The Bachelor Aesthetic

by Featured Guest on November 17, 2011

A Single Man’s Only Refuge of Sanity

By Ken Knight

No need to write about how to properly beef up one’s “man-cave” domicile or basement chamber of freedom here, entire volumes have been penned on the subject elsewhere and with good content to boot. If one is single and living alone, then he has sole prerogative to customize the interior of his dwelling as he sees fit (but for those whom want to house exotic pets such as King Cobras in your den I suggest checking local ordinances).
Of course, I have known numerous single guys who just had to do the opposite and decorate their home according to what they “thought” visiting women might prefer to see on the walls, in the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom, which was something I had to chide them about whenever I saw such pandering to female aesthetic tastes by bachelors.

I recommend a total interior environment that is pleasing to only ONE man alone, the occupant whose signature is on the lease or mortgage! The prevailing idea of pleasing the visual and mediocre tastes of some femmes who happen to stroll through your domicile is about as stupid as buying a gas-grill you’ll never use to put out on your patio just because your neighbors all have one! A bachelor’s pad is just that….the home of a BACHELOR, also known as a single man living alone, a concept that is not seen as ideal these days because the Single Happy Bachelor is viewed as “suspect” by misandrists and mangina white-knighters alike whose rebuke of such a lifestyle is loudly trumpeted in the form of shaming rhetoric deriding the single bachelor as “irresponsible”, “loser”, “weirdo”, etc.

Living alone requires one to surround himself with a pleasing aesthetic interior specific to the man who lives there and has to enjoy what he sees every morning and night while he is inside his lawful domain: sports-memorabilia, baseball cards, autographed photos, work-related awards or past accolades, movie posters, framed photos of family, friends, and past glories, shadowboxes filled with the accomplishments of military or police service, a gun rack and maybe even custom furniture comfortable solely to the owner.

Married men….you know, those smug “I got mine” yahoos who like to insist upon walking you through their oversized cookie-cutter households to show you what you’re “missing out” on? Yeah, those indentured servants….surrender is the norm there, mostly the cupcake bride getting to pick what goes where, what queer color scheme is slapped on the walls and her hubby’s “man cave” possessions all delegated to either a dark and damp basement floor, a rental-storage unit out in Kansas somewhere, or the nearest dumpster!
Whatever you are “in o” fits in your bachelor pad domicile, and absolutely no one else should be allowed to convince you otherwise just for what “others” may “think” if and when they traipse through your man-cave, who cares who they are! Think about it, if someone is “offended” by something you have on your wall or in your living room which pleases you and is there for your enjoyment, then kick them the hell out and call it a day.

A couple of years ago I had a professional photographer and a female model in my home taking photos I wanted for use on the cover and back cover of a book I was getting published that year. The model saw the autographed 24×36 framed poster of Playboy’s 1987 Playmate of the Year I had on my bedroom wall and questioned me about it, saying she didn’t like it, asking what other women I had over thought about the signed nude poster framed inside my home like that. I just laughed and told her that I didn’t care what visitors thought about it, I was the one living there and that I enjoyed looking at such a pleasant female shape every day when such a “fit” lady is not so commonly found on the streets of America today. *Truth be told, I am an avid celebrity-autograph collector and have many signed photos framed on the walls of my home as part of my ‘aesthetic’ so it falls under the category of “hobby” and not just pornography!*

Regardless of what others may think of your bachelor pad’s interior and your own personal enjoyments, displays, and entertainment items spread throughout your domicile, ENJOY and keep a thick skin when it comes to any nay-sayers who think your “motif” isn’t female-acceptable! Gentlemen, we are currently deployed in a world fast on its way to formally becoming a Dystopia, with Feminism and its pink-bellied enforcers trying to goad free men in general into a more “pliable” form for their slave-labor tax base, and clearly the “culture” we are enduring is increasingly hostile to free expression of OTHER IDEAS, entertainment and personal aesthetics included. In order to remain free, all a single man really has to do is keep his personal tastes and ideals intact; the first boundary no one else should be invading is his household and what he has inside it.

I dare say we’ve all experienced the Indentured Servant mantra of placating women‘s tastes to the detriment of all you enjoy (just so your buddies will think that you’re “getting some”) and that is stir-fried bullsh*t with the kitchen knife in your back.

