounts of overtime, travel to far away places for their job, take dangerous jobs, and in other ways go above and beyond those things that women are willing to do. To statistically substantiate these assertions, see Warren Farrell’s excellent and incredibly-well-researched book entitled “Why Men Earn More.” If men are legally locked into a family unit, and on the hook to provide money for that family unit, then all sorts of things can be required of them, things that wouldn’t be required of women (such as working underground in a coal mine).
The third of my three theories involves the notion that men who know they are enslaved are considerably less likely to complain. A steady stream of messages claiming that “women are angels and men are pigs,” or related anti-male venom, discourages men from complaining about obvious injustices such as VAWA, the law that protects women against violence rather than men. Men can forget about the equal protection clause of the Constitution. And repeated put-downs coming from many different sources furthermore helps reinforce the erroneous notion that currently enslaved men must remain enslaved, as if that were the natural course of things. A steady barrage of anti-male communications also acts like a confirmation of men’s lowly position in the current social structure, thus discouraging men from even thinking about, let alone attempting, to free themselves.
This suppression of complaints, as is illustrated by in the early childhood teaching that “good boys don’t cry,” is fully consistent with Dalrock’s formulation of “The Feminine Imperative.” To paraphrase Dalrock, this doctrine holds that it is the tendency of women to define social roles and morality to meet strictly female needs. The male role of financial “provider” has, for example, been defined by women, and then supported and institutionalized by “manginas” (men who have sold their fellow men down the river, men with no self-esteem, men who kiss the asses of women in the hopes that they will have favorable terms of future access to these women’s bodies). The social structure, for instance divorce courts, then goes on to enforce these female-dictated roles and moral expectations against men, but not against women. For example, there is a large and draconian legal apparatus for child support payment enforcement, but there is no apparatus whatsoever to enforce paternal visitation rights.
There is additionally a vicious circle going on with respect to the many male put-downs, and the extent to which men stab each other in the back, and then go on to institutionalize social roles that are disadvantageous towards men. These manginas engage in this ultimately self-betraying behavior because they consciously or unconsciously believe that they will thereby gain some personal future advantages with women. The more the males-putting-males-down cycle is perpetuated, the more men feel as though they have to somehow distinguish themselves from the masses of unworthy men. So many of them will then become manginas, putting other men down, kissing the asses of women, groveling for female approval, acting in some way as heroes and saviors of the oh-so-poor and allegedly-discriminated-against female class. Unfortunately they become part of the problem and make it progressively worse. We must break out of this destructive vicious cycle … or perhaps the collapse of American “civilization” will do it for us.
What’s the best response for an enlightened man to all of this? This author suggests a subversive act involving thinking well of yourself (assuming you the reader are a man), and of other men too. This author suggests that we men confront and call-out all hate speech directed at men, that we confront those involved and that we publicly lodge strong protests. This author suggests that we dare to consider that there is a widespread conspiracy to put-down males so as to be able to use men as though they were simply beasts of burden, existing simply to support others.
At the same time, this author suggests that we men honor other men. Give them the benefit of the doubt, and appreciate the things that they do, as well as the things for which they so infrequently get thanks. Honor the positive and valuable attributes of men, such as self-sacrifice, honor, and fairness. Consider that men are just as worthy and valuable as women. Dare to live your life that way.
In conclusion, note that repeated put-downs are widely recognized as a telltale sign of emotional abuse in the domain of domestic partner abuse. But when these put-downs are directed at a class of individuals, in this case males, they are not only totally acceptable, but also normal and expected, as well as amplified by the mass media. Why would that be? What’s the deeper motivation for this? What’s your view?
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I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill on this one. Saying that a simple comic strip- or entertainment like it- leads to male self esteem issues is like saying that pictures of thin models in womens magazines leads the chubby masses to have anorexic body issues. I wouldnt have found the joke funny but it wouldnt have hurt my self esteem.
I don’t really have much to say to this other than some men thought they knew better than Ben Franklin when they decided to give women the vote.
