The New Year brings with it hope, resolution, and divorce. January is known as “divorce month” in legal circles for the high number of separations initiated after the turning of the year. Some reasons for this phenomenon may include women’s reluctance to spoil the holidays with a divorce, but I suspect the pressure of the holidays pushes more than a few of them into mental breakdown status, which seems to cause many women to cut and run — a sort of feminine stampede out of the corral.
So perhaps it isn’t surprising that a UK adultery service has seen record numbers of women signing up after Christmas:
UndercoverLovers.com, a dating website for married people seeking extra-marital affairs, has reported a record post-Christmas surge in women joining the site. Since Christmas Day 13,835 new female members have registered, substantially exceeding the number of men who’ve signed up.
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She continues: “When we launched Undercover Lovers three years ago we had approximately 7 men joining for every 3 women. Since then however the gender ratio of our membership has been moving progressively towards parity. If the trend of the past week continues into 2013 we could soon reach the point where ladies outnumber the gents using the site, which would finally put paid to the preconception that men are intrinsically more adulterous than women.”
What does surprise me is how many men still use these services. Given how many single women are out there, fooling around with married women hardly seems necessary — even for the hard up. However, perhaps part of the motivation is that in Anglo countries they are even easier than the single ones. Sure, you may really be slumming when you’re running around with another guy’s wife, but there is no short supply of lazy guys who want to get laid for the lowest price possible. And as it stands today, there’s no cheaper sex than with a married woman, because her husband is going to pay for it no matter how it goes down in the end.
Undercover Lovers have also noted significant differences in the way the sexes use their website. Emily Pope explains: “We know from previous research that women reflect for far longer before taking the huge decision to join the site and, once they do, are initially more tentative in selecting and communicating with potential affair partners. Men are more impulsive by nature and tend to jump straight into the fray. However we’ve also discovered that once women are active on Undercover Lovers, they’re likely to behave more promiscuously than their male counterparts. Our Adultery Survey 2012 revealed that our female members have had 2.3 illicit lovers on average compared to the 1.8 affair partners of men on the site.
Gotta love that last part. I guess now we know why the term “hussy” originally came from housewife. It’s a good thing we men can laugh at ourselves, because these days the joke is most definitely on us.
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What does surprise me is how many men still use these services. Given how many single women are out there, fooling around with married women hardly seems necessary — even for the hard up.
A married woman is not going to be looking for commitment from the man like a single woman would.
“women’s reluctance to spoil the holidays with a divorce”
Most women already spoil the holidays without divorcing. A divorce is just adding another log onto that bonfire.
News: She’s been planning to break it to him since last spring. The holiday season is a cruel and inconvenient time to file for divorce, and besides what would her friends and family say? And if there’s kids, how could she ever forgive herself. Remember she’s a strong and brave woman. She’ll soldier through the hidden misery.
This is not a spontaneous decision brought on by holiday stress. It’s been stewing in a cauldron of tense silence, sexless nights and condescending slights for months. Let’s start the New Year with a divorce, because hopefully it’ll be over by next Christmas.
Female adultery has always been a matter of opportunity not conscience. I’m still amazed at the white knights belief in the Victorian image of a chaste, virtuous woman (particularly given Victoria’s well documented carnal appetites) but delusion is a powerful drug.
Now that all sense of reproach or public shaming has gone the way of the Dodo, these numbers will rise and rise.
I’d say some of the men using that service are cheating also. The site seems to be for backstabbing wives and husbands.
I think its a joke that someone’s grand achievement in life is to setup a backstabbing website. That makes them a sleazebag.
Also only a sleazebag would date somebody’s loser wife.
Lastly, at least the person in that article didnt make any of the traditional feminist lame excuses on why the wives cheat. There was no “it was her lousy husband’s fault” That article seemed make clear that every cheating wife on the site is there because she is a backstabber.
“However we’ve also discovered that once women are active on Undercover Lovers, they’re likely to behave more promiscuously than their male counterparts.”
Really not getting how that’s in any way a “discovery”. When given the chance to whore around consequence free, women would of course beat out men on the whoring around. All they gotta do is ring the dinner bell and yell out, “Come and get it!”
Even with a setup like this guys still have to work for it, just like regular life.
This is a good article. As military mra looking to create this on a grand scale http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2227880/The-lonely-legacy-Sex-And-The-City-lifestyle-Claudia-Connell-gives-painfully-honest-account-came-living-middle-age.html you kill many birds with the same stone. This kind of story just makes it that much easier to make the Voluntary childless spinster. At present the Involuntary spinster is entirely under the control of men. And that needs to be known. With a male pill men will be in control of who has children and who gets married. Involutary childless spinsterhood. http://eternalbachelor.wordpress.com/2007/07/02/woes-of-a-childless-spinster/
Yup, the joke certainly is on us; I guess at least “the butt” of the joke is on several men at one time. Too bad the kids are the real victims, and daddy is going to ass rape central no matter what (read prison), while mom and new lovers take cruise.
At least mom has a heart; she did wait until after Christmas to announce she was “getting a few gift(s)” on the side anyways. Yeah, momma is a real saint.
It’s often said that the best revenge on a man who steals your wife is to let him keep her.
it wouldnt surprise me if some of them were new years resolutions.
to do list for 2013:
-go to the gym
-start an affair
-divorce my husband
My first ex wife left me for the last (hardly likely but lets give the benefit of the doubt for this discussion) in a line of lovers. I filed for divorce, but as in most cases she had long prior abandoned the marriage. She was a very beautiful woman with a lot of curves; D cup with a tiny waist. What I learned from her was that all the beauty in the world does not make up for even one drop of bitch.
Anyway, the point I am trying to get to is that she married this poor sap. They are still married after over 25 years. Every time I have seen them together, she has treated him with the same contempt with which she treated me. So, I have nothing but pity for the poor man. No matter what any man has done, no man deserves the punishment he has suffered.
Pops beat me to it. A married woman can’t demand nearly as much time and attention from someone as a single woman would. All a married woman wants from a guy she’s looking to bang on the side is 2-3 hours of the high, hard one; THAT’S IT. No hand holding, no walks through the mall, no strolls in the park; in other words, none of the stuff that many single women demand from guys before they can see their kneecaps.
And yes, the betrayed guys are the ones who will be left holding the bag in the end. He either have to leave and be forced to pay child support and/or alimony (in a no-fault divorce state) or become a cuckold by staying while she continues creeping around with someone she finds more appealing, exciting, and ‘better’ in bed than he is.
Marriage is such a great deal for guys, isn’t it???
Mikediver January 4, 2013 at 08:23,
My brother went through a similar experience. He married poorly (although I never thought she was as attractive as he did – nothing like the way you describe your ex, anyway). Things were cool for a few years, then she went back to a former lover (a MUCH older man) after their second child was born.
This chick had some serious daddy issues, and my brother now realizes he was a dope for marrying a “reformed slut.”
(Disclaimer: I do believe in redemption in the theological sense, but a history of sluttery is a HUGE red flag, despite whatever Marc Driscoll preaches.)
When it came to light she immediately divorced my brother with the usual false accusations and even an interstate kidnapping of their children, rode the carousel hard for a while, then married the older guy. My brother ended up with everything, including primary custody and child support from her (which he only saw a fraction of, of course).
Fast forward a few years and the new husband comes home early to find her doing the horizontal mambo with some low-life bad boy – not the first – not the last. She had never entirely gotten off the carousel, but that time he had to acknowledge what he was seeing in his own bed. This is where we differ philosophically: I have zero sympathy for the guy. To be fair: he has no sympathy for himself either – he realized that he had been a total scumbag and apologized for his part in the whole sordid mess. Too bad he had to go into the wood chipper himself before he saw his own fault, but he’s friends with all of us now – Christmas dinners, e-mails, and all that.
His happy ending? She married the guy he caught her screwing. He then proceeded to make everyone’s life miserable with his White Knighting on her behalf… then she cheated on him and divorced him, too.
She used to be moderately attractive, but the last time I saw her she looked like a walking corpse.
Living well is the best revenge.
I came close to marrying a woman who had been on the carousel (acknowledged N=8 at age 18) and wanted to be free after agreeing to be exclusive but to come back to me after a year at college. Thinking back, I’m not too sure she was exactly faithful during the various 6-month periods we were apart in the 3 years we were supposed to have been exclusive. Fast forward 30 years and I got a Facebook friend request ‘Remember me? I’ve been divorced for years’ I understand she was upset when she got a reply that said ‘Thanks but No Thanks’.
I have to be thankful for a narrow escape.
Angry harry has come up with an article so heretical and un-PC, I’m left feeling somewhat afraid for his safety and remaining personal freedoms in this growing police state.
But you decide: http://www.angryharry.com/Why-Do-Women-Fantasise-About-Rape.htm
Why Do Women Fantasize About Rape ?
Why do women fantasize about rape?
Or, more accurately, why do so many women fantasize about rape?
More bluntly: Why is it that the thought of being raped turns on millions of women?
Well, no doubt, the answer to this question is quite complicated, and it is probably different for different women. But, in my opinion, there are some fundamental factors that predispose millions of women to be sexually excited by the thought of being raped.
This does not necessarily mean that they would like to be raped in reality but, perhaps, that they would like to like being raped in reality – if you get my drift.
After all, I would like to win the lottery, despite the fact that I am well aware that lottery winners very often end up being miserable.
But, of course, in my fantasy world, winning the lottery always brings me nothing but joy.
And this is what I would like to happen if I won the lottery. I would like it to be a good experience.
Similarly, women who are excited by the idea of being raped would like a rape to be a good experience.
all the bad bits can disappear
In our fantasy world, however, all the bad bits can disappear.
And so we can often head in a direction that seems like a good idea until we actually get there.
And, in my view, this is one of the main reasons that there are, nowadays, so many women making false allegations of rape – e.g. see Understanding the Rape Statistics; a short YouTube video of mine.
These women head in a direction that is consistent with their rape fantasies, but then discover that the outcome is not quite as pleasurable as they thought it would be.
You see this sort of thing happening when younger women choose to engage intimately with stridently aggressive males (often sporty types) whom they do not really know, and their experiences turn out to be disappointing or decidedly unpleasant.
Most women who experience such things are intelligent enough to recognize that their forays into the world of impersonal aggressive sex which they then regret was a mistake of their own making.
many women these days are unwilling to take responsibility
But many women these days are unwilling to take responsibility for their own behaviors – especially if their minds have been poisoned with feminist propaganda.
In these cases, they will likely feel as if they have been ‘abused’ through no fault of their own, and some of them will want to seek revenge – which they will sometimes do by making false allegations of rape.
Nevertheless, for a large percentage of women, being raped – by a particular person in a particular context – is exciting not only in their fantasy world, but also in reality…
I once dated a woman who told me that her father blew his head away in front of his family including her. Two weeks later her mother married some dude and they are still together. She told me that he mother didn’t cheat on her father and didn’t meet her new husband until a week after he was dead. (If you believe this I have some nice property to sell you).
The justice in all of this is that this new bad-boy husband turned out to be a royal jerk and has made his wife’s life a living hell. As for the women I dated, she showed her true colors as a gold digger and I am glad I got rid of her. She ended up marrying some dude and left him 2 years later. Like mother, like daughter.
I think it has more to do with running off with your new presents then mental breakdown.