It’s a Sunday, so I thought I’d highlight one of the recent trends in “Christianity,” which involves belligerent, white knight pastors belittling men in their churches. If you really want women (perhaps including your wife) to see you treated like a contemptible wuss, church is just the place for that.
Any man who would put up with the following tirade and not get up and walk out, never to return, has absolutely no self-respect:
Shaming men in front of women is about as nasty as it gets, and a pretty effective demoralizing tactic (if a woman you are with ever sets you up in that manner, e.g. invites some man to humiliate you in her presence, leave her immediately and decisively) that’s all but guaranteed to make men less attractive in the eyes of any present women. Pastor Mark Driscoll and his confederates may say that the message is intended for men, but that’s obviously not entirely true. He wants the women to support him, because they are the bread and butter of the church, and knows full well that they witness him treating the men in this manner. I’m sure there’s a calculation in there somewhere.
The bottom line is that going to churches where you’re berated for being a man makes you less attractive to women. It’s a toxic culture for men who want the women in their lives to respect them, which is a condition for a woman’s love, and probably contributes to the sky-high divorce rate in Evangelical churches. In fact, although you’d never hear it come out of these preachers’ mouths, what they are really doing is providing an apologia for adulteresses. I’d give them the benefit of the doubt and suggest that in many cases they are not aware of this, but just as ignorance is no excuse in a secular court, according to their deity it provides no defense for sin, either; especially not for preachers:
And that servant, which knew his lord’s will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes.