(Authors note: For the interpretively challenged, this is the disclaimer: This is a somewhat tongue-in-cheek column that also contains very serious advice. If you are a woman and the opinions expressed here don’t apply to you, then you have no reason, or right, to be offended by them. If you are offended “on behalf of all women,†then stick around. I can do wonders with grandiosity.)
Dear Ladies,
I thought it best to start my column off here at The Spearhead with a personal introduction, and to give you a general overview of how and why grabbing you by the collar and holding a mirror up to your face will lead you to a happier life.
I am Dr. Paul. And I am to self help what Dr. House is to diagnostic medicine. That is to say, I’m a complete jerk, but the jerk you want to call when you’re in real trouble. And if you are a woman in western culture, you are most likely in trouble.
You should know up front that your feelings are about as important to me as your opinions, which is to say that they aren’t important at all. In fact, your feelings and opinions are the problem. By fixing them we can fix you, and everyone goes home happy.
You see, I already know how so many of you feel and where you are in life. I know about your struggles with men, how disappointed and disenchanted you have become. I know you are tired of guys that look great in the beginning but end up hurting and disappointing you.
That’s why you have been watching Oprah and Dr. Phil, and why you read magazines like COSMO for advice on relationships. You’re yearning for answers, and in fact you have probably spent a fair amount of yours or your man’s money chasing after them. Your bookshelves are filled with everything from John Gray to Gloria Steinem and it hasn’t done anything but leave you wondering if there are any good men left in the world at all. You are on an unending quest for an elusive solution, and you don’t see anything promising in sight.
It’s not entirely your fault.
From the time you were born, and I am going to put this in bold italics because it is very, very important, the whole world has been lying to you . And when all you hear is lies, you can only get the net result of where you are right now:
Fucked up and clueless as to what to do about it. Â The only thing you are sure of is that none of your problems are of your own making.
You see, all these lies have convoluted your expectations. Your sense of self-importance has been inflated to the point of psychic mutilation; your sense of responsibility proportionally reduced.  It starts in childhood with unicorns and Prince Charming, Daddy’s little princess and sugar and spice. Yes, you are what little girls are made of. And while that as all sweet and gooey, it pretty much screws the pooch when it comes to creating a tenable relationship with a grown man.
Being Daddy’s little princess is a cozy role for a child, but a piss poor ambition for a grown woman. And while the world pinched your cheek and cooed at you in your youth, it should have told you at some point in your life to take the tiara off and grow up.
But the world did just the opposite.
By the time you were a teenager, hormonal boys were telling you whatever they thought you wanted to hear just to get in your pants, or at least cop a feel of your tits. They would tolerate any amount of your smugness and indifference just for a chance to be near you. Â And with this, they continued to enable you and reinforced the illusion of your flawlessness. It made you feel powerful, important. Obsequious comment by obsequious comment, they helped you perfect the expectation that life would never demand from you humility or fairness. They taught you what your fathers did, that respect was not to be earned, but handed to you, by a man, regardless of your true nature.
And for years you lived with this as a constant, as there was always at least a few guys hanging around trying grovel their way into giving you the high hard one.
You could have a man and toss him away any time you wanted and you knew it. As a result you only gave attention to men who told you what you wanted to hear, and performed for you as expected. And even when you did follow your primal instincts into riding bitch on a Harley with a guy who didn’t spoon feed you bullshit, you made it your mission to mold him, too, into treating you like a princess. Often you succeeded.
And you ate it up like a beggar at a buffet.
Then you got a little older and feminism picked up where fathers and suitors left off. You learned that you were not only a princess with all the entitlements that come with that, but that you were also a victim of history; that all this entitlement that had been lavished on you was really oppression, and that you were owed even more.
And what’s more, you were able to quickly deduce that you could hang on to all those “oppressive†entitlements and take advantage of all the new doors being opened at the same time. All while you were more and more deeply entrenching yourself in the idea that you were not getting everything you deserved; that some man was responsible for it; that some man should fix it.