With all that is going on around us (as many of our brethren polish brass on the Titanic) shouldn’t we hold our tastes sacrosanct, allowing no outside interference to force us to give up such a personally-pleasing refuge so as to be devoured by the soul-draining insanity that stands outside our doors?

Ken Knight is the Author of “THE MIDNIGHT SHOW~ Late Night Cable TV Guy-Flicks of the 80s” as well as the zombie-apocalypse novel “DIRGE”.

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MRA November 17, 2011 at 05:39

My mom: you don’t have a plant or flower in your apartment.
Me: What I need that for?
My mom: Girls like that and it looks beautiful, the place looks alive.
Me: A big rottweiler barking all the day gives more live that any plant or flower and you don’t suggest that?
My mom:……

What annoying me is the way for push men to seek female approval:
-speak
-clothing
-apartment
-hobbies (specially video games)
-friends
-even family

and the list go on

I don’t see anybody demanding girls not being slutty, crybabies or Respectable toward male figure.

why I need a girl to judge my time playing Battlefield 3 when I don’t judge her for for shopping (somebody else money)?

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Zorro November 17, 2011 at 05:55

@MRA: Exactly and precisely. Women grow up being told that they “civilize men,” and other rot. They actually believe that they are soooooo much better at everything that goes on in a domicile. To reject a woman’s advice is apostasy to them.

Were I Roissy (don’t I wish), I’d say “stand firm and let her know her opinion means nothing in this bachelor pad!” Alpha the living shit out of her. You don’t like my autographed Playboy poster? There’s the door, Missy!

If she stays, she’s yours. If she leaves, good riddance.

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crella November 17, 2011 at 06:08

I never heard the term ‘man cave’ till we were looking for a house in the US. Am I wrong in thinking that it means the guy has been shooed out of most of the house??

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Skeptic November 17, 2011 at 06:17

I’ve lived alone in apartments for years now.
One of the greatest joys of my life is to have my place EXACTLY how I want it – wonderful to come home to.
It’s a damn site neater, tidier, better stocked, more functional, more personal and aesthetically pleasing without a load of female shit strewn around the place too – which is what I used to have when living with a woman.
Most women I know these days are crap housekeepers who I leave in the dust – literally!

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RD November 17, 2011 at 06:26

@ crella:

I never heard the term ‘man cave’ till we were looking for a house in the US. Am I wrong in thinking that it means the guy has been shooed out of most of the house??

More or less that’s how it works. A “man cave” is one room/area of a house that is solely the domain of the man. It’s a place the man’s wife “allows” him to house his hobby-type stuff and to decorate how he chooses (even though she often sticks her nose into it anyway).

Because, you know, the rest of the house is her domain and what she says, goes…

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Ken November 17, 2011 at 06:49

My own “Man Cave” is my ENTIRE Condo, since I am a bachelor living alone and content. Its true that the definition of “man cave” tends to be the weaker version of one room inside a married household (usually the basement!) where the husband can keep his “stuff” TV, etc. which I find abhorrant personally, but those are the “indentured servant” schmucks after all….let them eat wedding cake down in their tiny little rooms deep within cupcake’s dominion :)

~Ken Knight

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ahamkara November 17, 2011 at 06:50

Amen to this. I was so brainwashed during my marriage that it took three months after my divorce to take my ex-wife’s towel off of the towel rack in the bathroom (there was only one towel rack and naturally it belonged to the queen and I was not to touch it). The house is slowly evolving towards my tastes as I recover financially from the marital/divorce disaster, and for the first time in the seven and a half years I’ve lived in this house it is starting to feel like it’s actually my home.

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andrew s. November 17, 2011 at 07:07

I wish I had the touch to make a kick ass pad. I have the money, but not everyone can put together a cool setting.

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AlphA November 17, 2011 at 07:40

“Women civilize men” — Some Yenta Skank

Well, what the fuck do you expect when your daughters are brought up having that shit drummed into their ears?

There’s only one name on that lease lassie, and it ain’t yours.

Now go make me a sammich.

