Feminist Writer Celebrates Her Inner Slut

by W.F. Price on August 2, 2010

Jaclyn Friedman, a writer who often provides an entertaining glimpse into the mind of a feminist, recently posted a piece, titled “My Sluthood, Myself“, in which she revels in her promiscuity, then suggests that girls should be taught that being a slut is OK. In fact, she calls “sluthood” “soul-fulfilling.”

We’ve featured Jaclyn before on The Spearhead, because she has a knack for spilling the beans and revealing what feminism is really about. Not long ago, she expressed distaste for feminist men, and then went on CNN to defend girls who were getting raging drunk, saying that the only concern should be predatory men.

Modern feminism, like Jaclyn, has embraced a cult-of self-indulgence, self-obsession, and solipsism. It is the celebration of the self as the most important thing in the universe, and a rejection of any duty or responsibility toward others. Hence widespread abortion, divorce, demands for privilege, etc. It would be laughable if it weren’t enshrined in law and enforced by agents of the state.

Now for a few quotes:

Last summer, I suffered the breakup of a relationship that I had thought would be permanent. Now, I’ve been through my share of break-ups, even of quite serious relationships, but nothing ever broke me like this one.

Since then, I’ve had sexual interactions of the orgasmic kind with 9 different people, none of which I was at any time in a committed relationship with.

Not too shocking. Seems to prove the growing suspicion suspicion that by 30 most urban women have racked up over 50 partners. How did a fatty like Jaclyn find nine guys in less than a year (approximately one per month)? Craigslist encounters…

I had never thought of my self as a Casual Encounters kind of girl. I’d read them on occasion, sure, out of fascination, horror, horniness. I’d even, once in a long while, in lonely desperate moments, posted an ad, not with the intention of actually meeting anyone, but because sometimes knowing you have a bunch of bad options that you’re rejecting feels better than feeling like you have no options at all.

Although it mystifies me, finding guys who like to bottom feed is never too difficult for a woman — even a fat feminist like Jaclyn Friedman!

Jaclyn goes on in some detail about her personal, intimate life (do any guys actually find that proper?), filling us in on details we don’t need to know, and then segues into a sermon about why sluts deserve support and protection.

I’m telling you this because sluthood requires support. Because any woman who indulges these urges carries with her a lifetime of censure and threat. That’s a loud chorus to overcome. A slut needs a posse who finds her exploits almost as delicious as she finds them herself, who cares about her safety and her stories and her happiness but not one whit about her virtue. A slut alone is a slut in difficulty, possibly in danger.

So what would she propose? A slut protection squad at every precinct, ready to charge in guns blazing as soon as a slut feels “endangered?” Sadly, we already have something like that, with police trained to take down any man who might catch his wife fooling around and get upset, thereby making her “frightened.”

The following passage shows why Game is so effective:

I’m telling you this because sluthood saved me. Sluthood gave me the time and space to nurse a shattered heart. It gave me a place where I could exist in pieces, some of me craving touch, some of me still too tender to even expose to the light. Sluthood healed the part of me that felt my body and my desires were grotesque after two years in a libido-mismatched partnership. Now I felt hot, wanted, powerful.

A lot of women actually like being slutty. It makes them feel “hot,” and if a guy knows how to present himself in a manner that makes her feel “hot” for having him, she doesn’t care about trifling things like modesty or shame. The Puritans held that women were sexually more chaotic than men, and were probably right. One opinion that seems to be taken for granted in the manosphere, with which I disagree, is that men are by nature more promiscuous than women. Besides the fact that every single time a man has heterosexual sex, so does a woman, which makes exact equality a mathematical certainty, there’s a difference in the nature of desire. For men, sexuality turns on and off; we’re either thinking about it, or not. For women, it seems to be more of a constant current. I guess you could call men geysers and women rivers. Sure, the geyser is more impressive when it blows off, but the river is always flowing steadily along.

Finally, Jaclyn issues a call to sluthood, for its liberating, healing and fulfilling powers:

Sluthood isn’t just a choice we should let women make because women should be free to make even “bad” choices. It’s a choice we should all have access to because it has the potential to be liberating. Healing. Soul-fulfilling. I’m telling you this because sluthood saved me, in a small but life-altering way, and I want it to be available to you if you ever think it could save you, too. Or if you want it for any other reason at all. And because even if you don’t ever want sluthood for yourself, you’re going to be called upon to support a slut. I’m telling you this because when that happens, I want you to say yes.

I don’t really care what Jaclyn does with her life, but on reading some of the many comments on her piece, which featured a depressing litany of women confirming that this was exactly their own experience any lifestyle, it struck me as a pity that her experience is approaching the norm in our culture. Can there be such a thing as innocence any longer? Does romance even exist in a world in which women empower themselves through random hookups with men they meet online? It seems that the finer sort of love is dead, and beauty with it, because a pretty face means nothing without virtue, honor and dedication to a higher ideal than feeling “hot.”

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Hughman August 2, 2010 at 07:05

Innocence still exists, but there are one of two problems with it.

It is possessed by Christian/other orthodox religious girls, and they start disappearing off the market at 16, and are nearly all gone by their mid-20s.