No wonder you’re so fucked up! Who wouldn’t be?
The world set out to produce an entire generation of personality disordered females and that is exactly what we got. Exceptions notwithstanding.
And so that leaves scores of you now here, in a state of perpetual dissatisfaction and disillusion. Many of you are downing anti-depressants like popcorn at a matinee, spending half your time ripping men, the other half looking for one that will fulfill your insanely unrealistic expectations of what he should be. And then wondering why it isn’t happening.
All the while, your relationship shelf life is ticking away. Your looks are fading and your options are narrowing. But you can’t seem to grasp the notion that it has anything to do with you.  That is in part because all the mainstream self help options to which you have availed yourself have only made things worse, fueling the fires of your entitlement and aiding your projective denial.  Your gurus and therapists and talk show hosts have only fed you more of the same that ultimately led you back to where you started, minus whatever portion of your earnings you gave up to them.
They are in business counting on the fact that everything I am saying here is true; counting on the fact that you won’t buy anything unless it is what you want to hear. Â You have been a good customer, which means you have been screwed. And since you can’t blame them or yourself, you just add it to your list of reasons to blame men.
It is a trap you can’t get out of because you have been taught to shun accountability like an AIG executive and point the finger of blame like a snitch in a drug bust.
It is time to grow up. And unless you do, you will never get out of that ditch, whether you know you are in one or not.
It won’t be easy. Growing up at 30 is a bitch; at 40 a nightmare; at 50 a lost cause but for a precious few.
Your ace in the hole is right here, though. I will help whip your mind into shape. It’s a hard job because right now your cranium is just a bucket for a glob of disoriented, infantile mush. The only cure for it is very high doses of the truth on a regular basis.
You won’t like it because I won’t mince words; because I won’t feed you the same poison that has ruined your life. If you want sugar coated, go get a doughnut. COSMO has one on every page, but Dr. Paul doesn’t do junk food.
Most of you will come back here again and again hoping for another column. Why? Well, for different reasons. Some of you will just come back to hate me some more. You are addicted to that sort of thing with men, and those of you the most far gone will only seethe and seethe more at my words.
But others, though you will curse me even in your sleep, will come back to visit me at The Spearhead because I am the first human being in your life to ever shoot totally straight with you. And you will come back because you are, though in terrible shape now, capable of understanding that getting the truth for free is much better than paying money for a pack of lies. Â And let’s face it, you do free pretty good.
We are on a rebuilding project here, ladies. And relearning. Through this column I will give you the reeducation you so desperately need. We will cover communications, intimacy, trust, and friendship. You will learn new concepts, like your man has feelings and desires of his own; new, radical ideas like making your man your emotional pincushion is actually a bad thing. I will teach you that you are not the center of the universe, that you never were; that you were never supposed to be.
You will grow from a child-woman into a paragon of mature partnership material. And it will bring you the happiness that only a grown up can know.
And all you have to do is understand that humility is better for you than hubris and abandoning any notion that you are royalty will free you from a depraved trap.
I know you will thank me later.
And remember, ladies, I am not a real doctor, but I play one on the internet.
Dr. Paul is a pseudonym only. Â The author of this article, Paul Elam, is not a qualified medical or psychiatric professional and does not purport to offer counseling, psychiatric services, or expert psychological advice.
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*standing ovation*
I love it when you talk straight to me, Dr. Paul.
*swoon*
More, please!
*standing ovation*
“That is to say, I’m a complete jerk, but the jerk you want to call when you’re in real trouble. And if you are a woman in western culture, you are most likely in trouble” Lol.
ENCORE!!!
” If you want sugar coated, go get a doughnut. COSMO has one on every page, but Dr. Paul doesn’t do junk food.”
I love a straight shooter.
Never could understand how women got sucked into the Oprah, Dr Phil, Cosmo webs..
Mind you the doc and Oprah are not so popular here in Oz
Someyimes, a silly question is all it takes..
