Tearing Up the Grass

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by Keoni Galt on July 27, 2012

My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.” “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply. “We’re raising boys.” – Harmon Killebrew

The late, great Baseball slugger, Harmon Killebrew, purportedly was fond of repeating this anecdote about his Father. If I were to have the chance to ask him a question, I would ask “And how did your Mother respond?”

I’ve heard this anecdote before, but never really understood the bigger picture regarding this interaction between a Mother and Father in raising children…until I had one of my own. As the married Father of a 2 year old toddler, this simple anecdote has become my guiding principle…my personal Parental paradigm if you will.

Not a day goes by in which I reflect with gratitude on having discovered “the red pill” on teh interwebz before having a child and embarking on the dramatic lifestyle shift that comes with being married with children.

In my former “blue pill” days, the definition of Father in my brainwashed mind, was nothing more than the duty to provide material support and sustenance so that the wife could adequately have enough resources to raise the kids. Other than being a provider, our mass media culture pushes a message that essentially says that “good Parenting skills” are basically the domain of the feminine. Nurturing, loving, bonding, care-giving are all things women are superior at providing for children. Men are best at sticking to working to pay the bills. This is the feminist narrative writ large, and as we all well know, entrenched as a bedrock principle in our legal system as well. Being a Father means first and foremost, a financial obligation.

Even President Obama, a man who has basically done anything and everything Feminists have demanded of him upon taking office, gets criticized for daring to suggest otherwise.

Take this Atlantic story, Are Fathers Necessary? A paternal contribution may not be as essential as we think. By Pamela Paul

Fathers, Barack Obama intoned in a 2008 Father’s Day speech, are “critical” to the foundation of each family. “They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.”

None of this would seem particularly controversial. Nor would the ominous statistics Obama reeled off about kids who grow up without Dad: five times as likely to live in poverty and commit crime, nine times as likely to drop out of school, and 20 times as likely to wind up in prison. Obama was citing a commonly accepted and constantly updated body of research. The effectively fatherless Obama is clearly a freakish outlier. As for the rest of the fatherless: insufficiently breast-fed, apt to develop attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, unable to form secure bonds, lacking self-esteem, accident prone, asthmatic, and fat.

Having never watched more than 60 seconds of any speech this President has given since taking office, I can say that the above quotation is something I can at least partially agree with. From what I understand, he’s got the effects right from Fatherless household statistics, it’s the cause he’s got all wrong, as he blames the Father’s themselves for causing all these pathologies. We who are in the reality-based community, know damn well that the Fatherless home is not the result of an epidemic of “Deadbeat” prone males impregnating women and irresponsibly running off, but rather the result of a welfare system and a family court system that subsidizes and offers incentives for women to have children from obviously irresponsible men, and/or to deliberately remove the Father’s from their homes if they become unhaaaaapppy, while still forcing them to pay for it.

But Mz. Paul takes a different tact to question the necessity of Father’s in raising children:

As Stacey and Biblarz point out, our ideas of what dads do and provide are based primarily on contrasts between married-couple parents and single-female parents: an apples-to-oranges exercise that conflates gender, sexual orientation, marital status, and biogenetic relationships in ways that a true comparison of parent gender—one that compared married gay-male couples or married lesbian couples to married heterosexuals, or single fathers to single mothers—would not. Most of the data fail to distinguish between a father and the income a father provides, or between the presence of a father and the presence of a second parent, regardless of gender.

Drawing on reliable comparative studies, you could say this: single moms tend to be more involved, set more rules, communicate better, and feel closer to their children than single dads. They have less difficulty monitoring their children’s whereabouts, friendships, and school progress. Their children do better on standardized tests and have higher grades, and teenagers of single moms are actually less likely to engage in delinquent behavior or substance abuse than those of single dads. Go, Murphy Brown.

Like any other statistical analysis done to conduct a “study” to support a blue-pill meme to reinforce the Matrix of today’s Brave New World Order, one can manipulate statistics to support any half-baked, social theory they would like.