The other type is the naive/shy/nerdy girl, who doesn’t attract much alpha attention, but being female, refuses to settle for a beta. Her innocence is eventually mutated into jaded bitterness.

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The Man On The Street August 2, 2010 at 07:08

Wow! Epic entitlement skanks unite!

“I’d even, once in a long while, in lonely desperate moments, posted an ad, not with the intention of actually meeting anyone, but because sometimes knowing you have a bunch of bad options that you’re rejecting feels better than feeling like you have no options at all.”

So telling. She gets off by playing with guys. No intention of actually dating, just wants the “empowerment” high of rejecting men… Nice.

“Now I felt hot, wanted, powerful.”

Ah yes, and there you have it. she somehow gained (REgained, actually) the almighty power of the vee-jay-jay – over men. Wow. What a woman. Where can I get me one?

“Sluthood isn’t just a choice we should let women make because women should be free to make even “bad” choices. It’s a choice we should all have access to because it has the potential to be liberating. Healing. Soul-fulfilling.”

And what of the responsibility of those “bad” choices? Hmmm? So she wants that “liberating” and “empowering” feeling (read control) over men but, I would gather that she doesn’t dare mention that if you play with the wrong dude, you just might get burnt… OH wait, it’s that that “feeling” is just so worth it.

Of course, she can always fall back on the “I was wayped” when she no longer feels “liberated” and decides that it was a “bad” choice and must redirect the blame to an appropriate penis.

Truely sickening slag this one is…
TMOT

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namae nanka August 2, 2010 at 07:23

“The Puritans held that women were sexually more chaotic than men, and were probably right.”

Absolutely right.
fedrz’s post on the sexuality bit is quite good.

http://fedrz.wordpress.com/no-maams-greatest-hits/male-and-female-equal-but-different/

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MacArthur Of The MRM August 2, 2010 at 07:37

I find it amazing how cafeteria feminists deceive themselves. I’m talking about the type of women who refuse to believe that all leading feminists set out originally to destroy marriage and family. All the evidence is there. Cafeteria feminists find that too shocking to believe so they reject it out of hand. Same principle applies to feminist sluts. Cafeteria feminist write off slut-chic women as some sort of radical fringe of the movement and not to be taken too seriously. So they go on deceiving themselves about how great “real” feminism truly is. Women should never be taken seriously because they are so deluded.

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Zammo August 2, 2010 at 07:38

Females can behave in any way the decide.

However, actions have consequences.

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TDOM August 2, 2010 at 07:40

What she describes as the healing power of sluthood was once condsidered pathological. Using casual sex to achieve intimacy or feelings of power, or to feel wanted in order to improve one’sself-esteem was never consider to be healing. It was considered symptomatic of deeper emotional problems. This was considered true for men and women. I used to see this a lot with the adolescents I counseling for substance abuse issues, they used drugs to achieve the same thing. It sounds more like she needs to see a therapist.

TDOM

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namae nanka August 2, 2010 at 07:43

“Sluthood isn’t just a choice we should let women make because women should be free to make even “bad” choices.”

haha …. hahahahahahhaha damn! are the quotes even necessary?
plagiarizing globalman’s quote:Wimminz be stupid.

I even think that the poor girl hasn’t got the action that she’d have liked and is now rambling in order to let off steam. Feminist discourse makes for some very humorous study, until you realize that the shit they write has become dogma in current environment.

“It seems that the finer sort of love is dead, and beauty with it, because a pretty face means nothing without virtue, honor and dedication to a higher ideal than feeling “hot.” ”

So true, hence the focus on body more than on face, or even slutty look for face.

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DrDave August 2, 2010 at 07:46

A feminist who craves being touched? I thought they were independent and didn’t need anybody?

Talk about dichotomy. This woman’s on the One Way Lonely Train to Relationship Hell. And it’s all of her choosing.

Actually, I find her article beyond sad, pathetically sad to be truthful. I seems more so to be one big cry for help with occasional diversions geared toward justifying her rationalizations for behavior she finds neither fulfilling nor possessing the permanence she says she wants. “Hey babe, I slutted around and I’m proud of it, wanna have a relationship?”

Just when a person thought feminism couldn’t get more delusional…

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Uncle Elmer August 2, 2010 at 07:46

suggests that girls should be taught that being a slut is OK. In fact, she calls “sluthood” “soul-fulfilling.”

File this under “misery loves company”.

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DirkJohanson August 2, 2010 at 07:51

The real issue with sluts versus love is the distortion in the romantic marketplace.

To me, there’s no question a woman can be a slut and as loving, virtuous, and dedicated a partner as a non-slut. I’ve dated two hookers that were extremely devoted lovers, have encountered women who were swingers with their bad boys but wanted to stop once they found beta guys to take care of them, and once had a blind vanilla date with a hooker who spent nearly the entire dinner advocating monogamy.

The problem is with the sluts that can’t come to terms with settling until its too late, which leaves most guys out of the romantic musical chairs game while the sluts remain in their de facto harems.

BTW, from her early 20s to mid-30s, tubbo Friedman “dated exclusively women and trans men.”