Good show.
There was a very male cat in that bag, wasn’t there?
Second the motion:
Swallow the humility now or dine on humiliation later.
:Great job, Paul.
Indeed we are on precisely the same page, Dr. Paul. I can’t wait for the day that some blowhard starts pontificating nonsense and you tell him/her to go piss up a rope.
@Dr. Paul
This is excellent and IMO long overdue.
@Zed
“I can’t wait for the day that some blowhard starts pontificating nonsense and you tell him/her to go piss up a rope.”
I don’t think it’ll take too long–it never does.
Well done
*Excellent!!*
-More, please…!
thank you
Never could understand how women got sucked into the Oprah, Dr Phil, Cosmo webs.
Yeah, never got into that stuff.
But others, though you will curse me even in your sleep, will come back to visit me at The Spearhead because I am the first human being in your life to ever shoot totally straight with you.
You can’t really believe you’re the first to write this stuff?
How is this going to be different than all of the other articles on here blaming women for all of the problems in the world and teaching men to pump-n-dump to even the playing field?
Don’t you have anything else to do with your time? Your husband pretty much has to put up with your nagging and manipulation. It may be worth it to him because he gets other “benefits” from the association.
We don’t – either get any benefits, or have to put up with it.
Bullseye.
“How is this going to be different than all of the other articles on here blaming women for all of the problems in the world and teaching men to pump-n-dump to even the playing field?”
Death by a thousand cuts maybe.
And as thousands of articles are written, most will be dismissed, but of those thousands, a handful will be so well written, so piercing, that the shield of ignorance will no longer be able to protect the shallow and simplistic masses from the truth. Maybe this will be one of those articles. If it is not, we will keep writing them until we find the one that gets through to people.
@ B & G
“You can’t really believe you’re the first to write this stuff?”
Actually yes. I am the only one to have written that article. I didn’t copy it from anyone. And indeed, there is a good chance that there will be some women who read this who have never read anything like it.
“How is this going to be different than all of the other articles on here blaming women for all of the problems in the world and teaching men to pump-n-dump to even the playing field?”
I don’t blame women for all our problems, just for their own. Largely because of women like you. And if you had been pumped and dumped a few more times rather than finding a castrado to tolerate your bullshit, maybe you wouldn’t be here thinking your opinion or critique was either meaningful or relevant.
And the other side of the lie. TV feeding the anti-male sterotypes.
Look, it’s the idiotic and beat-down husband!
Look, it’s the stupid boy(Bart) and smart girl(Lisa)!
Look it’s the evil abusive man who hurts the innocent woman for no reason at all!
In order to have a War, you have to have an Enemy.
@ Zed
“Indeed we are on precisely the same page, Dr. Paul. I can’t wait for the day that some blowhard starts pontificating nonsense and you tell him/her to go piss up a rope. ”
I hope it is a him and not a her. Cause you never know, the guy that tells you to go piss up a rope one day may be your mentor the next.
@Dr. Paul,
LOL, we have come a long way, my old friend, haven’t we?
Dr Paul,
really great stuff!! THANK YOU. I’ll be posting this in a few places and let the wimmin have a think about it.
My personal opinion is that women lack the intelligence to comprehend what you are saying, but I have been wring before. We’ve got to have a few guys out there write directly at the wimmin. I do so a bit…but mostly only to tell them they lack intelligence! LOL! I tried this kind of approach a while ago and got universal hate posts in return.
I sincerely wish you good luck with this column! I think it’s great!
Just to put it out there…I’m not one of those pump&dump gamer types, and I still think the behavior of modern women is generally atrocious. It tends to be the women in their 30s that are the worst, in my experience. Girls in my generation have bad behavior but they haven’t suffered bitterness from all these relationship let-downs yet.
Dear Dr. Paul,
I hear your practical, Texas “no-nonsense” advice works miracles on TV every day, and shucks, I know you have easy access to your boss, Oprah.