She cites research that compares children who come from Single Mother homes to Dual Parent Homes as an “apples and oranges” comparison and then proceeds to make outlandish statements purporting to show the superiority of single mothers in comparison to single fathers. Yet to say this is an apples-to-apples comparison is ludicrous.

Single Mothers are far more likely to have the resources provided for her by alimony, court ordered child support and a welfare state designed to subsidize her status as a single parent, giving her much more time on a day to day basis to spend with the children. Single Fathers are far less likely to have alimony, child support, or welfare state assistance (ever heard of a single Father with full custody applying for and receiving WIC benefits? The title of the program itself should give you a clue: WOMEN, Infant and Children.)

It is far more likely that Single Fathers will have to work to provide for their children, which certainly means far less time to monitor, parent and just spend time with the kids. Single Father’s are much more likely to have to depend on extended family members or paid day care and after school programs to raise their kids while they work full time to make ends meet.

Furthermore, on sheer numbers alone, the number of single Father households with sole custody of children in comparison to those of single Mother households makes this so-called apples-to-apples comparison disingenuous. According to the *Wikipedia page for Single Parent:

In 2006, 12.9 million families in the US were headed by a single parent, 80% of which were headed by a female.

Ya think such a disparity in numbers between the two types of households would have an effect in analyzing the statistics? Nah….can’t let that get in the way of reinforcing the feminized mass media narrative that the primary role of the Father is to be the wallet to subsidize the REAL parenting that can only be done by a mother!

There’s also one more factor Mz. Paul utterly fails to mention…just because a house has a husband and a wife in it, does not mean it is a Male headed household.

There are plenty of households in which the Mother wears the proverbial pants and the husband is essentially another one of the kids subject to her absolute authority. His only marker for adulthood status in a so-called equalitarian marriage, is that of provider…to the lifestyle she desires to become accustomed to, in matrimony or in divorce.

Feminism preaches equality, but in practice, an “equal” household is one in which the Mother exercises all of the Parental authority. Mz. Paul makes that quite clear:

Fathers, roughhouse all you want. But we, gatekeeper moms, are in charge of the rest. We could give you detailed instruction, and you still couldn’t possibly do it as well. “Even women who want their husbands to help more with the kids don’t want to give up their traditional authority,” says Stephanie Coontz, director of research at the Council on Contemporary Families.

Traditional Authority? Whose tradition? I thought the traditional authority in the two parent home was the oppressive, abusive and overbearing Patriarchy that needed to be overthrown in the name of equality?

But here’s the real rub of it all…Mz. Paul is certainly correct that a Mother could give a Father detailed instructions on how to Mother the kids, and still not do it as well. Of course.

That’s because Father’s have a different, Gender specific job. If Fathers gave Mothers specific instructions on how to Father the children, she could certainly not do it as well as a Father…and that has nothing to do with “traditional authority,” but rather recognition of the truth that the Genders are different, and each brings a different aspect into the parenting equation. This is the complementary dynamic that children from two parent homes experience; a balance of the feminine and the masculine.

The primary problems associated with all the grim statistics President Obama recites in his “blame the men” Father’s Day harangues, is based on the feminist principle that the only real contribution Father’s make to raising children is material provisioning. This is THE lie of all lies. We Fathers have a role to play in nurturing and care giving and loving. We just do it with a masculine approach.

Which brings me back to Harmon Killebrew’s anecdote. Generally speaking, a Mother’s instinctive mode of parenting comes from a deep-seated biological need to have security and safety from a dangerous world. A Mother’s embrace should be the safest place in the world a young child should feel. The sphere of comfort and unconditional love all children should be fortunate enough to experience. A Mother’s imperative is to shield, protect and fight to avoid danger. To minimize or eliminate risks for her offspring.

These are all good things…but it is in the child’s best interest to have these things balanced out by a Father’s masculine imperative to teach children how to navigate risks, assess danger, and to bravely face the fear of a dangerous world. You cannot accomplish success in any endeavor if you never emerge from the safety and comfort of Mother’s embrace.