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namae nanka August 2, 2010 at 08:00

“I’m talking about the type of women who refuse to believe that all leading feminists set out originally to destroy marriage and family.”

one of the leading feminist nation, sweden, did come close.

http://old.nationalreview.com/kurtz/kurtz200602220826.asp

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barbarossaa August 2, 2010 at 08:05

it shouldnt be a surprise that everytime a woman has an orgasm, she releases a chemical known as oxytocin. This is the same exact chemical released when a mother is breastfeeding. It turns out that the more men a woman sleeps with, the less oxytocin she releases. This is just biology reaffirming what we all know. The more slutty a woman is, the more likely she is to end up morally, spititually and mentally broken and bankrupt.

women must understand that all men want to do with a slut, is fuck them and throw them away, like trash. This is because they ARE trash. I personally dont even want to fuck a slutty girl anymore, it gets to a point that you realize that banging sluts is just as degrading to the man as it is to the slut.

thats all the west is anymore, a bunch of narcissistic self absorbed fools, engaging in a perma-orgy of self degradation.

MGTOW

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Gx1080 August 2, 2010 at 08:23

Dear Motherfucking God, what’s with women that feel the need to spread to the world their rationalization for being a hedonistic slut?

Is pathetic the bunch of women that want other women join their circle-jerking chorus of: “LALALA I can’t hear you, I won’t die alone with my cats or with a cum-stain of a man for being a slut, LALALALALA”.

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Common Monster August 2, 2010 at 08:32

As a slut, Friedman is a lightweight and sets the bar way too low. Nine guys in approximately a year is nothing. Nine guys in a weekend, or maybe even a week or two, would be slutty — even for someone as old, overweight, ugly, and likely personally obnoxious as she is.

Really, just about any woman who actively wants to give away free sex is facing zero competition, and certainly none of the resistance she wants to imagine. But, as Welmer astutely pointed out, she’s too self-involved to realize any of this.

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Rebel August 2, 2010 at 08:43

This, gentlemen, is matriarchy in all its splendor.

Those “useful idiots” are slowly but surely eating up our society.

There is no future with feminists. None at all.

Trying to salvage whatever remains from our civilization is futile.

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Anonymous August 2, 2010 at 08:43

Look at the ad that’s running on this article, for this site: It proclaims, among other pearls, “The world is a wonderful place but can be even better with women leading the way.”

I like the fact that it may be costing BraveHeart money to advertises on this site. Welmer, are they paying for this ad? If so, is there a way we, including those of us who have our own sites targeted at guys, can sign up for a similar program and code our sites so sites like BraveHeart end up wasting advertising money?

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codebuster August 2, 2010 at 08:56

Puritans held that women were sexually more chaotic than men, and were probably right.

Violation is crucial to understanding female sexuality. It’s the idea of throwing it away that lures a woman to indulge in her rape fantasies. The sexier she is, the further she has to fall, and the greater the thrill. For this reason, even a hunch-back, limping midget with attitude can get her off. Contrast this with men, for whom the idea of sex with a fuggly has no arousal value whatsoever.

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greyghost August 2, 2010 at 09:23

I wonder what this same writer would say to an article to young men. “Get all the pussy you can,you only live once”

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Nutz August 2, 2010 at 09:29

And then you’ve got all the actual quality women out there who wouldn’t normally be sluts, but due to the shifting gender dynamics in the sexual market place they have to step up and spread their legs, or so they think, or order to compete with the actual sluts enamored by articles like the one described here. Many women resent these sluts for putting them in the predicament they now find themselves in.

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cracker August 2, 2010 at 09:41

As if spreading your legs is somehow an accomplishment.

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Register August 2, 2010 at 10:13

This broad is an attention whore. She really needs to get a new hobby or volunteer in a war-torn country or something. Anything.

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Sister Y August 2, 2010 at 10:30

Slut stigma can be thought of in a similar way to the stigma labor unions place on scabs, or the stigma criminals place on snitches. It’s a solution to a large coordination problem, in economic terms.

Cui bono? Slut stigma allows women to command high social (and material) considerations from men. Essentially, it is a way of restricting the “free market” in sex, and limiting the market to mutual sexual output contracts.

Men who are successful enough to obtain exclusive sexual access to a female also benefit.

But lower-status males, as well as people of both sexes who do not desire a mutual sexual output contract, do not benefit from slut stigma – just like non-criminals don’t benefit from “snitch stigma.” It’s a way for a small subset of the population – entitled females and high-status males – to control the market in sexuality.

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Anonymous August 2, 2010 at 10:55

@ greyghost

I wonder what this same writer would say to an article to young men. “Get all the pussy you can,you only live once”

I wonder if she wrote anything at all about Tiger Woods.

TDOM

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Susan Walsh August 2, 2010 at 11:01

FWIW, my own sense is that all the women commenters who were moved to tears are in the same sorry state JF is in. I don’t think they represent all women by a long shot, but they probably represent a fair number of the young feminists treating sex very casually. Their tears are undoubtedly tears of relief, the “misery loves company” kind. Because what comes through most clearly in JF’s piece is how miserable she is. Looking for love in ALL the wrong places.