If you have a briefcase for her, just ensure you place it in front of the heavy conference table legs. Do not confuse them with hers.
Love,
Firey
@ Firey,
Absolutely. Those of us in Oprah’s inner circle learn well from mistakes made by Nazi’s of the past.
Haven’t we had this conversation a few times already?
I hang out here because I think you guys are addressing a lot of interesting topics that need to be discussed. And it’s fun to debate people who don’t always agree with me. In the women’s forums I frequent, most women agree with this stuff, so it’s like sitting in an echo-chamber. In the other, more feminist women’s forums, only orthodoxy is allowed, so it’s a waste of time.
But this subject has already been discussed in-depth in every woman’s forum, couple’s retreat, or bookstore. Women can hardly walk without tripping over less-sarcastic content in a similar vein. Women who want to know about this already know, and the rest don’t care.
You guys are just writing this for yourselves, to vent. Which is fair enough, so I’ll leave this particular thread and let you enjoy yourselves.
Keep it comin’
Maybe there really is a god!!
I’ll believe it when I see it, however. We know that a woman always has “the right to change her mind.”
“You guys are just writing this for yourselves, to vent. Which is fair enough, so I’ll leave this particular thread and let you enjoy yourselves.”
You got that right!
We do it, not only for ourselves, (we already know about the state of affairs) but for a myriad of fellow men who are still struggling to figure out what the hell has happened to them.
In my part of this country, it has been calculated that 67% of all marriages ended in divorce, three out of four initiated by the women.
We are venting in order to protect you from our wrath AND to warn as many men as possible about the situation they are into.
Life is not fair. What goes up must come down. Women want slaves.. but slavery was abolished a while ago.
Now, men just want to be free from you. That is what women, collectively wanted. Now you got it!
It is not just to vent.
The entire purpose of my ‘Where Have All The Good Women Gone’ post was to highlight the fact that you see only the opposite perspective in the mainstream.
When is the last time that you saw women collectively derided as trash by a mainstream publication?
That’s right – never.
Well, it happens to men all the goddamn time.
Here’s why Dr. Paul’s column is awesome: we need to keep making efforts like these, and keep making complaints like these, all the time more frequently, louder and louder, until they cannot shut out our voices! Until even the most mainstream of media is forced to concede that most women aren’t very good any more, and men are completely unsatisfied with them. Because that message is not currently getting through. And it needs to. This isn’t a war we’re going to win just by changing some laws or by reducing the size of government (though that’s pretty much half the battle). We need cultural overhaul. Look at how much changed in the last 40-50 years. Right. We can facilitate just as much change in half that time. Why? Because we’re men. That’s why. Because a horde of rabid, pissed off men is infinitely more terrifying than a horde of rabid, pissed off women.
I wrote:
“They are in business counting on the fact that everything I am saying here is true; counting on the fact that you won’t buy anything unless it is what you want to hear.”
B & G wrote:
I’ll leave this particular thread and let you enjoy yourselves.
Hmmmmm…..
What is interesting is that zed has at least once inquired of this female what she is doing here to begin with. It is a good question. Other than the handful who are actually interested in men’s issues, why would a woman, with such a great marriage and husband that does her bidding be here involved with all this?
Dr. Paul knows why. The men here have spine, something that women like this tend to never see in their personal lives. Sometimes the vicarious is all we have.
At any rate, B & G, thanks for sharing and don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
Brilliant.
The hardest part in changing women’s attitudes will amount to a kind of exorcism. I like this article because it really says ‘the truth hurts’ (bitch), accept it, change your outlook towards men.
Can women really blame it on their upbringing? I feel strange giving them a (kind of) excuse. I’ve got to the point where I’m less forgiving although I understand this written construct of how many women have become like they are (but hell they’ve jumped on and ravaged their entitlement princess upbringing).
I hope more women will realise the points made here and start to consider what sound, reasonable men have to say.