As a Father, I’ve come to understand something profound – I cannot give a comparable level of affection and love to my child like my wife can. I won’t even try to do her job, she’d got that one covered well. No, my contribution is different. When the kid falls down, I’m not going to run over and offer comforting hugs, kisses and soft words of reassurance to stem the tears like she does. No, I pick the child up and tell ‘em to stop crying, your alright, let’s go. Of course, this is not say as a Father that I do not express affection at all. Hugs and kisses from Dad are important too, but the role of the Father is different from that of the Mother. A good two parent home recognizes the benefits of the divisions of labor, and lets that which is better at something, do it.

At 18 months old, my child was attempting to climb jungle gyms and ladders. My wife would immediately stop it and tell the kid “NO, stay away! Danger!” My approach? Let the kid climb while I stand beneath, ready to catch the toddler in the event of a fall from a dangerous height. Mother would have the kid never attempt to brave any heights for fear of the potential danger. As the Father, I let the kid fall from a small height, an unforgettable lesson about the Law of Gravity which cured the kid from being careless and less deliberate on future climbing excursions.

Another difference is the Mother’s nesting instinct versus a Father’s exploration and hunting instinct. This, I believe, is where the entire notion of helicopter parenting comes from. When a mother’s emotional state dictates the tone of the home, when her concern for maintaining an immaculate nest, and where all risks and dangers are to be avoided, you get sheltered children afraid of autonomy, independence or braving the outside world.

Another aspect is modeling the way in which you as a Father, relates to the opposite Gender, the Mother. If you understand how to avoid becoming just another AMC, your progeny should have a better shot at developing the social skills to relate to the opposite gender much better as they get older and begin to form relationships to make their own families. By not being an Average Married Chump, your boys will grow up with the example on how to deal with feminine emotional turmoil, and your girls will grow up to seek out men who have those same traits as well.

Fatherhood is about more than being a provider. It’s about balancing out the mothering to keep it from becoming smothering. If Harmon Killebrew had grown up in a single mother household, “DON’T TEAR UP THE GRASS!” may have kept him from eventually becoming a hall of fame baseball player.

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Turbo the Drycleaner July 27, 2012 at 11:37

“Most of the data fail to distinguish between a father and the income a father provides,”

is this woman serious?

does she really believe the only reason a father is there is to make money? that a wad of cash can make up for a father that isnt present?

dont most kids learn by kindergarten that money cant buy happiness (though it can buy freedom)?

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Troll King July 27, 2012 at 12:01

Nice article.

I don’t really have much to say, so here are some links:

The Overwhelming Maleness of Mass Homicide


Are Men More Violent?

An Awkward Engagement: Woman Agrees to Marry Man…After He Ditched Her in Aurora Theater


The Soapbox: Hey, Patricia Legarreta, Seriously, Don’t Marry Jamie Rohrs



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freebird July 27, 2012 at 12:12

Well harlot mom can dose Johnny with
Ritalin and set him in the corner,and put daddy in jail,so yeah, that DOES make her superior doesn’t it.
Alpha female among group!
With her lickspittle lackies.

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Highwasp July 27, 2012 at 12:40

Paying men to have sex with prostitutes would be much less harmful to society than paying women to have babies…

Single motherhood is now a major career option for any woman – this is in the face of overwhelming evidence of the positive social outcomes of marriage with both mom AND dad raising their own children… the family is the natural social unit we have evolved to live in. Tearing that apart is social suicide.

“Why continue to pay women to create social breakdown? It makes less sense than it would to pay men to visit prostitutes to further their corresponding natural inclinations. Nobody in their right mind would suggest such a thing, of course; but the social implications would be incomparably more benign than subsidizing women to have children”.
- Steve Moxon – The Woman Racket-

Why? well apparently social break down is good for growing a Gov’t. Women (feminists) are the useful idiots naturally designed to facilitate that break down and the resulting Gov’t growth. It’s a growth industry…

well, then it seems to me the less I have for ‘them’ to take, the less of a target I offer. The less I do monetarily, the less I feed the system which has shown it’s ever increasing hatred for me as a man and a father for the past 40 years.