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Uncle Elmer August 2, 2010 at 11:06

Feminists seem preoccupied with slut semantics. Some of them have actually turned in phd theses on it. I have never heard men tweak about the nuances of slut classifications.

As for the fem-centric ads popping up, it’s either unexpected emergent internets behavior or a sinister plot by welmer to cap in on the phenomena of female hordes stampeding to a male discussion site.

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The Rookie August 2, 2010 at 11:53

I would support a Slut Protection Bill, so more sluts wouldn’t feel shameful. More poon for me.

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MacArthur Of The MRM August 2, 2010 at 12:24

30 years ago I lived in Germany (for two years). I had the time of my life. I loved European women. But the entire time I was there I couldn’t wait to get back to the states to be with American women. I was mesmerized by them. But thanks to feminism all that has changed.

Now when I deal with American women I click my stopwatch and count down to see how long before she confronts me with that “empowered woman/victim, you are obligated to feel guilty for the ‘plight of women’, all men are dogs, all women are saints, I pay lip-service to equality but I’m really a supremacist, rights are for women, obligations are for men, women are nurturers and givers of life, men are warmongers, men are afraid of losing their ‘male privilege’, get in touch with your feminine side, man up, you’ll never get laid with that attitude, all men are rapists, women have been ‘historically oppressed’, I have seen the future and it is definitely female, not all women are like that, because I’m worth it, I’m just looking for a ‘nice man’, wage gap, glass ceiling crap.

Ladies your stock is tanking. It’s time to get real.

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Jabberwocky August 2, 2010 at 12:36

One of the reasons I married my wife was that she wasn’t a slut. She says her number is 3, and the one who took her viginity is now a gay friend, so he doesn’t count. Whats the equation for women’s sex partner count, multiply by three? That would make it 3 – 1 gay dude X 3=6. I can live with that.

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Anonymous August 2, 2010 at 12:56

Nutz
” Many women resent these sluts for putting them in the predicament they now find themselves in.”

By predicament you meant devalued vagina.

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Chicken Little August 2, 2010 at 12:59

Nutz
” Many women resent these sluts for putting them in the predicament they now find themselves in.”

By predicament you meant devalued vaginas, correct?

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Agamemnon August 2, 2010 at 13:09

Jabberwocky
“She says her number is 3″
Women tend not to count the hand job she gave a mutual friend at the cinema, the blowjob at her co-worker’s party or the fingerbanging in the restaurant cooler. Your ol lady is the exception ofcourse.

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Anonymous August 2, 2010 at 13:55

I’m not Roissy’s greatest fan but ‘a woman aspiring to sluthood is like a nerd aspiring to social ineptitude’.

Quot Sister Y:

Slut stigma can be thought of in a similar way to the stigma labor unions place on scabs, or the stigma criminals place on snitches. It’s a solution to a large coordination problem, in economic terms.

In fact out-and-out whores (who put an actual cash price on it) are the scabs, hence the enduring, otherwise inexplicable stigma against honest-to-God prostitution in this social cesspool. Sluts are merely antisocial irritants.

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Avenger August 2, 2010 at 14:05

Welmer, why do you even waste space on this fugly 40 yo dyke? Females like this should be completely ignored until they eventually die.
http://www.friendster.com/photos/1279792/4026491/61119#pic=0402649161119

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trent13 August 2, 2010 at 14:17

Can there be such a thing as innocence any longer? Does romance even exist in a world in which women empower themselves through random hookups with men they meet online? It seems that the finer sort of love is dead, and beauty with it, because a pretty face means nothing without virtue, honor and dedication to a higher ideal than feeling “hot.”

So tragically and disturbingly true.

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DirkJohanson August 2, 2010 at 15:07

Jab wrote:
“One of the reasons I married my wife was that she wasn’t a slut. She says her number is 3, and the one who took her viginity is now a gay friend, so he doesn’t count. Whats the equation for women’s sex partner count, multiply by three? That would make it 3 – 1 gay dude X 3=6. I can live with that.”

Except on the likelihood of you getting HIV count, the gay guy counts as 1000 straight guys. Has your wife been tested?

Agamemnon wrote:
“Women tend not to count the hand job she gave a mutual friend at the cinema, the blowjob at her co-worker’s party or the fingerbanging in the restaurant cooler. ”

I would add that women also don’t count it when they charge for it. The night I met my hooker/ex-girlfriend, she said she hadn’t had sex in two months. She meant she hadn’t given it away free in two months, and several other hookers I’ve known – in fact, every single one with whom the subject has come up – look at it the same way. Jab, I won’t ask you another question about your wife.

PS I believe Sister Y has it opposite. What a shocker! I’ve little doubt that slut stigma pushes women to monogamy, which benefits the lowest status guys, who then either have no options except other guys – or Jab’s wife. (Sorry Jab. The material here was too good. At least I thought so).

Personally, I love sluts so much that I consider pelvic inflammatory disease to be a credential. But I gave up fucking fat sluts like Jaclyn Friedman more than two decades ago.