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Carnivore November 17, 2011 at 07:54

Ken
You are so right on with this article. And you married guys are skating on thin ice if your home – throughout – does not have signs that a man is living there. The man cave idea is a bunch of BS.

Also – if you are furnishing or redoing a room, take a look at different styles and feel free to do what you like. You can do something that looks cohesive – if you want to. As men, we’ve got literally centuries of male “interior design” history to draw from. Roman times, medieval castles, curly-cue baroque, classical revival, Edwardian, etc. – Frank L. Wright designed all the furniture for homes he designed. All these styles were created and designed by men. The idea that men can’t make a nice interior and need a woman’s touch is feminist BS.

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Charles Walbridge November 17, 2011 at 08:37

Does anyone else see the “man cave” as equivalent to servent’s quarters?

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MRA November 17, 2011 at 08:56

“The idea that men can’t make a nice interior and need a woman’s touch is feminist BS.”

yep, men are the architects, graphic design who give the best of the best.

-Cars
-Cellphones
-TVs
-Computers

etc…………………………………………

All design, built and developed by men.

Let me leave the link of these winners of a Ferrari competition
http://www.wired.com/autopia/2011/07/the-hybrid-ferrari-of-tomorrow/

just look at those babies cars, it’s no coincidence that all the winners are men, how many women competed? 0.

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andrew s. November 17, 2011 at 08:59

I always hated the term “man cave” as well. Whenever I hear a woman talk about her husbands “man cave” there is no doubt who is calling the shots in that relationship.

And the wives always have this shit eating grin on their face when they talk about it. “I’m such a great person. I allowed my husband to have a space in this house that is all his. He is so lucky to have someone as great as I.”

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Rocco November 17, 2011 at 09:09

And what is a womans touch? It seems to be the touch of your gold card in her hand. When a woman decorates, in my extensive experience they buy what is the most they can afford, including credit.

So, if your young

20′s….the futon shop.

30′s: Bed bath and beyond

40′s Fancy named stores like William Sonoma.

The point it they’re all in the mall….moo cow look like everyone else shit.

Women don’t have taste, they simply copy what they see in magazines or their friends houses, they have envy and jealousy, two serious vices that we don’t take seriously any longer as our womens spending lines the pockets of the PTB further creating indentured servants to credit cards.

My son lived with me until recently so I tried to make the appearence of a tween house, cool but serious, home work stuff about.

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Anonymous age 69 November 17, 2011 at 09:33

The first time I spoke out publicly on men’s issues was in the very early 1970′s. There was some feminist thing about who was the head of the family. Both men and women in my department insisted the husbands were.

I laughed my *** off. I told the men when I came to visit them, they would show me the lovely living room, with a fortune in fancy furniture, and carpeting, with no signs of them using it. Then, the kitchen with recessed lighting, beautiful cabinets, all the expensive appliances the wife wanted, nice vinyl floors (or whatever they called it them.)

Then, the bedrooms, also furnished to Her Majesty’s tastes at great expense.

If there was an extra unused room, there would be an expensive sewing machine, and all the related furniture.

Then, we’d go down to the basement to see his workshop. Back by the smelly furnace and leaky water pipes, in a place so bad the woman wouldn’t even go there.

He’d have a work table made of scraps of lumber from the neighbor’s garbage. Old chairs with one missing leg, patched up with two by fours.

One plug-in adapter hanging from a light socket, with a 60 watt bulb in it. An old oscilloscope he probably got from WWII surplus. Maybe a VTVM from the same surplus store. If he plugged in a vtvm he’d have to unplug the oscilloscope. If he plugged in a soldering iron, he’d have to unplug something.

Then, this studly hero tells me he is the head of his house. ROFL!

That is how it was 40 years ago. It did not get any better in those 40 years. Most of us live in the houses we paid for, as unwanted guests, period.

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Anonymous age 69 November 17, 2011 at 09:34

All divorce is for most men is formalizing their status in their own houses.

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Jack November 17, 2011 at 09:36

Good piece. Ken, I searched Amazon.com under Dirge and was directed to a book by another author. Searching under your name I found your book and placed it on my Amazon wish list. That model on the cover looks like dangerous sex. Was she the one who complained about the nude photo on your wall? It’s funny, the more I don’t treat women with my truth that I don’t give a damn about their approval the more they positively respond to me.