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El Bastardo July 27, 2012 at 12:46

Great article! I deal with this all the time with my wife, I slowly, and patiently refute the small feministic ideas she has. Pointing them out so she recognizes them takes considerable time. Despite the acrimony this somtimes brings, it is worth it. My sons need me to show them what being male is. She often critiques me on not doing “her job” in parenting, and I remind her in the way you obviously would prescribe; I am a man, not a woman, I need to parent in that vein!

From the linked article I am not afraid of her idiocracy. The mere fact they have to pontificate so much about”feminist virtues” is proof positive to me they are worried about not “if” we break out of their “media blockade,” but when!

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Troll King July 27, 2012 at 12:47


I thought this was interesting and amusing:


So much feminist BS and hippocrysy.

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Crank July 27, 2012 at 12:57

“Drawing on reliable comparative studies, you could say this: single moms tend to be more involved, set more rules, communicate better, and feel closer to their children than single dads. They have less difficulty monitoring their children’s whereabouts, friendships, and school progress. Their children do better on standardized tests and have higher grades, and teenagers of single moms are actually less likely to engage in delinquent behavior or substance abuse than those of single dads.”

In addition to the issue of him being more likely to need to work full time, there is also another issue she fails to deal with. Children of a single mother are far more likely to have a stable, sane involved father (even beyond financial suppor), than children of a single father are likely to have such a mother. Face it, if a single father ends up with primary or sole custody, the mother is almost certain to be pretty fucked up, and that in and of itself is bound to take a toll. This compounded by the fact that these children were likely to have been subjected to custody by this totally fucked up mother for some time before she proved repeatedly how irredeeemably fucked up she is. Conversely, most of the children don’t have fucked up fathers (though there are certainly many), and those who do have fucked up fathers are almost never subjected to some period of primary custody by them.

As to the Killibrew quote, I was thinking last night about how my boys are somewhat lucky that way with my wife, as I was giving my son a golf swing lesson in our living/great room and was telling him not to be afraid to hit our $10k rug with the sole of the club. My wife let it go without griping, and puts up with a lot that way. But if she ever does, I’ll remember to say that I’m not raising rugs, I’m raising boys. LOL

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Crank July 27, 2012 at 13:07

Ooops, typo above in last sentence of my first paragraph. Should have read: “Conversely, most of the children in single mother headed households don’t have fucked up fathers . . .”

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Kyo July 27, 2012 at 13:23

Fathers, Barack Obama intoned in a 2008 Father’s Day speech, are “critical” to the foundation of each family. “They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.”

The President undermined fathers with this quote. Not with its content, but with the fact that in saying it he caused listeners to consider that fathers might possibly not be “critical”. That’s an idea that is so far from reality that it shouldn’t even cross people’s minds (But it’s very much desired to be reality by a certain segment of the population.)

@Crank – I’m not criticizing you, but couldn’t you avoid any potential disputes by simply not having a rug that costs ten thousand dollars? ^_^;

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Crank July 27, 2012 at 13:51


meh. It’s a big rug. Rugs in well travelled areas wear out. More expensive ones tend to last much longer. But, feel free to substitute “carpet” without any particular price associated. Most women would freak out if their kids were wearing divots in the carpet with a 7 iron. That was my only point.

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Anonymous age 70 July 27, 2012 at 14:02

Are men more violent? Perhaps, but somehow at the end of the year the death toll is men 20,000 or less, and women over 1 million. The difference is women get to declare their murders to be legal.

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keyster July 27, 2012 at 14:30

My father felt as though his responsibilities began and ended with a roof over our heads and food on the table. And if you ever needed a ride somewhere he would usually take you, sometimes he’d pick you up later, but more typically you were on your own to get a ride back.

Most of his time off was spent drinking swill beer and watching the Phillies game…. Schmidt, Schlitz, Carling Black Label and sometimes Miller High Life when he was feeling a little rich. I can still hear By Samm and Richie Ashburn’s voices during the exhales of a deep snore; the occasional crack of bat on ball over the din of the crowd.