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DirkJohanson August 2, 2010 at 15:13

Actually, to be a little more precise than my previous post, I really agree with the Anonymous who wrote, “In fact out-and-out whores (who put an actual cash price on it) are the scabs, hence the enduring, otherwise inexplicable stigma against honest-to-God prostitution in this social cesspool. Sluts are merely antisocial irritants.” Its just that inserting “whores” for “sluts” in that P.I.D. line isn’t as catchy.

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Laura August 2, 2010 at 15:16

I wonder if this woman lets her mother read her articles. I can’t imagine she would be very proud of how her daughter has turned out.

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MacArthur Of The MRM August 2, 2010 at 16:25

Laura, Jaclyn obviously had no father in the home and her mother shuttled her off to daycare and TV Land. This is the price we pay for liberation and empowerment.

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Kave August 2, 2010 at 16:38

No guy could use “game” if it wasn’t for “sluts”.

Game sites attest to the power of banging women, in my opinion I don’t see the difference. If you’re going to slut shame then you have to game shame. I believe people have the right to do with their bodies with others as they see fit. I’ve been monogamous for 14 years or so, so I could very well shame others that are not like me, but I don’t see the need to.

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Epoche* August 2, 2010 at 16:55

much is to be said for social darwinism, this is the main reason I oppose the welfare state – on existential grounds. I seriously doubt that such behavior would be as widespread if it was not assumed to be the duty of the state to relieve people of burdens of foolishness.

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Racer X August 2, 2010 at 17:00

Yeah, you go grrlll! Own your sluthood! Grrlllpower all the way!!! There is nothing attractive about the diseased ridden vagina that a slut most likely owns. Take your choice: genital herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, syphilis, or whatever the STD du jour is (which usually causes a putrid smell). Oh yeah, plus whatever little chunks of fetal flesh may be floating in that liberated womb, left over from their latest abortion. Not to mention sluts are usually pretty fucked up mentally. Just scratch beneath the surface and you will find a self loathing creature.

Sluttiness is so lovely.

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Sherm August 2, 2010 at 17:07

Unreal, let’s get this lady a gig at scholastic writing childrens books and get the next generation of so-called women ready to slut it UP!

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Days of Broken Arrows August 2, 2010 at 17:16

Let me translate what this article really says:

1). I’m an aging fatass that needs to prove to someone that men actually find me attractive.

2). I’m Jewish and I fear and resent Christians, so this is my bid to mock and chip away at their values.

(As for point #2, I’m not saying all Jews are like this but this is the mindset of some, and it comes through in the media a lot, if you think to look for it.)

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Jabberwocky August 2, 2010 at 17:44

“Except on the likelihood of you getting HIV count, the gay guy counts as 1000 straight guys.”

LOL. Good point, however he was still in his “refusing to accept his gayness” phase at the time (High School), so he hadn’t been with any men yet. Apparently everyone thought he might be gay, but he never accepted it for himself until his mid-twenties. I am in the deep South. Stuff gets repressed here like God intended.

“Has your wife been tested.”

My wifes been tested for everything as she has Fibromyalgia, which is only diagnosed by ruling out everything else. One good thing about being a loser in love geek for most of my life is that I never worried about STDs. I assure you, if wifey had one, it would be a deal breaker. I’m not going to be horny and desperate most of my life and then marry into Herpies. Not gonna happen.

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Jabberwocky August 2, 2010 at 17:55

@Dirk-

I assume you put a tiny hazmat suit on your little spelunker every time you journey deep into the dark, damp flesh chasm of various ladies-of-the-night in search of the ever elusive female soul. Let me give you a heads up. No matter how thirsty you get down there, don’t drink the puddle water. Its contaminated.

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MacArthur Of The MRM August 2, 2010 at 18:08

Just like elections, slutting and gaming have consequences. This behavior doesn’t exist in a vacuum because there is a universal law of cause and effect that human nature strives to ignore. Imagine what the STD rate was 20 years ago. Now imagine the growth (pun intended) rate today. The trajectory is upwards. So ask yourself could an STD soon be playing at a theater near you. Be careful out there folks.

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Laura August 2, 2010 at 18:24

Racer X you bring up some good points. There are some very practical reasons why being a slut isn’t good for a woman. It is just an unhealthy lifestyle.

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sharpcool August 2, 2010 at 18:31

Kave:

No guy could use “game” if it wasn’t for “sluts”.

Game sites attest to the power of banging women, in my opinion I don’t see the difference. If you’re going to slut shame then you have to game shame. I believe people have the right to do with their bodies with others as they see fit. I’ve been monogamous for 14 years or so, so I could very well shame others that are not like me, but I don’t see the need to.

Slut = easy
Successful game = difficult

Women have the right to do with their bodies as they see fit, and we also have the right to criticize them for thinking that being slutty is admirable or empowering. Although it is usually the focus, “game” is not just about getting laid as much as possible. It’s about getting your foot in the door in the first place, and maintaining successful long-term relationships with women as well.

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DirkJohanson August 2, 2010 at 18:47

@Jabberwocky

I usually wear the hazmat suit on my babyarm, but I had marathon unprotected sex sessions with the hooker/ex-girlfriend a couple times a week for a year and a half and have still never gotten anything in my life, and I’ve done no shortage of hooker puddle-water drinking, or, for that matter, hooker mud hole licking.