This is the end result when you try to pretend men and women are “equal.” You have to rejig the world and everyone’s worldview to maintain that illusion and the only way to do that is to make men seem like clods.
For further information, consult the Rush song “Trees.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGQyv-43334
Excellent post and analysis this: as it perfectly describes the circular firing squad men and boys find themselves forcibly engaged in as principal adversaries, stooges and factors.
Ask the worst of the worst of bureaucracies’ misandrists what he’ll do with his wages of sin, borrowed by state to pay him of course, and you are as likely to get a reply along the lines of: “to pay my own court ordered alimony and child support sir”.
We are indeed fools for hire.
It is also to be noted that this soul destroying and self abnegating behavior forced on males, literally denatures young boys and thus all men. You cannot for long be forced to behave like whom you are not without it eventually affecting your development and equilibrium.
No wonder there is upwardly trending male tendencies toward sexual deviance, suicide, violence, maladjustment, maladaption and other serious mental disorders in these genderist lands.
Olympian, Oscar Pistorius, the 26 year old blade runner, just this day shot the hell out of his 30 year old jobless girlfriend in South Africa. No paper nor media outlet will cover the hidden but truthful aspects of the parasitic and threat laden relationship from the poor mans point of view. http://worldnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/02/14/16957208-blade-runner-oscar-pistorius-charged-with-murder?lite
You would think that responsible leaders would wish to correct and to perfect a society where excesses of misandry and anti-male prejudice abound and are causing generational harms wouldn’t you? Alas not here. There’s just too much profit and power to be gained.
Misandry is a very profitable scam and ponzi.
“At the same time, this author suggests that we men honor other men.”
I’m not sure I would extend this courtesy to manginas or white knights. Manginas and white knights are to the MRM what Uncle Toms were to the African-American civil rights movement. I’m white, but would any African-American commentators on The Spearhead agree with this sentiment?
There are two ways that women can appear to be “taller” than men. They can perch themselves on special devices that artificially increase their height, or they can chop men off at the ankles so that men will be shorter.
Women have successfully used both approaches to be “taller” in every part of life except for actual, physical height; most women who can do so wear heels, but so far no woman has approached me about surgery for my legs. Yet.
But in every other area, women use custom and law to pursue both of these approaches; their despicable shaming of young boys never stops.
My question is whether we can still be men while pursuing the kind of program that women use.
Can we constantly complain about every tiny detail of life that doesn’t suit us? Women do it naturally; I don’t think I could do it.
Women get special treatment for themselves by constantly manipulating the builders and makers of civilization – the men. I personally think that this is the result of evolution; women bear the children and they have men to manipulate the physical world to improve their chances of raising children successfully. But could you constantly whine to legislators to make men more equal? I don’t think I could do that, either.
But we must do something, because this is an important problem.
The best way to fix this problem is to use some aspect of female nature against them. For example, women are unable to truly support each other, because when you get down to it, for a woman it’s “me and my eggs against the world.”
One possible way is to set all of the women who have male children against the rest. I’ve noticed that women with boys are often very receptive to the problems that we’ve all noticed with the schools, for example.
I don’t know. This is a really good article, and we should put our heads together to find the answers. After all, we’re the men, and that’s what we’re good at.
Good article. You are to be commended for this effort.
Feminism is a constant pumping operation. ( I think it was Dalrock who said it, but I can’t remember and I’m lazy. ) Keeping up the appearance of “Equality’ requires constant attention, and putting men down or in their place is a part of it.
Example #684037560769372548 of the phenomenon is an ad running on the radio station I listen to that is for repair of damaged cars. It starts by saying: “A hailstorm when your ex is going to a date, good” and there are the sounds of a man getting nailed by hail and cursing. The second part is that “a hailstorm hitting your car is bad, but So&So’s Dent Repair can fix it.”
Why is the party getting nailed by the hail never a woman? It’s always a man and it’s oh so funny to see (or hear) him suffer.
As far as what can be done, certainly write to radio stations / TV stations / papers / magazines and the sponsors of ads who do this. 2 sentences is plenty, and email is fine. Let them know you won’t be doing business with them because their ads are offensive.