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Centaur July 27, 2012 at 14:31

This is a great article.. the kind of article I come to Spearhead to read.
I am a childless man at 40, by choice mostly, as I never found a woman that I could really trust enough to have a child with- too much power to hand to women. But if I ever do end up having children, this article will be on my mind.
Great work. Really

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Anonymous Reader July 27, 2012 at 17:03

Keoni hits a home run. The helicopter parent phenom now extends to college, where Mommy stalks her little darling by pouring over the roommate’s Facebook page. Pix of beer drinking? Wrong religion? I demand my child have a new roommate!

Years and years ago I was taking a history class and agreed to meet with a fellow student – an Army vet on the GI bill – at the library. His 2 year old child was with him. We sat in a small area near the entrence while the little boy clambered around on some furniture. At one point, the boy fell down. His father was sitting next to me, and looked across the area at the child. The child looked back. The man said to his son, “Are you hurt?” …. pause… “no”…”Ok. We’ll be finished here in a little while”. Boy goes back to climbing under a chair. Vet turns to me and says this:

I can tell when he’s really hurt, when he’s just been startled, and when he’s ok. If his mother was here, she’d have run across the room to pick him up, and he’d have started bawling so he could sit on her lap. That’s crap.

Children need fathers in order to fully grow to maturity. Period.

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Carnivore July 27, 2012 at 17:09

@KG – EXCELLENT article!

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The Whammer July 27, 2012 at 17:49

We don’t know what the full story is here. Rohrs may have been closer and so full of the gas and smoke that he didn’t know what he was doing. She was laying on the floor where there was less smoke. And why would he jump in his car and take off? In his smoke jumbled confused mind did he think he had to rush somewhere to help someone? But leave it to females to always assume that the man is somehow wrong.
I also notice she she has an infant with him but another 4yo from some other man. Just saying.

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The Whammer July 27, 2012 at 18:07

I don’t understand this

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Rob July 27, 2012 at 19:14

Good piece, HL.

The part where you are really going to come to the fore-front will be during the adolescent years. It is at that point where fathers really take over parenting from mothers.

Lol! When I was a teen, I was best friends with a preacher’s kid from my church. In retrospect, as an adult, I see how important some of the things that minister did were in developing both his children’s and his friends character.

One time, my friend got into a fight inside the house with his older brother. My buddy was a pretty tough guy, but his older brother was bigger, and during their scrap he picked up my buddy and tossed him into the wall – leaving a nice big hole in the gyprock where his ass hit it. I tell you, that minister walked up to the two boys – and he was a wrestler in college and could bench over 300lbs – well, one boy went flying this way, and the other went flying that way… and then they spent the rest of the day re-drywalling the wall.

Another time – and I didn’t find this out until I was 21 and visited my buddy and his parents when they were living in a new town, and his mom told me that they “knew” – well, my buddy and I snuck out of the house to go to a grad-party, and we stayed out drinking and partying until about 5am… His dad woke us up at 7am and told us we were going fishing… and that’s all there was to it. We had to sit in the back of an extended cab pick-up for an hour and a half to get to the lake – hung over like the dickens – and then spent the day sitting in an aluminum boat, pretending like we were having fun, but looking at eachother knowing we both wanted to lean over the edge and hurl into the lake.

Another time, when we were 15, there was a potato farmer in our church who was barely scraping by and couldn’t afford to pay workers to help him with the harvest… so this minister came around with his vehicle unannounced on a Saturday morning (though he contacted our parents the night before) and rounded up all of my friends – with my buddy sitting there with an “I’m sorry my Dad is pulling this” look on his face. We were “drafted” into working for free to help this guy get the potatoes in… and we worked hard, for free. It kinda sucked at the time, but whenever I go home, and I drive by that farm, I see that it is still owned by that same family, and I feel a sense of quiet pride knowing that back when I was fifteen, I was forced into labour by my buddy’s dad, and that we helped that family establish themselves.

Fathers have an entirely different view of parenting, and it is extremely valuable to both boys and to society.

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ActaNonVerba July 27, 2012 at 23:36

I could only think of two things about Mz. Paul while reading this.

1) Misandry, misandry, misandry.

2) (sorry to be so sill) The South Park “Fishsticks” episode (because her name is Mz. Paul). I guess Pamela Paul would be Kanye in this reference (humorless, wildly inflated sense of self).

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bulldogo July 28, 2012 at 00:19

That is an excellent anecdote. I have always been the same with my kids. I can tell the difference instantly from the way they cry out, their facial expression or the body language. Men know these things because they are men. The sooner society re-learns this the better for our society.
I’m not holding my breath but.

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ThousandMileMargin July 28, 2012 at 02:18


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Gamerp4 July 28, 2012 at 04:32

“Drawing on reliable comparative studies, you could say this: single moms tend to be more involved, set more rules, communicate better, and feel closer to their children than single dads. They have less difficulty monitoring their children’s whereabouts, friendships, and school progress. Their children do better on standardized tests and have higher grades, and teenagers of single moms are actually less likely to engage in delinquent behavior or substance abuse than those of single dads. Go, Murphy Brown.”

Tell that to the statistics they seem to not going the same line as this lady does, Well a woman name Jenny Erikson doesn’t think so she thinks “hildren of Single Moms Are Worse Off” well I bet she must be “Anti-woman” because she is clearly Re- invoking patriarchy (Well when ever a male says something that involves woman, Feminists will eventually jump in with words like “Invoking Patriarchy”) but leaving that aside studies have also found out that “Single Moms Entering Midlife May Lead to Public Health Crisis, Study Suggests” I hope they do a study on “Single Dad” too, well that not gonna happen YAH! who cares about “Dad” “Father” “Men” “Boys”, we as a society are here for “Mom” “Mother” “Women” “Girls” those pesky single dads can live well because they are privileged males.

Beside that One single MOM is crying over a senator who claimed that “Single Parent” (More link Single mom you dimwit) on welfare is child abuse

Its not child abuse its tax payer’s being abused, who is paying welfare you dumb fudge.

Another “Study” shows that “Mothers Who Breastfeed Often Viewed as Less Competent Than Other Women, Study Finds” and they wont be hired by COMPANIES, if they breastfeed their children, it doesn’t matter if its good for the CHILDREN and MOTHER, if they want work, jobs & career they have to stop Breastfeeding. (I love it) http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/04/110415104546.htm

And Another “Study” found that Working Moms Feel Better Than Stay-At-Home Moms, well absolutely it is refreshing to see that come by but wait whats that ANOTHER “Study” showing Less Depression for Working Moms Who Expect That They ‘Can’t Do It All’ and when reading this vile “study” you would find this quote

“A new study shows that working mothers who expressed a supermom attitude that work and home lives can be blended with relative ease showed more depression symptoms than working moms who expected that they would have to forego some aspects of their career or parenting to achieve a work-life balance.”

Heheheh, Science today is a joke, the reason of posting all those studies was to let the reader know that what SCIENCE stands today, gone were the days when new things were discovered and new inventions were the topic, TODAY’S HOT TOPICS are Mother, Moms, Wife, Single Moms, & Women in general, which studies to take seriously you may ask but i would say NONE, they are all based on hypocrisy from the media and science in general NONE of these studies are conducted with pure statistical data that you can say “Proves their point”. Rest is upto you what you determine of their hypocrisy of studies, Note: None of studies conducted by science today concerns Men in general NONE.

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Stoltz July 28, 2012 at 06:59

Unfortunately, our society is one in which children are being raised as whimps, pussies, “scarried cats”, while the rest of the world passes on by.

I remember long ago in my youth, my Dad teaching me the lessons that only a father could teach. Lessons that at the time seemed course, cold, and harsh, but instilled in me the rigors of what lie ahead in a world where hard work, persistence, and a little sweat & blood made all the difference. I distinctively recall several times in which my Dad would pick me up from a fall and make light of the situation (he liked to make jokes to deflect the focus) – all the while, positioning my body to TRY once again.