I was even once third-leg on a triple blow-job that two friends and I bought on the streets of New York for a grand total of $20. The other guys both ended up with chlamydia, but I tested clean.

My theory is to start life slow sexually (unintentionally), gradually build, and the antibodies follow. I used to feel like I was coming down with a cold every time I kissed a girl, but that stopped happening years ago.

Hopefully I won’t find out my theory is all-wet the hard way (no puns intended).

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Gunn August 2, 2010 at 22:02

Welmer, why do you even waste space on this fugly 40 yo dyke? Females like this should be completely ignored until they eventually die.
http://www.friendster.com/photos/1279792/4026491/61119#pic=0402649161119

That picture is nasty. They need to get a bucket chain going to keep that whale wet until they roll it back into the sea.

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greyghost August 2, 2010 at 22:57

Boy, she’s a real looker Gunn.

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James August 3, 2010 at 00:29

That picture is nasty. They need to get a bucket chain going to keep that whale wet until they roll it back into the sea.

Or blow it up: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkZottYDpEE&feature=fvw (1:29)

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amfortas August 3, 2010 at 03:10

If you expect this woman to say that it is fine for men to sleep around and not give a toss about the women they shag, don’t hold your breath.

For as many generations as there has been the written word, we have had woman condemning men for being ‘studs’.

It might be a useful ploy however to use her words as a rationle. ” Shaggin’ around gave me the time and space to nurse me shattered heart. It gave me a place where I could exist in pieces, some of me craving touch, some of me still too tender to even expose to the light. Shaggin’ far and furious healed the part of me that felt my body and my desires were grotesque after two years in a libido-mismatched partnership wiv that slag wiv the ‘eadache. Now I felt hot, wanted, powerful. Fancy it then? Gerrum orf.”

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Rasputin August 3, 2010 at 04:04

From Sweden.
This is fore dead frets against Lars Vilks
If muslims kill Sweden artists, is it self defense to kill muslims?
Help to cure muslim children from islam and send this info to there internet HOME page.
“prophet” mohammed and islam is haram.
When mohammed was 50 year old he marry Aisha a 6 year old child, when Aisha was 9 year old “prophet” mohammed rape Aisha so he was a fucking pedophile and a slave owner so fuck him.
Girls read quran sura bina 60.
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djc August 3, 2010 at 04:20

She’s insane. I’m telling you this because it’s true.

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NMH August 3, 2010 at 05:57

Susan Walsh August 2, 2010 at 11:01

“… Their tears are undoubtedly tears of relief, the “misery loves company” kind. Because what comes through most clearly in JF’s piece is how miserable she is. Looking for love in ALL the wrong places.”

From a woman that writes a blog called “Hooking up Smart”. The Irony.

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The Man On The Street August 3, 2010 at 06:14

The sad part is the obvious part. At one time, she was at a healthy weight and kinda cute. Then she became “large n in charge”. Funny how all of her opt-eds or whatever she calls em now show her pic from a time when she was… shall we say… slightly smaller?

TMOTS

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Baphomet August 3, 2010 at 07:59

Friedman is an idiot. Instead of giving it away for free, she should become a hooker. There are plenty of men who would pay $ to doggystyle while she recited her feminist thesis.

Also in agreement with the post above that 9 a year is not a slut by any means.

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Anonymous Reader August 3, 2010 at 08:22

Baphomet :
Friedman is an idiot. Instead of giving it away for free, she should become a hooker. There are plenty of men who would pay $ to doggystyle while she recited her feminist thesis.

Those men would not be the men she is looking for, obviously. She already can get beta men to pay for a date, right? And the men she wants to do her ain’t gonna pay her for it. Yet another example of an entitled woman displaying her hypergamy…and sort of realizing the expiration date on her cuteness is long past.

You can even find the word “settle” in the article, if you look carefully, and it’s clear she doesn’t want that, because She Deserves Better.

Allergic to cats? There’s a breed with no fur just for women like her…

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Eman August 3, 2010 at 08:48

Jaclyn Friedman is Jewish. I notice that modern urban secular Jewish women tend to be much more ‘slutty’ than non-Jewish women, especially White bourgeois suburban women.

This is a fact that warrants more discussion. Why are urban secular far-left Jewish women like Friedman trying to push their slutty mores on to all other women?

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Eman August 3, 2010 at 08:52

“The Puritans held that women were sexually more chaotic than men, and were probably right.”

Of course they were right — that is/was the traditional view of women throughout all of human history. Women are wild Dionysians who must be held in check by rational male Apollonians, otherwise they ‘go primitive’ real quick; see my comment @ http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/07/27/in-defense-of-patriarchy/#comment-34990

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Leos Tomicek August 3, 2010 at 09:01

If being a slut is considered OK, why then do Feminists protest against pornography, prostitution and even lap-dancing clubs? I can understand that they do not like men having fun, but the other things they promote only facilitate pornography, prostitution and lap-dancing clubs.

I mean things like abortion, empowerment through casual sex and standing against any moral judgements that the society makes about female behaviour. What isn’t empowering about having sex and getting paid for doing it in this type of discourse?