I believe it’s also important to put your money where your mouth is and avoid doing business with them, where possible. I live in a small town, so there are some businesses I can’t boycott effectively without harming myself more than the boycott target.
More importantly, avoid participating in such negative joking and fear-mongering about men and boys. When it comes to people who I am familiar and friendly with, I straight out tell them that such attitudes are harmful to the men in their life, and particularly harmful to their kids and grandkids. Anyone of even modest intelligence can understand this pretty quickly when I point it out, in a reasonable and friendly way.
With people who I am only casually acquainted with, I just say that I don’t participate in needless worrying, as I don’t believe it does me or the party to be worried about any good. I spend part of the time where I earn my living working with the public, so I do have to watch what I say to customers, but I always at least mention that fear-mongering is pointless. I’ve been doing the job for long enough that I can handle most situations without chasing much-needed business out the door.
Speaking purely from an anthropomorphic context, the male of the species is rather irrelevant – unless he’s high in the alpha hierarchy. In order to evolve from the fittest genes, you’ll want the very few “best of the best” males mating with as many females “in season” as possible. The rest of us are superfluous eunuchs pretending we might have a chance, struggling for relevance amongst the herd.
The precious and exalted female is the “giver of life” offering the gift of genetic immortality to the species through the “miracle of birth”. Everything he does, he does it for her – including sacrificing his life. With a limited amount of fertility and the ability to gestate our young, the female is more valuable if the species is to thrive into eternity.
Allowing and even promoting our female to be equal to, yet still greater than the male is yet more deference to the devine gestational carrier. Ironically, this last gesture of the male to please our “breeder half”, will likely end up being the entire species undoing. While the cows are busy competing against all the lowly beta males for the best grazing, they AREN’T busy getting pregnant and nurturing our young.
Women want to be valued as men, and men are still trying to value them as wives and mothers. Wifery and motherhood is what diminishes women from being more like men are. The “burden” of pregnancy and child rearing weakens her resolve for “equality”. She doesn’t want to do it anymore.
@ Geographybeefinalisthimself –
Interesting point about honoring manginas and white knights. Perhaps we can honor that in them which is inherently male, and not their female-ass-kissing behaviors? Perhaps we can honor who they would be, if they were to wake up to the reality of the feminist-inspired system under which they now exist?
I think there is a lot of truth to what you write.
I have been doing business with groups in Japan for several decades now and I have always been amazed that there is a strong trend in Japan to look western. You can see this in their anime and also in things such as eyelid surgery and the unnatural (for them) way they do their try to do their hair. While I understand appreciating other societies I think many of their actions shows a lack of pride in their own identity which I would say in unhealthy.
I think this is what the left is trying to do to white men in our society. They are trying to break the pride of white men so that they can manipulate us and take the wealth and power that white males created in the West.
This was evident in the commercials run during the Super Bowl. From the ads that showed the white men as buffoons, to the ads that had women beating up white males, and of course the multiple ads that showed white women romantically attracted to non-white males. They want white men to view non-white males as superior (cooler). They want white males to want to emulate non-white males. They want to break white men’s pride so we don’t fight when they come to take our wealth and status.
The fact that the largest share of the Super Bowl’s audience is white men and yet these ads were so prevalent shows the campaign is working and ongoing. Any group, except white males, who would be known to be the largest audience for a given show would have commercials showing them in a positive light. It is only white males that given such scorn.
“In addition, the US government does not prosecute radical feminist ideologues like Andrea Dworkin, who spew malicious anti-male hate speech, such as statements asserting all heterosexual intercourse is rape.”
Um, true enough, but could that possibly be because Dworkin died in 2005?
But it’s sooooo hilarious when a man gets kicked in the crotch, especially when he turns blue and doubles over.
I’m 1000% with you, but I don’t write the offenders, I call them and promise to boycott their products etc. When you talk money, they usually at least listen.
Poiuyt: What point are you trying to make with regard to Pistorious?
