The New Year brings with it hope, resolution, and divorce. January is known as “divorce month” in legal circles for the high number of separations initiated after the turning of the year. Some reasons for this phenomenon may include women’s reluctance to spoil the holidays with a divorce, but I suspect the pressure of the holidays pushes more than a few of them into mental breakdown status, which seems to cause many women to cut and run — a sort of feminine stampede out of the corral.
So perhaps it isn’t surprising that a UK adultery service has seen record numbers of women signing up after Christmas:
UndercoverLovers.com, a dating website for married people seeking extra-marital affairs, has reported a record post-Christmas surge in women joining the site. Since Christmas Day 13,835 new female members have registered, substantially exceeding the number of men who’ve signed up.
She continues: “When we launched Undercover Lovers three years ago we had approximately 7 men joining for every 3 women. Since then however the gender ratio of our membership has been moving progressively towards parity. If the trend of the past week continues into 2013 we could soon reach the point where ladies outnumber the gents using the site, which would finally put paid to the preconception that men are intrinsically more adulterous than women.”
What does surprise me is how many men still use these services. Given how many single women are out there, fooling around with married women hardly seems necessary — even for the hard up. However, perhaps part of the motivation is that in Anglo countries they are even easier than the single ones. Sure, you may really be slumming when you’re running around with another guy’s wife, but there is no short supply of lazy guys who want to get laid for the lowest price possible. And as it stands today, there’s no cheaper sex than with a married woman, because her husband is going to pay for it no matter how it goes down in the end.
Undercover Lovers have also noted significant differences in the way the sexes use their website. Emily Pope explains: “We know from previous research that women reflect for far longer before taking the huge decision to join the site and, once they do, are initially more tentative in selecting and communicating with potential affair partners. Men are more impulsive by nature and tend to jump straight into the fray. However we’ve also discovered that once women are active on Undercover Lovers, they’re likely to behave more promiscuously than their male counterparts. Our Adultery Survey 2012 revealed that our female members have had 2.3 illicit lovers on average compared to the 1.8 affair partners of men on the site.
Gotta love that last part. I guess now we know why the term “hussy” originally came from housewife. It’s a good thing we men can laugh at ourselves, because these days the joke is most definitely on us.