Lolo Jones has been in the news lately for her admission that she’s a virgin, and is ready to get married. I’d never heard of Jones, and although I’m not all that up-to-date on celebrity gossip and the like, I’m pretty sure she was fairly obscure before this startling revelation.
Lolo, it seems, has made marriage her top priority. At 29, she’s at the tail end of her career as an Olympic athlete, so this is pretty good timing. She also happens to be young enough, and definitely attractive enough, to land a pretty impressive guy. Add to that the fact that she’s a virgin, and Lolo is pretty well set.
According to an LA Times article, her declaration of purity has earned her enormous attention:
Interest in Jones, 29, has gone nuclear in the last 12 hours, after HBO’s “Real Sports” aired an interview with Jones on Tuesday night. In that interview, Jones talked about her dating woes, which she attributed in part to the fact that she’s a virgin — and unwilling to change that status until her wedding night. (Just for the record, the social-media savvy Jones started the conversation by Tweeting about her sexless status.)
“It’s just something, a gift that I want to give to my husband,” she says during the interview, which you can see below. “But please understand this journey has been hard. If there’s virgins out there, I just want to let them know, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Harder than training for the Olympics, harder than graduating from college, has been to stay a virgin before marriage.”
Although Jones may have blown her last shot for gold in the Olympics, one gets the sense that she certainly pulled off a major coup in the husband-seeking department. She may not have won gold as an athlete, but she will doubtless be seen as a trophy to be won by a considerable number of eligible young men.
What confuses me is the “sex-positive” advice women receive from puberty onward that encourages them to slut it up from a young age, when it is clearly a disadvantage in the nuptials game. If a young woman really wants to set herself up and pull the most impressive guy, keeping her pants on before marriage is a pretty effective way to do it.
Is it possible that women in general encourage other women to be sluts so as not to be at a disadvantage in the mating/marriage game? Given the choice, men tend to prefer virgin brides almost universally, so perhaps women encourage their juniors to be slutty so as to prevent future competition.