The girlfriend worked as a model, did magazine covers, and was on SA TV occasionally.
She was not jobless and parasitic.
@ Joe Zamboni
I’m not sure I would honor any of their male traits:
1) their Y chromosomes;
2) their higher propensity towards facial and body hair;
3) their predisposition to sex-linked traits such as color-blindness, hemophilia and Duchenne’s muscular dystrophy (a male hemophiliac father needs either a hemophilia carrier mother or that extremely rare mother who has the trait on both her X chromosomes to produce a hemophiliac daughter and Duchenne’s muscular dystrophy renders the boys who have it unable to reproduce);
4) their tendency to have shorter lives than females;
5) their being passed over by “equal opportunity employers” because of what is between their legs;
6) their military obligations;
7) their lack of political rights and civil liberties (and pretty much any clout) relative to females;
8) their obligation to hold down jobs;
9) their marginalization under feminism;
10) their being held to the less favorable standard in a double standard (we all know that women use more double standards than men);
11) their receipt of women’s projection onto the male sex (we all know that women project onto men more than vice versa)
and I could probably list a few more, thinking that by honoring these traits, manginas and white knights will suddenly stop supporting a movement (feminism) which is not in any male’s best interest.
I don’t like to interrupt the flow of good comments, but I just spotted a new TV series which may be applicable here.
“50 Ways To Leave Your Lover-
New. Stories of women who seek revenge in dramatic ways against men who lie and cheat.”
Sounds like good entertainment for the whole family.
“This is the end result when you try to pretend men and women are “equal.” You have to rejig the world and everyone’s worldview to maintain that illusion and the only way to do that is to make men seem like clods.
For further information, consult the Rush song “Trees.””
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Most problems in this world can be solved by listening to Rush. I’m partial to “Red Barchetta” in which a kind uncle helps a young man to have an adventure involving both technology and natural beauty in the countryside, with not a harpy nor harridan in sight to say shit to them.
And so why is it men have been so easily led to believe women are oppressed and they’re the oppressors?
Because men are hopelessly, hopelessly in love with the female of the species. Her face alone has launched a thousand ships. Until men fall out of love with their mothers, their sisters, their daughters and their wives – they’ll take the abuse and disrespect willingly, while feminism marches on.
Collectively speaking men are madly in love with women, and women barely tolerate men. And we’re so grateful for at least that much.
“I have been accused of being a crank who is “tilting at windmills,” attacking imaginary enemies. ”
Sometimes I think we are all tilting at windmills – it is not the natural order and it is doomed to failure. Then again, maybe only from ultimate failure will success ultimately rise.
For someone to say they don’t get it, about why one cartoon would bother you, just laugh and move on, makes it clear that they don’t understand the 1000 little cuts. I see two to three such cartoons a week in newspapers and magazine. Add that to sexist comments and male bashing events that last an entire month: October is DV awareness month where you won’t learn that most DV is initiated by women, or that mothers, not fathers are mostly responsible for over half the deaths of their own children from abuse and neglect. You will hear about Dead Beat Dads but not that mothers adjudicated to pay child support have a worse payment compliance. If you miss that during DV Awareness month you can get it during the month of April during Sexual Assault Awareness Month (Used to be child abuse PREVENTION but why prevent child abuse, the precursor to the cycle of violence when you can use the month to pretend that women don’t sexually abuse anyone. (I have a list, Madeline Morehouse a famous rape victim was sexually abused by her mom, I was by my grandmother, as children both of us, R. A. Dickey the baseball player by his baby sitter. Antoine Fisher (move by same name, starring Denzel Washington) was sexually abused by his caretaker females. John Irving the writer. A child who became a serial killer. Julie Brand M.S. wrote about how unreceptive women in a group dealing with their victimization didn’t seem interested in her story about her mother’s incest. It’s not just the little cuts, it’s the intentional battering of male esteem by pretending that ever 3rd man is a rapist and women just wouldn’t do such things. Micki Williams a CA state certified sexual assault worker wrote about her same sex rape and how difficult it was to share. We don’t allow cartoons putting down women, or sexist jokes in the Main Stream Media. For males we do it all the time. Men who can’t see it or blow it off are those men that my friend Jenna, a women’s history teacher says are “castrated philosophically by victim feminists. When mom’s start grooming boys to kow tow to women, stand when the enter the room, no cursing, kiss hands and kneeling are signs of romance, not subservience, never ever hit a girl no matter what she does, those men grow up addicted to women’s praise and like Stockholm syndrome they identify with their captures and go after men that would write about 1000 cuts and cartoons as if such men were pathetic wimps. Write on Mr. Z we need to open some eyes out there.