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Angelguy November 17, 2011 at 09:45

I’m a bachelor myself, and never even thought about decorating to gain the approval of women, or even men alike.

People should be able to put up whatever they want, regardless of what another thinks. With that said, Men who are married are entitled to have a man cave and not feel the need to cater to female opinion.

One should not seek the approval of women or other men, unless they sacrifice their approval of one’s own self.

Or in another way:
“fuk-em!”

Angelguy

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Ken November 17, 2011 at 09:50

@Jack~ the chick on the cover of DIRGE wasn’t the one who griped about my poster, it was the one who posed for my 2009 book
“The Naked Diaries”.
My novel DIRGE has already got me some hate mail over the political/cultural jabs I included in the storyline. Enjoy! :)

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Donnie Brasco November 17, 2011 at 10:06

I was going to limit my usage of women to that of a nice meat hole, but I concluded even that is too risky. Now I try to avoid western women altogether. Decades of child support can ruin a man’s life. STDs can ruin a man’s life. A False rape claim can ruin a man’s life. Also, women have disproportionate support from the courts and law enforcement thanks to traitorous manginas. Nearly every man I know who is living with a wife or gf is miserable. Nearly every man I know who does not have a wife or gf has a higher quality of life-or at least appears to be happier. From my observations, men’s quality of life usually decreases after long stints in relationships.

I will stay single, stay free, and live alone.

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Eric26 November 17, 2011 at 10:33

You can be proud of being single, independent and secure without despising those that are coupled. I know lots of couples that never rub their relationship in my face. In fact, I often forget that they even have spouses.

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Vortac November 17, 2011 at 10:53

“I recommend a total interior environment that is pleasing to only ONE man alone, the occupant whose signature is on the lease or mortgage!”

So if a friend comes by and happens to like it as well, you must change it?

- Vortac

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Vortac November 17, 2011 at 10:57

“Living alone requires one to surround himself with a pleasing aesthetic interior”

Does it now? I disagree. Your sentiment sounds very materialistic. Living alone does have certain requirements, but I always thought ‘surrounding yourself’ (or NOT surrounding yourself) with ‘a pleasing aesthetic interior’ was more like an OPTION than a REQUIREMENT.

Maybe a quote from Bruce Lee might say it better than I can.

“The poorer we are inwardly, the more we try to enrich ourselves outwardly” (I am paraphrasing though)

- Vortac

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Bryan November 17, 2011 at 11:01

So did anything happen after you told her that you didn’t care about what she or anybody else thought of your poster and that you were going to live your life your way?

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Bryan November 17, 2011 at 11:05

My mother spent about 80 dollars on a bathroom floor mat and then yelled at me when I got water on it, apparently it was not to get wet, it was not there for people to dry their feet on when they were done showering, it was there to be seen and appreciated.

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Bryan November 17, 2011 at 11:07

If a realtor ever tells you something along the lines of “this room could make a great man cave” you should probably say something along the lines of “the whole house is my man cave.”

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Common Monster November 17, 2011 at 11:41

The first time I spoke out publicly on men’s issues was in the very early 1970?s. There was some feminist thing about who was the head of the family. Both men and women in my department insisted the husbands were.

I laughed my *** off… (Anonymous age 69)

You’re probably one of the few who knows the TV show “Father Knows Best” was satire back about the time when it aired. The revisionist herstory now is that it was some sort of documentary about a patriarchal wet-dream.

Ken, if women now qualify as “exotic pets” (albeit part-time), be sure to check local ordinances first before admitting one for possible consideration for the position.

Also, there’s another single man’s refuge worth mentioning: his car.
Get one worthy of a bumper sticker with the Steve Jobs-ism “Make Cool Things”.

It’s one of the many things women will never be capable of doing.

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Ken November 17, 2011 at 11:50

“So did anything happen after you told her that you didn’t care about what she or anybody else thought of your poster and that you were going to live your life your way?” >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

She thought I was a cad but she posed for my book cover (The Naked Diaries) and was paid for the modeling job then she and her photographer left. I do like getting that “Oh, You’re one of those” looks from women now and then haha~ that snippy expression they give when they meet a non-slave! :)

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Rocco November 17, 2011 at 11:53

And don’t forget, the man cave is an ancient sanctuary. My grandfather, born 1897 had a man cave in my grandmothers house.