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Common Monster August 3, 2010 at 09:30

Also in agreement with the post above that 9 a year is not a slut by any means.

Thanks for noticing, Baphomet… After having posted I ruminated some on how much women like to indulge in dress-up and play-pretend. She’s like “Oh, I posted on Craig’s List and had first date sex. I’m such a slut. Look at me…”. And then she goes on to write 3000+ words about it, like it’s a BFD because it’s part of the act. A best her faux sluttiness is disingenuous because she uses it to give her something to write about.

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DirkJohanson August 3, 2010 at 09:38

@Eman:

52% of Latinas in the U.S. are pregnant by age 20: and it isn’t because they are setting down and starting traditional families to young. Its hard to top that for sluttiness.

And Latinas in the U.S. are prudes compared to the way they are in most of Latin America.

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Anonymous Reader August 3, 2010 at 10:41

Leos Tomecik:
If being a slut is considered OK, why then do Feminists protest against pornography, prostitution and even lap-dancing clubs?

Feminism is not unified on those things. Older feminists like Dworkin, MacKinnon, etc. regarded porn as the equivalent of rape, along with pretty much every other aspect of men’s sexuality. In the 80′s “pro-sex” feminism came along that accepts porn as long as it’s “women positive” or some such. Make no mistake, though, “sex positive feminism” is still all about control of men’s sexuality, they just go about it differently than the old “Women Against Porn” harpies.

So maybe Jackie here considers herself “sex positive” within her own constantly-shifting limits, restrictions, etc. Or maybe she’s just another hypocrite who wants her own fun but hates on men for doing the same. Who knows? Ultimately, who cares? She’ll justify anything and everything she does as self-empowerment that she deserves because she’s a grrrl. When she contradicts herself, why, that’s just her right to change her mind, teh wimminz always fall back on that sooner or later.

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Leos Tomicek August 3, 2010 at 12:24

@ Anonymous Reader

In London, where I mostly reside, porn and lap-dancing clubs are very much on feminist agenda. And the women in the movement are not exactly old. In Iceland I heard the feminist in charge banned strip-clubs. I wouldn’t say this has gone away.

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Baphomet August 3, 2010 at 13:26

Leos Tomecik:
If being a slut is considered OK, why then do Feminists protest against pornography, prostitution and even lap-dancing clubs?

Porn and strip clubs fit into a pro-feminist agenda because they provide gainful employment for women and do not decrease the effectiveness of pussy rationing.

Prostitution makes pussy rationing less effective, and legal prostitution would severely hamper the feminist/social conservative agenda of enslaving men.

This is why one can meet hundreds of “liberal” girls who will happily watch porn or go to a strip club but are absolutely horrified at the idea of legal prostitution.

Deep down, every woman knows pussy is pussy and once men learn they can get it without claws, hooks, and teeth attached for a moderate price, her con game is up.

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Szebran August 3, 2010 at 14:15

This is why these types of women should NEVER, EVER be considered for marriage. They are sex toys. If U marry a slut then U do so at your own risk – epecially with the paternity fraud laws in place today.

Leos Tomecik:
“If being a slut is considered OK, why then do Feminists protest against pornography, prostitution and even lap-dancing clubs?”

Great point! Most feminist hate female strip clubs and lap dancing. They are always trying to shut them down. Just shows that one of the founding prinicples of feminism is hypocricy.

PS. Whatever happen to the quote tool on this site?

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Amanda August 3, 2010 at 18:16

Interesting take on things. I’m a big fan of both men and women slutting around in their youth, as long as they do it in a way that’s respectful to their partners. My fiance and I both slept with a similar number of people before getting involved, and we both think it’s helped educate us a lot in what we like and don’t like, as well as made us better lovers. Having slept with people in the past doesn’t mean I’m going to cheat on my fiance– why would it? I know what’s out there, and I know that sex, while a lot of fun, isn’t as awesome as just spending time with him. I do think it’s important to be honest with the people you get involved with– if I had no intention on doing anything more than having sex, I told him that. They didn’t always believe me, for some silly reason, but they were all good learning experiences, and honestly– a lot of fun. Because sex IS fun.

I don’t think any of this has killed any true romance. I love my fiance more than anything in this world. I do whatever I can think of to make him happy, and he makes me happy in so many ways. We have a great time both in and out of bed, and he knows he’s getting a woman who will always prioritize his happiness as equal to my own.

Slutting around was fulfilling to both of us in our own way, and since neither of us believes that settling ever leads to a good relationship, we’d still be at it now if we hadn’t found each other. But being with someone you truly love is fulfilling too, and I think better. Being in a relationship with someone you’re settling for though? Well, I imagine slutting around is probably a lot more fun than dealing with someone who isn’t what you want.

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EmanTheDesperateHouseboy August 3, 2010 at 18:51

Oh you tell me…I reckon that this gal was taught ‘Slut-onomy 101′! And since she perfected it so much, that makes her a seasoned ‘ho-fessional’. Just ask poor Roissy about it and see what I mean…

Meanwhile, I’ve just had about enough of ranting about this on my own blog:

http://forahouseboy.blogspot.com/2010/08/im-slut-and-damn-proud-of-it-says-lady.html

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Kathy August 3, 2010 at 18:52

“My fiance and I both slept with a similar number of people before getting involved, and we both think it’s helped educate us a lot in what we like and don’t like, as well as made us better lovers”

Bbbwwwhhaaaaaaaaa!
Just love your sense of humor, Amanda!