Facebook was rife with two things this Valentine’s Day.
1) Pics posted by females of whatever floral/candy/teddy bear arrangement they recieved from the man in their life, along with some cutesy yet trite remark, like “at least he tried lol.”
This serves two purposes. One, it’s a gal showing off to the other women on her friends list who’ll see it. Two, it seeks to passively establish to anyone reading that her man is a typical modern dolt, and he’d probably lose his ass if she didn’t keep up with everything for him. He really neeeeeeds her, you see.
2) Whiny complaints from the ladies whose men didn’t do a damn thing special for them. I guess this is to illicit sympathy?
I’m just glad I’m single.
@ Steve Deluca –
I appreciate your big picture viewpoint. Instead of taking all the anti-male abuse for granted — be it little cuts in the mass media, a totally unjustified slap from a female acquaintance for something innocuous that you said, or a judge dealing with you the ex-husband much more harshly than he does the ex-wife — it’s time that we men acknowledged the grand plan, the intention to enslave and oppress men so that they are simply beasts of burden, like horses roped up to pull the carriage, although the more modern metaphor is bring home the bacon.
I was a mangina, so I came here assuming that all manginas could wake up to reality at some point (and get really pissed.) But the more time I spend here the more they seem like natural followers, the kind of people who would join lynching parties without worrying about the possible innocence of the victim, enlist for stupid wars even without a draft, and if you search their hard drives you’ll probably find videos of men licking women’s feet or getting pegged. How do you even live like that?
Of course, if you get a look at the effeminate men and dumpy women who are bashing men in the media (the only exceptions are either celebrities or former cops like steve wilkos) you’ll get your self esteem back in a hurry. Most newspaper columnists usually link to their bios and have photos you can laugh at.
> Sometimes I think we are all tilting at windmills – it is not the natural order and it is doomed to failure. Then again, maybe only from ultimate failure will success ultimately rise.
Haha yes, I agree. It goes against human nature to care about a man’s complaints. It is inherently masculine to do something about a problem, not complain about it. There are some caveats to that though. To the extent that we have to participate in feminized society, then we have to work in more politicized ways to have influence. I try to keep my criticisms pointed so they don’t take over my consciousness. In some ways I think it is pragmatic to “go with the flow” of society and not make a big deal out of differences or slights. Like is it better to be “right” or to be successful? Because if I’m not successful then I’m probably not going to be very happy or very much fun to be around. Usually the successful type of guys, from my limited experience, don’t question these type of things. And standing up for political issues or slights tends to make you a target. One possible solution is to gain power from within, play their game and then exert influence in a subtle way from a position of greater power.
you know this post could be better titled “Why men need game” but that probably wouldn’t fly with a lot of femra’s – er – sorry, i mean men’s HUMAN rights activists [how long ya bet before the 'men's' part is dropped from that and we get little more than a red cross auxiliary?]
and as for the children – we can encourage them to emulate masculine types from older books and movies
and if their peers tell them they’re copying dinosaurs they can tell them right back that dinos ruled the earth for millions of years and that’s a heck of a lot longer than the fems ever will
you just can’t handle a confident womyn…
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As Nietzsche observed, insanity in individuals is rare, in society it is the norm. He also asked : do you follow, lead or walk away?