He smoked his stogies in there, had gross carpet a couch and a lazy boy. Us kids loved it in there.

The outside of the house was 1960′s version aluminum siding in bright Pink, the carpets were white and there were plastic runners where you could walk. The couches in her part of the house were covered in plastic completely.

But my grandmother would do anything for her family, never said an unkind word against my grandfather or father and made her own pasta from scratch, but her meat balls, I might be able to put up with a pink house for those meatballs.

Ah, to be 9 again.

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Rebel November 17, 2011 at 12:19

As an (very slightly) older man, I wish to make a recommendation to single young studs about the way the dwelling is “decorated”.

First of all, it is not very wise to have a single woman inside your apartment or house: you never know what she might do to kick you out of your own house. (don’t laugh: it happens a lot). Not counting possible accusations.
If you want to fuck, take her to a motel.

But if you are a maverick and like to take chances, risks, then at least do not make your apartment appealing to them.

Rationale: if the female in your apartment (the one you wish to fuck) likes your house too much, she might decide it must somehow belong to her: she will feel entitled to kick you out and steal your stuff, with the generous help of the “law”.

My advise to you, young guys, is to make your place unattractive to women. Decorate it with male artifacts.

Hint: I have a dozen sabres, daggers and swords on the walls, a large (copy of) Rodin’s “Le Penseur”, two huge cacti and lots of electronics, plus about 500 books and DVD’s.
Uncomfortable seating arrangements (wooden chairs).
It does not look like a “love nest” at all, being furnished in a rather Spartan way.
People tell me that it smells like a male lives here…Hohohoho!!!

DO WHAT YOU WILL!

And do not give a damn about what people say or think about you.

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Wobbegong November 17, 2011 at 13:53

Nice!

When I bought my 580 sq foot shack on a 1/4 acre a year ago, the first thing my mum said was. “where’s the woman going to stay” ‘What woman?’ said I. I then went on to explain that she can stay a night or two then she goes. If I let her move move in then less than 2 years later I’ll likely have no house and be 100grand poorer. I love the bachelor life!

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Bryan November 17, 2011 at 14:00

I’m almost at a point where I would need 580 square feet of space just to store my ammunition.

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criolle johnny November 17, 2011 at 14:58

I taught a class on a military base for two years. I stocked the bookshelves in my classroom (out of pocket!) with books that I thought every GI should read. “Cultural Literacy, Hirsch”, topped the list, followed by “Starship Trooper, Heinlein”. I had “The Free Citizen, Theodore Roosevelt” among others on the shelf.
One of the VERY FEW female students complained that she was “offended” by the selection of books because it seemed slanted toward a male perspective.
I offered to let her include any books which she felt like purchasing WITH HER MONEY … crickets.
The point was that the bookshelf (like the class) was designed for young MEN who were headed into combat. I thought they should have an idea of the culture and society that sent them out into harm’s way.
She, for the life of her, could not understand why more women were not included on that list.

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GS Jockey November 17, 2011 at 15:12

@ Common Monster:

Also, there’s another single man’s refuge worth mentioning: his car.
Get one worthy of a bumper sticker with the Steve Jobs-ism “Make Cool Things”.

Or, get a personalized license plate like mine: “MGTOW.”

GS Jockey

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DCM November 17, 2011 at 17:40

I quit living with females or even dating by the time I was 30. That was almost 40 years ago.
I inherited this house, so I didn’t even have to buy it.
I don’t bring females here, not least because I only hire them if they’re operating in a “massage parlor” or “modeling studio”.
It’s very relaxed and sometimes I don’t clean anything for months. besides, my dogs go in and out as they please and I’ve found dead cats and possums in the livingroom on occasion. They keep vermin off my property (which is fenced).
I am so used to living by myself I’d rather have a robot than a maid.

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crella November 17, 2011 at 17:45

‘the carpets were white and there were plastic runners where you could walk. The couches in her part of the house were covered in plastic completely.’

Eeeeek! You just described my grandmother’s living room :-D

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fmz November 17, 2011 at 17:46

I chortle haughtily when wimminz whine about my pad. Get a life biatcheese.