You …..WERE…. kidding? ….. RIGHT?

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Troll King August 3, 2010 at 20:33

Personally, I love sluts so much that I consider pelvic inflammatory disease to be a credential. But I gave up fucking fat sluts like Jaclyn Friedman more than two decades ago.

Lolzcatz
She’s just pissed that she isn’t in high school any more and most guys don’t want the practice girl to fuck.

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Welmer August 3, 2010 at 20:39

Interesting take on things. I’m a big fan of both men and women slutting around in their youth, as long as they do it in a way that’s respectful to their partners. My fiance and I both slept with a similar number of people before getting involved, and we both think it’s helped educate us a lot in what we like and don’t like, as well as made us better lovers.

Amanda, you’re a well-educated Bostonian destined for upper-middle-class status. I’m not sure you even understand the meaning of the word “slut” as it applies to most people. Nor do I believe you’ve slept with all that many people.

Do you remember the names of everyone you’ve slept with? If so, you’re not a bona-fide slut. This doesn’t say much for contemporary society, but, sadly, it’s kind of normal today. Also, from the pictures on your blog, you aren’t all that sexually inviting. Not to say you’re unattractive, but there’s a je ne sais quoi about women who are good to go, and it ain’t you.

I once had a law student girlfriend, and she had it. Oh yes, she did! But come on, Amanda, you’re a bit of a nerd. And that isn’t such a bad thing. Embrace it! You still have the opportunity to be a good wife and mother. Don’t you blow it.

Finally, don’t speak for your boyfriend. You may tell yourself that he’s happy about your previous sexual encounters, but if you think most men buy that you’re deluding yourself.

If you want to learn a thing or two, I suggest you read Dirk Johanson, who breaks it down quite clearly. He’s got no problem with promiscuous women, but he’s a smart guy, and I seriously doubt he’d consider marrying one.

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Kathy August 4, 2010 at 05:14

Listen to Welmer, Amanda.
He makes good sense.

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Jabberwocky August 4, 2010 at 07:44

“Slutting around was fulfilling to both of us in our own way, and since neither of us believes that settling ever leads to a good relationship, we’d still be at it now if we hadn’t found each other. But being with someone you truly love is fulfilling too, and I think better. Being in a relationship with someone you’re settling for though? Well, I imagine slutting around is probably a lot more fun than dealing with someone who isn’t what you want.”

Fine in theory, but hypergamy means 80% of women will be slutting around with just 20% of men. How are the other 80% of men going to feel about that. Are they just supposed to suck it up and take it like a man. Are they supposed to work their asses off their whole life as a celibate wage slave just to pay taxes that prop up single mothers and pay for jails to lock up their thug baby-daddies. Women are the gate keepers of sexuality, and they have fallen asleep at their post. Sexual anarchy doesn’t work because sex is a biological imperitive. Sexual anarchy will lead to cultural anarchy which will lead to actual anarchy.

I feel sick.

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cecilhenry August 4, 2010 at 18:41

Is she sexy??

Yes. (at least, so she thinks)

Is she beautiful??

Not a chance.

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trent13 August 4, 2010 at 19:26

Sexual anarchy will lead to cultural anarchy which will lead to actual anarchy.

Too true, and personally I find the sleeping around thing repellent. It’s just groady – someone else has been in the stamping ground? Bleh….

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Amanda August 5, 2010 at 09:50

Ok, Welmer, so yes, I do know the names of everyone I’ve slept with—even if I extend it to blowjobs and handjobs, I still know them all. But I’ve only been sexually active for 7 years, and only single for a year and a half of that. So… while I may not have the numbers, I did have a period of my life in which I slept with guys I would not commit to, who I did not know well. I was also considered scandalous by some of my sorority sisters (GASP! Dating more than one person at a time and having one spend Friday night over and one spend Saturday night over!), though if they had known that another member of our sorority was a sugar baby for awhile, that scandalous tag may have lapsed :-)

And yes, I do know that I come off as a very “sweet” “cute”, and “innocent” young lady according to most people who don’t know me well enough to have heard my political views. I do still fully intend to be a good wife and mother. I just don’t think that someone being a slut before marriage means they CAN’T be a good wife or mother. I really, genuinely do not think that sleeping around in and of itself is harmful to men or women.

Also, I doubt my fiancé has lied to me. It wouldn’t really serve any real purpose or get him anything to have told me that, so I’m going to continue to accept it as truth.

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KARMA MRA MGTOW August 8, 2010 at 04:34

“and then went on CNN to defend girls who were getting raging drunk, saying that the only concern should be predatory men.”

!!!!!!

Biological Impacts Of Alcohol Use:
An Overview

ALCOHOL AND LIVER DISEASE/HEPATITIS

Ref: http://www.oregoncounseling.org/ArticlesPapers/Documents/ETOHBIOFx.htm

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