Divorced fathers whose children spend a good deal of time away from them and out of their protective influence often worry a great deal about their children. Babymomma’s boyfriends and behavior can be a huge source of anxiety, but under our feminist family law regime there isn’t a thing these fathers can do to alleviate their anxiety. In fact, simply stopping by to check on a child can result in arrest.
When stories about the tragedies that disproportionately strike the children of single mothers appear in the news, they can be a real source of pain and worry for divorced fathers.
Here in Seattle Joel Zellmer, a Kent man, is facing trial for the murder of a 3-year-old girl. He allegedly killed her for a $200,000 life insurance policy he took out on her with her mother. In 2003, the girl drowned in a pool in her new stepfather’s back yard. When the child drowned, the death was initially thought to be accidental, but prior incidents involving the children of single mothers Zellmer proposed to came to light, and Zellmer was arrested in 2007. His first wife’s son had his legs broken in 1990, supposedly in a hit and run by an uninsured driver. Zellmer received a $25,000 insurance settlement from the “accident.” Later, the baby of a single mother he was dating somehow ended up in his hot tub, and was injured. In 2002, he started dating several single mothers at once, and then got engaged to one, who left him after some suspicious incidents and his suggestion that she and her daughter get life insurance policies.
Another single mother, to whom he proposed within two weeks of meeting her, also left him after life insurance suggestions. She also claims she found numerous photos of single mothers with children in his house.
Of course, there’s a chance that Zellmer didn’t murder or hurt anyone, but a $200,000 life insurance policy on a three-year-old looks pretty suspicious. So does his obsessive interest in single mothers, and the numerous injuries children sustained in his care.
The facts state that if a woman with small children is having a relationship with a man who is not the child’s father, the man is 60 times more likely to kill the children than a resident biological father. Of course, plenty of men who date and marry single mothers are perfectly decent, but sadly a lot of them are not. Some of them are downright homicidal.
In this day and age, an interest in single mothers is also a bit odd. Personally, I’d recommend avoiding them, because in the majority of cases they chose to become single mothers. Only a fraction of them faced the kind of abuse or neglect that justified putting their children in that situation. In most cases, they either got tired of their husbands and dumped them or intentionally got pregnant by a man who had no intention or desire to become a father. A man with good sense should approach any relationship with a single mother with extreme caution. However, they are also an easy mark. In many cases, they are desperate, so some guys might choose to take advantage of that.
It is every caring divorced father’s nightmare that some guy who doesn’t give a damn about his kids might soon become the “man of the house.” In these situations, the children suffer disproportionately from the choices that were ultimately made by their mother, and these choices are facilitated – even encouraged – by the law of the land.
Men like Zellmer, if he really did murder the girl, are only taking advantage of easy prey.