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Gilgamesh November 17, 2011 at 17:47

Why do women need to visit your bachelor pad in the first place? Wouldn’t it be easier to leave her house when you’re done than try to kick her out of yours?

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crella November 17, 2011 at 17:48

‘My mother spent about 80 dollars on a bathroom floor mat and then yelled at me when I got water on it’

This thread is killing me! Bryan, does your mother also have Towels of Doom, that you get killed for drying your hands on? I mean, it’s just surreal….dry your hands on the towel that’s *on the sink* and get ‘That’s NOT a towel to dry your hands on!” :-D

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chopsmith November 17, 2011 at 18:12

No hat tip?:

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2011/06/11/slow-expansion-of-topics/#comment-95838

Could’a sworn there were more + votes back then.

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Art Vandelay November 17, 2011 at 18:29

Also classics: The sink you have to wipe down after using or the shower cabin where you have to clean the glass after showering. It’s not made for using, it’s made for looking at.

Although I must say most females my age are messy, especially in the bathroom.

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Jack November 17, 2011 at 18:34

“I’m almost at a point where I would need 580 square feet of space just to store my ammunition”.

Classic.

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MSFM November 17, 2011 at 20:44

Thanks for writing this article.

In today’s feminized world, and that applies to virtually everything, a man’s home is one of the last refuges to escape the “pink matrix.”

Contrary to the female propagated myth that bachelors live like animals my home is clean and well appointed.
Furniture, artwork, all of it geared to my personal taste.
The entire place is man space. No cave, garage, or corner, all of it.

A few women “visitors” have commented, “Well, this certainly is a man’s house. It could use a woman’s touch.”

My reply; “Yes it is. You can touch your own home.”

They usually don’t like that one.
And…I don’t care.

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tiredofitall November 17, 2011 at 21:29

Other than a few missteps in my early twenties, the thought of living with a woman drives me nuts. An ex once had me sleep over at her place because and I quote, “You’re a guy, your place MUST be a pigsty. We’ll stay here at my place it’s just nicer.” Cut to her visiting me one day out of the blue totally without any warning.

She was f*cking stunned.

At her place; she had clothes strewn everywhere, dishes piled up in the sink for days at a time, and dear God…her bathroom smelled like Bigfoot himself showered there on a regular basis and topped off each visit with a healthy bowel movement.

Compared to my place; floors bare and neatly vacuumed or polished, dishes clean and put away, bathroom spotless and spartan with only the bare necessities, soap, razor, towels, washcloths, TP.

Right then and there I saw the gears moving in her head.

Somehow she was gonna make my place “ours”.
She gushed to me how nice my house was, and she was surprised at how clean everything was.

About a week after her impromptu visit she hinted about us taking our relationship to the next level i.e. us moving in together.

I shut her down easily enough though.

Me: “No, I could never sell this place and move in with you. It’d take me forever to clean up your place.”

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durandal November 17, 2011 at 21:58

One of the primary necessities and aspirations for all men is to acquire their own territory and establish unquestionable ownership over their domain. Home construction and maintenance are activities that every man should at least have some knowledge of and ideally possess hands-on experience in. It allows us to realize and reaffirm just how indispensible Men are towards the creation and preservation of our society and all its essential resources, infrastructure, and comforts that feminists take for granted.

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Bryan November 17, 2011 at 22:56

tiredofitall

It’s like a woman who has a D average, thinking you must be failing all of your classes, and then she learns you have an A average, and she suddenly wants to partner with you for a term paper.

They’re down low and they want to move up ever so slightly, even if it comes at the expense of men being dragged down.

A woman’s idea of sharing is pretty much a communist’s idea of sharing. You put 100 dollars in the pot, they put 10 dollars in the pot, if you’re lucky they’ll split it down the middle with you and then expect you to thank them for their contribution to the pot. Most likely they’ll take whatever they feel they have coming (which is usually all) and then denounce you for not contributing more.

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Bryan November 17, 2011 at 22:59

MSFM

You shouldn’t even say “you can touch your own home” you should say, “you can touch your husband’s home.”

I doubt any of them paid for the houses they live in.

