It’s probably confusing for a lot of people to hear that Christianity has essentially become a female sect, because for years we’ve been hearing about how awfully patriarchal and sexist Christian denominations (and other Abrahamic religions) are, and how the religion is a tool used to subjugate women. Given that churches are now about as female as college campuses (about 60%), folks must be scratching their heads and wondering what happened.
Many of the men writing on this issue, including Dalrock and Elusive Wapiti, are Christians themselves, and they’ve done a great job exposing the rampant man-bashing in contemporary Christianity. Dalrock recently pointed out how Christians even go so far as to excuse female-initiated divorce for trivial reasons, and cannot boast any more success in keeping families together than secular society.
So what’s the deal here? Why have Christians failed so miserably across the board in their sacred duty to uphold the sanctity of matrimony and prevent dissolution?
What’s happening is that Christianity has become an industry of sorts, and it caters to its consumers, who are overwhelmingly female. As wealth has transferred to women, who are the biggest discretionary spenders in the US by a wide margin, churches and preachers have turned to supplication to earn their daily bread. Supplication for women is probably the defining service performed by Evangelicals, who make a tidy profit from the practice, the basis for which can be found in James 5:
13 Is any among you afflicted? let him pray. Is any merry? let him sing psalms.
14 Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord:
15 And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him.
16 Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
The tipping point for Christianity in the US likely occurred when supplication became the church’s most profitable enterprise (as opposed to a backwoods hustler’s game), or at least when aspiring young preachers realized what success it could bring them. From there on out, a more female-oriented faith was inevitable.
If preachers had merely stopped there, it would be bad enough, but in their eagerness to please female congregants they’ve taken things a step farther, and many have progressed to the kind of outright man-bashing and shaming one would normally expect from a lesbian apostate such as Mary Daly.
They’ve gone from forgiving women’s sins, faith healing and praying for money to playing the part of a drill sergeant for husbands, who, as we all know, will never be quite good enough for wives, guaranteeing plenty of work for the energetic preacher.
Pro-Male Anti-Feminist Tech, one of my favorite bloggers (he wrote the infamous “War on Science Fiction and Marvin Minsky” article that helped launch The Spearhead into some renown), has been doing some investigation into contemporary churches, finding that church is fertile grounds for women seeking a particular kind of husband. Of course, PMAFT’s mission will likely upset more than a few Christians, but what he has found should be of considerable interest to Christian men, even if it may not be music to their ears.
As Christ Himself said:
15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.
So, it would be rather foolish for believing Christians to snuff out the light of truth that exposes what’s going on in houses of God, even if what they see does not please them. With that in mind, let’s see what exactly is happening in church today (excerpt from “The (Not) Virgin From The Sunday Morning Nightclub“):
Many of you have been waiting to hear about my Sunday Morning Nightclub (aka church) exploits. Your wait is over. I have been investigating various Sunday morning nightclubs here in the DC area, many of which are Sunday afternoon nightclubs, since the latest mass on Sunday is the best for this which is often technically in the afternoon.
At one of the Sunday Morning Nightclubs, I picked up a hot chick. Let’s call her Molly. She’s in her mid to late 20s and obviously one of those women who decided to go back to church to look for a husband chump to marry. Thus picking her up was not difficult. We were having coffee (technically I don’t drink coffee, but that’s beside the point), and Molly tells me that she is a virgin and waiting to have sex until she is married. She wanted to be clear upfront so there’s no miscommunication down the line. I could tell Molly was full of BS on being a virgin, so I called her on it. She admitted I was right. What she’s really trying to do was “makeover” her life by taking morality “more seriously” so she’s going to wait until marriage for sex now.
I told her I was fine with this for several reasons. Many of you are wondering why because doesn’t this mean she won’t put out? She will put out, and it won’t be long before she does. I’m not even going to push the issue of sex. I am going to wait for her to beg me for it. I will not be waiting long. This way I will be able to show you how women who go to church in their late 20s/early 30s haven’t changed. They are just desperate for a chump before their looks fade…
Clearly, Molly has decided it’s time to find a proper husband, who she intended to deceive regarding her chastity. Why church? Because she knows that church is where men receive training regarding how to behave as husbands. Additionally, she knows that churches no longer treat marriage as a contract between those who enter into it and God, but rather a contract between the parties themselves, with God (whose advocate is the preacher) as the judge. And, as in family law, women will push the contract in their favor at every opportunity, resulting in ever more excuses for breaking it if she so chooses. As Dalrock has demonstrated, many Christian leaders will oblige her.
Given that most Western churches are funded mainly by women today, the situation is probably insoluble in the foreseeable future. As long as preachers are working for their mainly female congregants, they will inevitably begin to support the instinctive female tendency toward serial monogamy, and offer excuses for women who decide to leave their marriages for whatever reason. This isn’t really Christianity, but even preachers need to make a living, so there’s little that can be done.
If true Christianity is to survive, it may need to reintroduce some of the characteristics of the early church, including segregation by gender. Male-only services may be of some value, as would removal of women from the altar. Supplication for profit must be eschewed, too. It’s a tall order, and probably more than Western Christians are willing to take on. The future of Christianity in the Western world looks tenuous at best.