I run my own successful business, unplug from all retarded societal norms, media and rituals, develop my body, mind spirit and travel and otherwise enjoy my interests. I boycott Christmas, New Years, Valentines Day, although I do encourage participation in March 20 “Steak, Blowjob and Shut the Fuck Up Day”. I refuse to give to any organized charity, which are just sinecures for females who can’t actually compete in the real world. I help people individually and anonymously when they deserve it. I refuse to spend any money on professional sports or buying bad food or useless shit. Any woman desiring time with me is advised up front that know that men and women are not equal because they are inherently different. I view them as little children in grown up clothes, so I find their shaming and approving deliciously funny. 99% of the females I have spent time with are asian; I assume every American Female is a hopeless waste of energy.
I will never remarry or cohabit and I utterly boycott marriages, refusing to attend, give gifts or congratulate anyone who gets married, including my own frienda and family members. I have created a new principle:
Instead of marital property, “Hooms”: hands off of my stack, or hands off of my stuff, or “whoms is is? Mine.” I have grown like a honeycomb.
I deem it a privilege for any woman to spend time with me or make love with me. I am ready to walk away at any time; indeed I practice it and its actually quite refreshing. I love being alone for long stretches. I read Horace, Homer, Mann, Shakespeare, Nietzsche, Sun Tse and love music. Women who want to see me and have been forced to wait generally show up baking, dripping and adoring. Since my divorce and awakening, I have had so much sex that I was at the point of puking sometimes. Try having sex with 7-8 choice females in the space of 3-4 days, you will experience a temporary depressing lethargy which I have coined “sex poisoning”; it does wonders for your perspective. Now I only become initimate with those rarest females of the highest quality who are worthy of my time. Most American women today are indeed shallow, materialistic, solipsistic, selfish, self-centered, psycho dumb worthless geese; as their punishment, I will not fuck them. Without a blood-sucking American female, I have so much time, space, money and freedom compared to when I was married that it is like paradise.
Most of all I teach my son, who ran away from his evil Mom, who no longer has anyting to do with him because she doesn’t know what to do with him now that he is no longer useful to her as a 1) human shield, 2) drama prop, 3) hostage 4) financing instrument 5) torture instrument. I teach him the dark side of females and society. I teach him to make his pile, keep it, enjoy the world, preserve his health into his 60′s and beyond and never to marry or cohabitate and to not even consider having children until he is 45 and knows himself and where he wants to have them, and whether he is better off using a surrogate. I teach him that society is a many-headed idiot, one which currently seeks to exploit and utilize him and lock him in to misery. I teach him that his father is his only certain refuge in life. To have your own son honor, respect and love you is so rare and wonderful, it is worth a thousand supermodels.
I have several psycho sisters: If they want to visit, I tell them first that they can only stay until a certain time and are invited on the condition that they be pleasant and that at the slighest whiff of bs they will be asked to leave and if necessary, escorted out by building management or the police if necessary. If they raise feminist issues (they have each mercilessly soaked and tortured their good ex-husbands) I say: “Women are liberated. Men and women are equal. Men are liberated too.” End of story. I have even had two girlfriends accompany me to family events to shut everyone the fuck up. “Men are liberated too” Believe it or not, women respect and submit to a natural male authority.
When you develop and groom yourself fully as a man and demand the best, you will attract the lovliest, most exceptional females who are looking for a natural master. A fully developed (physical, emotional, spiritual) man is king of the world, and has far more options than even the hottest supermodel.
Gentlemen: sift, select, delete, look away, walk away. Focus on making yourselvess the beautiful, magnificent wonders of nature that you are, until you find yourself lying in bed with two beautiful young females both clinging to you and foaming between their legs.
Laugh at the dumb ads and encourage the manginas. The more pussified men there are out there, the more the best women will do anything to be with you and please you. Make it your hobby to teach your sons, nephews and all young men to see the truth and laugh at the retarded geese and see them for what they are.
I’ve come to the view that men are structurally in surplus — and have been throughout all history. So all this shaming is society’s response to an excess of men. Society simply doesn’t need that many men in MEANINGFUL positions. So, give the men the crummy jobs: physical labor, military, slaves, office drones etc. And chain them to women. There’s no way to make every man’s life meaningful anymore, and certainly no way to give every man a hot woman. So the solution will be porn, video games and drugs for the masses. To rise above this … well … by definition each man must figure out how to do that on his own. Nobody’s going to help him. It’s like lions on the savannah … there is not enough room for too many males at the top.