Few women will ever buy their own home, they have control over their husband’s home and it becomes their home only after they throw their husband out (with the full assistance of the legal system of course).

Women may become home-owners, but they are virtually NEVER home buyers.

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Leos Tomicek November 18, 2011 at 03:21

TV is for the console, not for women to stare at it…

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nugganu November 18, 2011 at 06:10

I can’t imagine having to live like the fella who married the mother of my child. He has a child of his own, and she has another child from her first marriage. I don’t know if one man could manage to screw his life up more, all for the sake of pussy. He lives with three children, two of them not even his own, and her two children are from two different men. This guy must have to lock himself in the washroom just to have 5 minutes to himself a day.

I’m betting he doesn’t have much say in how the house is decorated. Then again, given the above, that’s the least of his problems.

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Bill November 18, 2011 at 06:28

The term “man cave” is classic misandric terminology. Most women I’ve heard using this term do so disparagingly, particularly when they help in decorating it! Well, it’s their term and their idea, I guess it’s fair that only they know what it should look like…

I’ve made it clear with my wife (and to her credit she has never insisted otherwise) that _every_ room in the house is “our room” and we both have a say in what it looks like.

Which brings me to the standard scene that happens sooner or later in every sitcom. That’s the one in which the wife is displeased with the husband and tells him that he can’t sleep in the bedroom and that he should sleep on the sofa. That scene has never occurred in my marriage because _every_ room in the house is as much mine as hers. If she doesn’t want to sleep with me, she is welcome to use the sofa.

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BeijaFlor November 18, 2011 at 08:49

Tiredofitall: “About a week after her impromptu visit she hinted about us taking our relationship to the next level i.e. us moving in together. I shut her down easily enough … ‘No, I could never sell this place and move in with you. It’d take me forever to clean up your place.’ ”

Oh, that’s classic! Beautiful!

Like using Ben-Gay where she wanted Love-Lube.

(PS – my own Man Cave is the whole fuggin’ house, too.)

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BeijaFlor November 18, 2011 at 09:14

@ criolle johnny, November 17, 2011 at 14:58:
“I taught a class on a military base for two years. I stocked the bookshelves in my classroom (out of pocket!) with books that I thought every GI should read. “Cultural Literacy, Hirsch”, topped the list, followed by “Starship Trooper, Heinlein”. I had “The Free Citizen, Theodore Roosevelt” among others on the shelf.

“One of the VERY FEW female students complained that she was “offended” by the selection of books because it seemed slanted toward a male perspective.

“I offered to let her include any books which she felt like purchasing WITH HER MONEY … crickets.

“The point was that the bookshelf (like the class) was designed for young MEN who were headed into combat. I thought they should have an idea of the culture and society that sent them out into harm’s way.
She, for the life of her, could not understand why more women were not included on that list.”

Oh my … how unfair … (smirk, snicker, chortle, lose it and start howling with laughter!)

So you’re saying your classroom needed a warrior’s touch.

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Carnivore November 18, 2011 at 10:28

“(PS – my own Man Cave is the whole fuggin’ house, too.)”

Same here and lovin’ it!

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Bryan November 18, 2011 at 11:05

Bill

I absolutely agree with you. A man should make it known, “I paid for this house, I work hard each day, and I want to wake up well rested and as pain-free as possible. If you are upset with me for whatever reason that you cannot stand to sleep in the same room with me, you’re welcome to go sleep somewhere else, because I am sleeping in this bed and nothing will change that.”

Any man that accepts being pushed onto the couch, in his own home, has basically surrendered his testicles to his wife. He’s let her shove him out of the driver’s seat.

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Joe Zamboni November 18, 2011 at 11:10

Thank you Ken Knight for this very insightful article.

I wanted to point out that some women are doing this take-over-the-house-stuff unconsciously, and that it’s up to their men to call them on it. Several years back, I bought a very fancy big house in the country. My then-GF expressed an interest in driving around with me and the realtor, looking at houses. So I let her tag along. I made it very clear to the realtor that this was my house, and that the GF was not going to be living there. I would hear nothing of the GF’s house hunting criteria; I would not entertain any discussions of us living together. All the criteria for choosing the house were dictated solely by me. That worked out well, and during the house hunting process, I didn’t get any drama from the GF, no bullshit about she needs this or that, why am I not catering to her needs as I should be, etc.

