Valentine’s Day may be one of those manufactured celebrations cooked up by advertisers, but it has become a cultural reality nonetheless, and it can be a nice way for couples to show their appreciation for each other. However, in recent years people have lost sight of the fact that it is supposed to be a day of mutual appreciation, just as love is ideally a mutual feeling. Instead, the holiday has been infected by the princess syndrome, and women have come to feel that it is a special day all for them, and woe to the man who doesn’t put some major effort into making princess feel appreciated on “her” day.
While there’s nothing wrong with women expecting some token of love on Valentine’s Day, men who are in relationships should have every right to expect the same. Unfortunately, too many women see the holiday as a test of how much their man appreciates them, and rather than put some effort into doing something sweet, they sit back and judge the man for his effort and performance in pleasing them alone. This makes the holiday little more than another chore for most men, who know that although they cannot expect anything, they will have more work to do than usual come February 14th.
It doesn’t have to be this way. What men can and should do is ask, nice and reasonable, whether they will get anything for Valentine’s day. In most cases, I think wives and girlfriends will think about it and make some effort to please the man. If, however, she refuses and says something along the lines of “that’s your job,” then the man shouldn’t put any effort into the holiday at all. Don’t make any plans, don’t try to pamper her, and don’t waste time or money. Additionally, start thinking about getting another woman. A selfish attitude concerning love on love’s holiday is a very bad sign.
So, those who have women in their lives should think about what they deserve for Valentine’s Day, and not be ashamed to ask for it. The only way men and women in our society are going to come to terms with each other is if they learn to return each other’s favors. Men in the West have this down pretty well, but our women could use a reminder, and that’s up to us.
Readers out there with women in their lives should put this into practice today. They might find that, rather than offended, their women will be pleased and stimulated by the request, and their Valentine’s Day will be far more pleasant than it would have been otherwise.