— it’s time that we men acknowledged the grand plan, the intention to enslave and oppress men so that they are simply beasts of burden, like horses roped up to pull the carriage, although the more modern metaphor is bring home the bacon.
This is nothing new under the sun.
What IS new is that modern women not only openly control and manipulate men through sexuality more than ever before, they have 100% control over reproduction of the species. This puts men in a very weak position to negotiate. Like MRA’s and PUA’s, more men need to start subjectively analyzing and criticizing the female half’s innate psyche and motivations. They’ll find it’s not always a pretty picture. She has an agenda, he’s blinded by love.
Unfortunately 99% of all men will not question female authority, because they’re afraid of making her angry and what they might find out. Keep it on the safe surface level, of sex and chivalry – right where women want him to remain.
@ david the male feminist extradoniare.
I can’t handle a confident woman? Typical. Ah, no, women can’t handle a confident man, that’s why they need to bring men down to make it seem like their moving up. Need an example; women find it perfectly fine to drug and abuse boys in public schools because if boys are allowed to be confident, well, they’ll easily outperform girls. Don’t bother with the whole girls doing better than boys crap, that is after they slanted the so called “level playing field” so obnoxiously towards girls that they could substituted mongoloid mentally challenged people for girls and they’d get the same results. Frankly, you can’t handle confident women. I know you think you’re a good progressive person, but, I can tell you know nothing about women. As an admitted feminist that worships women, they look at you with utter contempt and think of you as an inferior. Worse, because you bring it upon yourself. I know you probably have heard convincing speeches from your women-friends to the contrary, but, again, you are ignorant of one of the first aspects of women – they lie, embellish and just jabber on about anything. A little push and you’ll see the true nature of women, and let me tell you, you’ll uncover racism, sexism, homophobia…all kinds of “isms”, but importantly, you’d see that they actually hate everything about you.
The social justice community has a term for this “death by a thousand cuts” sort of sexism: Microaggressions. Of course, they generally don’t recognize male victims of it, but you can try submitting your microaggression stories to microaggressions.com. Odds are they will ignore you, based on this from their FAQ: “Identities that are not systematically marginalized are also not appropriate for this blog.” which roughly translates to “screw you white male”.
“men are hopelessly, hopelessly in love with the female of the species, Her face alone has launched a thousand ships”
I tend to believe that much of this “love” does not necessarily come from the heart, but from societal conditioning, expectation and obligation from a bygone day. Just the way the statement is phrased gives indications of that.
Not to say that many aren’t in love with women, but the generality of the statement is misleading. It’s important to know what men can change and what they can’t change.
By nature, men are responsible creatures, while women are not. The concept of loving, caring, protecting women is partially a societal responsibility. It continues in men from days past when women did take some responsibility, while today’s women has virtually abandoned it. So, it became terribly one sided in women’s favor, and now men are resentful of women, and rightfully so. We’re faced with a situation where women are behaving in a way which comes natural to them, while men have to struggle with what does not come natural. Again, I believe some of it can change after we learn what we can and cannot change.
Forgot to mention that one of the main tenets of Feminism is to eliminate ALL societal expectations of women, from not giving up prostitution while being “equal” to men, to caring for their own children.
“In conclusion, note that repeated put-downs are widely recognized as a telltale sign of emotional abuse in the domain of domestic partner abuse. But when these put-downs are directed at a class of individuals, in this case males, they are not only totally acceptable, but also normal and expected, as well as amplified by the mass media. Why would that be? What’s the deeper motivation for this? What’s your view?”
Steve Moxon in his book The Woman Racket explains this as the male dominance hierarchy. Both men and women police the male dominance hierarchy and using any means necessary; blame, shame, guilt and abandonment… all for the end result of establishing alpha / beta males for procreation and social status. I highly recommend Steve’s book The Woman Racket. It’s text book red pill ~ you’ll probably have to read two or three times, with highlights, underlining and notes in the margins like I did.