Years later I decorated my place with a lot of 1900s memorabilia including a lot of liquor ad posters. At the time she told me she didn’t like the posters. I challenged her on that, wanting to go deeper into her motivations. She could only come up with something to the effect that “they were advertisements, instead of pure art [art that's not commissioned by a business].” I told her that I thought there was something else going on, and that it didn’t matter if she didn’t like them because it was my house. Needless to say, I didn’t change anything in response to her comments.

Years later, after she did some deep and significant personal work, she came to realize that the reason she didn’t like the posters was the fact that she had no say in decorating my house, and that meant that she was not going to live there with me. At least she admitted it to me eventually. Whether this was truly unconscious to her at the time, or whether she was just hiding her true motivation from me because she knew I would call her on her bullshit, that will probably never be known by anyone but her.

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Ken November 18, 2011 at 11:16

@Bill~ I happen to like the term “man cave” personally, that’s all :) and since my entire home is MY cave, it’s a positive term!
@ Joe Zamboni~ you’re welcome! I figured there’d be plenty of bros on the same frequency regarding this subject.

Ken Knight

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Bill November 18, 2011 at 12:57

Ken – Any time you can take the opposition’s words and turn them around to your benefit, do it!

My problem with the term “man cave” is that it fits with the feminist myth that men are dangerous, violent Neanderthals who need to be limited and controlled. Typical counter factual feminist jargon, it flies in the face of the fact that men are the creative and intuitive geniuses of mankind, and are the inventors of its culture and artifacts.

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Manlyman November 18, 2011 at 17:03

I haven’t slept on the couch. Ever.

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Migu November 19, 2011 at 04:06

I always sleep on the couch. I like it better.

Oh and the entire house is mine. I bought it and I live with two bitches. My dogs names are Daisy and patches. One is a 120 lb hound dog and the other is a 100 lb wolf dog. They have their own couch, and they don’t give a shit thatbmy walls are decorated with fully functional firearms. Mainly muskets and civil war era revolvers.

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Gilgamesh November 19, 2011 at 14:46

Lol, I was going to ask why you were letting 2 women live with you instead of just visiting them, then I read the rest of your post :D

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djc November 21, 2011 at 04:46

Donnie Brasco November 17, 2011 at 10:06

” I was going to limit my usage of women to that of a nice meat hole, but I concluded even that is too risky. Now I try to avoid western women altogether. Decades of child support can ruin a man’s life. STDs can ruin a man’s life. A False rape claim can ruin a man’s life. Also, women have disproportionate support from the courts and law enforcement thanks to traitorous manginas. Nearly every man I know who is living with a wife or gf is miserable. Nearly every man I know who does not have a wife or gf has a higher quality of life-or at least appears to be happier. From my observations, men’s quality of life usually decreases after long stints in relationships. I will stay single, stay free, and live alone.”

Exactly the way I look at it.

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Perseus November 23, 2011 at 16:06

Brilliant post, and super fun comment thread.

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David K. Meller November 25, 2011 at 12:24

The points taken by Donnie Brasco, criolle johnny, and other men who have had a bad time with “wives”, girlfriends, and other nuisances in their homes are well taken, and long overdue. It is a pity that in our female dominated society that we too often have to go through hell, to say nothing of seeing other perfectly good men, go through hell, experiencing what happens when women take control of his home–to say nothing of the rest of what remains of his life–without warning. This article and its posts remind us that we MUST keep ownership and control of our living space at all costs!

A word to the wise…

PEACE AND FREEDOM!!
David K. Meller

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LadySadie December 3, 2011 at 20:51

Nicely said, Manly Men! I have do disagree on one thing, though…

Women can design spaces and be good designers. I went to school for architecture and while men excel at design, when it comes to planning functional spaces for multiple people, i.e. Families, they fall short.

While I do not believe men should be relegated to a man cave when it comes to interior design, I also think it is great to claim your private sanctuary in the family home as long as you’ve had equal say in the rest of the house.

Keep in mind, please that I am only referring to live-in or family arrangements. You singles do as you please, please! Your man home is exclusively your domain until you choose to share!

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