By Matt Forney
Remember how when you were a kid, you couldn’t wait to be a adult? Usually after your parents made you go to bed early, refused to buy you candy at the checkout line or made you sit in the corner after you were being a brat.
“When I’m all grown-up, I’m gonna do whatever I want! I’m gonna stay up all night, I’m gonna eat candy every day and you won’t be able to do anything about it! Nyah-nyah!”
From the perspective of a child, being an adult is about freedom. Freedom to do what you want and act out without consequences. Being a kid sucks, constrained by all these rules. Do your homework, pay attention in class, don’t pull your sister’s pigtails, don’t eat anything before dinner, don’t stay up too late, yadda yadda yadda.
Then you actually grow up and realize that it sucks.
You’re no longer bound by all these rules, but you now have responsibilities, and there’s no one to protect you from the consequences of your own stupidity. You can stay up as late as you want… and suffer the effects of sleep deprivation the next day when your insides feel like mincemeat and you can’t stay awake. You can play video games all day… until you realize you have to get a job to pay for those video games, your rent, your food and everything else. You can eat candy every day… until you balloon up by a hundred pounds and get diabetes.
Only children think being a grown-up is fun and games. It’s more about work and struggle than anything else. Children may fantasize about growing up, but adults fantasize about being children again, with all its carefree fun and having someone else take care of you.
I was thinking about this the other day and realized that feminists view the role of men in a patriarchal society in the exact same way children view adults.
“Wah-hah! Men have all the freedom and it’s not fair! They get paid more, they can vote, they can sleep around, they can do anything they want! Waaah!”
Like kids crying about how unfair it is that they have to be in bed by 9:00, feminists completely ignore the flipside of masculine privilege: masculine responsibility.
Yes, men on average make more than women. That’s because men are more likely to choose careers that are dangerous, physically demanding and/or intellectually demanding. While I was driving to Barnes & Noble to write this article, I got held up at an intersection by a construction team re-paving the road. Out of about two dozen workers, I spotted just one woman, and all she was doing was directing traffic. All the workers doing the grunt work were men.
Yes, men can sleep around with fewer repercussions than women. That’s because promiscuous men are more able to form lifelong bonds and successful marriages than promiscuous women. It’s also because the mechanics of childbirth mean that a woman who cheats on her husband/boyfriend can burden him with a child that is not his, without his knowledge.
Yes, husbands have greater personal freedom than wives. That’s because as the head of the household, they’re responsible for safeguarding her and the children.
The freedom to do anything you want also comes with the burden of having to own your mistakes.
We can see the consequences of the feminist conception of freedom all around us. Ghetto dwellers and white trash with armies of bastards, each with a different daddy. Thirtysomething careerists desperately rushing to find a slack-wristed “nice guy” to put a ring on it before their ovaries shrivel up. “Liberated” girls who think guys are attracted to their trashy tattoos and bad attitudes.
Didn’t anyone tell you girls that eating candy every day is a bad idea?
Now, I’m not arguing that women should be forced back into the kitchen en masse. I’m not interested in telling girls what to do. But as a certain wise blogger once said, choices have consequences. Women should have the freedom to do whatever they want, but they should also be told that their choices have ramifications and that owning those ramifications is part of being an adult.
If you choose to major in a liberal arts discipline, you’re going to make less money than someone with a STEM degree.
If you put off having children until you’re in your thirties, your chances of finding a good husband decrease drastically, as does the likelihood that any children you do have will have disorders like autism.
If you choose to sleep around, men will find you less appealing as a marriage/relationship prospect than more chaste women.
As much as you stamp your feet and cry about how unfair it is, that doesn’t change the reality on the ground. Life isn’t fair for women or men.
Women want the privileges that come with being a man, but they don’t want the responsibilities.
Part of being a man is being responsible and owning up to the consequences of your decisions. If something is your fault, you acknowledge it; you don’t slough it off on someone else. That’s bitch behavior.
Feminism is an ideology of the children, by the children, and for the children.
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