Today’s kids – many under the tutolage of an “all powerful” single mother are missing these vital ‘lessons’, and are instead being taught a hug and a kiss and “I won’t let that happen to you again” are the better lessons to make our kids stronger. No wonder we have government bloat and a shift towards entitlement as problems that exist certainly aren’t our fault and we cannot be burdened with rolling-up our sleeves and making it better – heck, that’s the government’s job.

Thanks Dad. Rest in peace knowing you DID make a difference.

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freebird July 28, 2012 at 07:32

Hey,the article and comments brought back a lot of good memories with dad.
Even though it’s human nature to remember the bad easier,especially in light of all the ‘abuse’ hysteria.

Pops saw to it we were raised on a small farm like he was,until the ages of 12 and 9 for my brother and I.

Up at 3am to feed the calves,pressed into duty for relatives and neighbors during hay cutting season.Always had small motorcycles from 7 yrs and up.

Mother insisted after that time we move to the city,allegedly for a better education,but really so she could have a social life.

At least pops got his way for those most important formative years.

Later he did know when I was hungover,insisting upon over-greased eggs,almost impossible to consume w/o tossing.

By gosh,the old man did pretty good.
Funny how easy it is to forget these things.
Will be spending some time with the old man today,he’s 76 now and having real trouble coping with Parkinson’s.

Poor guy,mothers been ‘Oprah whipping” him for years now,he’s broken down inside from all the false abuse rantings.

The fact is: mother delivered a lot more unjust physical assaults.
If pops hit ya-ya had it coming,but ma,well she’s just plain nuts and BPD.

Frankly she’s got no right to keep playing the victim card.

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Highwasp July 28, 2012 at 09:17

I read that article and the comments. I’m happy to see the entitlement princess isn’t getting what she wants. Of course she can’t imagine what’s wrong with men – it couldn’t be anything to do with her attitude or the multitude of risks she brings with her.

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sunshinemary July 29, 2012 at 11:51

You have hit the nail on the head with this article, Mr. Galt.
You write:

As a Father, I’ve come to understand something profound – I cannot give a comparable level of affection and love to my child like my wife can. I won’t even try to do her job, she’d got that one covered well. No, my contribution is different

Yes indeed, but the “different” part is the problem for feminists.

When I was an undergraduate student, Marge Piercy’s “Woman on the Edge of Time” was required reading. If you aren’t familiar with this novel, it’s feminist fantasy/sci fi in which the main character, Connie, is a pivotal character in determining which of two alternative realities the future will hold. Of course, in the dystopian possibility, white men have all the power, have ravaged the earth, and the like. In the feminist utopia, all male/female dichotomy has been erased, including the words “he” and “she”, which have been replaced by the pronoun “per” (person). Babies are created in laboratories and raised by three parents, and men are able (and required) to breast feed. Connie is horrified at first by this arrangement, but she is told that this is the only way to truly create utopia and free women from their shackles, and allow men to “nurture”. Although not particularly well-written in my opinion, this book is considered foundational work in feminist literature.

So, the different way that men nurture is not even considered to be nurturing in feminist theory; only the ways in which females nurture their offspring is valid, and men must be forced to be mothers (of course, in the book, the men all like being mothers).

Great article!

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ElectricAngel July 29, 2012 at 21:25

Great article, HL, but one quibble. Do NOT give in to the nuts on this point: gender applies to language (masculine, feminine). For instance, “Another aspect is modeling the way in which you as a Father, relates to the opposite Gender, the Mother. ” You ought to write “Another aspect is modeling the way in which you as a Father, relate to the opposite sex, the Mother. ”

It drives me out of my mind when a form demands that I identify gender, which gender theorists will tell you is a continuum, as a binary “male” or “female” option. Cultural Marxists use confused language to hide their agendas. We need not to.

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universe August 3, 2012 at 09:29

Just found the time to read Mr. Galt’s article.
A well intentioned and thought out piece. Good writing such as this example above should be awarded with ‘job well done’ status.

No convenient time to cite my reasons for writing praises other than than to say that the author extrapolates several key main points with the data he provided such that the entire article speaks clearly well enough for itself. A good example of moving forward.
Good choice W.F.

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