Thank you highwasp for your mention of Maxon’s highly recommended book called The Woman Racket. I read it some time back, and appreciated the many truths therein.
But do you personally believe that this societal convention involving a continuous barrage of male put-downs is dictated by biology and/or evolutionary psychology? I don’t believe it is preordained or inevitable. I believe we can create something better. In fact I think we have recently had something better. For example, reading some English language literature from the 1600s, 1700s, and the 1800s, I have not noticed anything anywhere near as nasty and poisonous as the anti-male messages we get these days.
@ Joe
After after being politically neutered, the social degradation of the American male is next problem in line.
You must be familiar with Marc Rudov. He does a great job in exposing the constant belittling and abusing men endure. He was on O’Rielly a few times, but I don’t see him anymore. O’Rielly is an A-1 female ass kisser, maybe he couldn’t take anymore of Marc’s truthful comments.
Good article.
Women, good; men, bad! (Oh, but don’t point out that’s the whole thing or you’re a disgusting male chauvanist pig.)
Self esteem doesn’t matter. It’s a side show, something Oprah talks about. Something teachers think kids should have, when in fact they should have good grades (or educational achievement more generally).
Your point about men knocking other men is an important one, though. The battle against feminism can only be won if MRA ideas gain support (after being ridiculed and then fought, of course) and then that support is translated into political gains.
Two types of men oppose MRA ideas: Trad cons who continue to think women are worthy of protection and special treatment, and those intellectual Fleshlights of feminism, the male feminists. Politically speaking MRAs must get those two groups to understand how wrong they are how destructive feminism is.
Little boys are a bit more work. They just are. Get over it. I find small children annoying either way. Boys are always tearing through the house yelling and girls are always trying to impress you with something deeply uninteresting. I’m not sure which I dislike more.
Hate speech is a tool of our enemies,in order for them to destroy freedom of speech thus I agree its propaganda & mind control but we as men have the power. To counter this propaganda with the internet & mainstream media is almost dead because of the web,I think the solution is simple if your’e a parent. Number 1 shut off the cable & get your’e kid off telivision #2 get your’e boys out of the public schools & teach them about propaganda. And misandric lies,thats the solution!
Very true, very accurate. I will reread this article from time to time
I post with a pseudonym. I am a man in his mid twenties enrolled in a graduate school program. I dare not even say in what field of study for fear of persecution. I am having a very difficult time adjusting, because I have never experienced before the type of detest made so obvious. Being a male is obviously considered a problem – I have had faculty make negative remarks to me about my sex.
It is wearying. I feel intense self-loathing and strong feelings of worthlessness. It has affected my performance in school, and I feel unwilling and unable to be happy here and improve my performance. I realized after starting this program how all my life, in schooling, my maleness has been a problem. Teachers remark frequently, and I have made this remark about fellow female students myself from beginning my education, that female students are better at siting down, doing their work, they are more qualified, more competent, etc.
I have been dealt thousands of little cuts to my self-esteem, and I can hardly handle it anymore. I am very thankful that the semester is coming to a close, and I will get a brief respite from the torture of this program. Being a male, I do not know what this privilege is of which they speak. I know that I am often told that my opinion as a male does not count. I am told that I am prone to shutting out others, and therefore I must be quiet. I am told that my previous excellent performance in school (4.0, 99%ile exam scores) are due to my unearned privilege. And because of that, something in me believes them. I lower myself and do not try to be the best, what I once was.
And that is their game. They want to beat me psychologically into submission until I surrender to them. They are winning.
Same thing happened to me. Don’t worry about it. Tell them you’ll lodge a formal complaint if they shut you down. Stand up to them. Threaten to write a long expose of the professor (if it’s interesting I will publish it). Remember: you are paying them — remind them of that. They have no real power over you.
As for your self-esteem — it shouldn’t depend on these people. Stop caring what they think.
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