Interesting, Dr. Paul. You and I have very different takes on the situation, as we have been known to do. You are far kinder than I, as usual.
My thinking was running along the lines that B&G’s husband owed the Spearhead a major contribution for her being allowed to use the men here as a surrogate outlet for her need to nag and rag at men – thus sparing her husband the necessity of bearing the sole and complete brunt of it, which would probably not be good for that “wonderful marriage” that the “mythical wonderful wife” claims they have.
|”When is the last time that you saw women collectively derided as trash by a mainstream publication?”
On local TV, men are still pictured as spineless pigs.
But more and more frequently, women are depicted as bitches, controlling harpies and sluts.
Some women are complaining that they are seen, more and more, as responsible for the mess we are in.
The tide may be heading the other direction. Some even say that the pendulum is swinging back, which has many women worried: not only, men have lost their “chivalry”, but society as a whole is less prones to see them as angels.
I think that many women see a change coming and what worries them is that they don’t know where to turn to for support: too many men have turned away from them.
Some women I know have become quite bitter about feminism.
This has been a long, rough ride for men. It may become just as rough for women in a not too distant future.
I am one who believes that pain is what makes humans progress: we have had our share, but the whole job is far from being finished.
And as usual, zed, you are more likely to find the pulse of the truth than I am. I propose this. Welmer should levy a posting tax on B & G (we both know who will actually pay it, anyway) as compensation for the Spearhead acting as a surrogate nagging platform for the aforementioned nagarag.
Whatever degree of misery that The Spearhead saves Mr. Black A. German from at home should surely be compensated for here.
Perhaps we could also start passing the word around to other henpecked husbands. For just a few dollars a month we will give their wives a place to rag at men quietly (just the clicking of keys) so that the husband can enjoy a few minutes free of her mouth. This will only work though for men whose wives cannot multi-task well enough to bitch and type at the same time.
Man, I have to go! I have an interview to finish organizing and run on MND. I promised myself I would have it up by tomorrow night and it isn’t near ready.
No rest for the weary, lol.
So endeth the lesson-but will these crazy squacks ever learn? Keep speaking the unspeakable (and excuse me for getting all religious in public) SHEMHAMFORASH!
Black&German January 17, 2010 at 11:53
“Women who want to know about this already know, and the rest don’t care.”
B&G,
they don’t care….now. But they soon will ‘care’. It won’t be long before I bring my book out in Australia and Ireland and give men the chance to nullify the marriage contract right back to the beginning and to then deny jurisdiction of the corrupt family courts. This will allow men to refuse to pay alimony, child support or even income taxes. When the ‘free money’ runs out the wimmin will be pissed. I have been telling women in free man groups about ‘feminism’ for a while. Example: http://freemanireland.ning.com/forum/topics/lifeboat-feminism
I have been challenging women in freeman groups to step up to being ‘equal’ by trying under common law women who commit crimes against men. Example: http://freemanireland.ning.com/forum/topics/gms-proposed-challenge-to-the
The ladies have been very quiet. Of course, one purpose of doing this is to point out to the men how the women are hypocrites and I have been harsher on the women of late to get them to ‘bite’ so that the men see just how hypocritical western women are now.
Not even the so called ‘good women’ like you have been able to make a dent in the hypocrisy of the ‘modern feminist woman’. Well? The ‘modern feminist woman’ is completely fucked. They get ALL their biased ‘rights’ through legislation and we are putting the sword to that legislation.
Example? There is a really big event in Ireland this week. Every year the people, represented by a small group, issue the mandate for the guvment to continue operating. The legal fraternity has not turned up to this required ceremony to receive their mandate to operate since the 20s. The Irish Freeman group will turn up in droves on Thursday and point this out. It is thought the President of Ireland might have to turn up to receive her mandate to remain in office at the will of the people. I can’t wait to see what happens on Thursday.
Dr. Paul, will this be a regular column here at the Spearhead? In all seriousness I hope it is.
ooo, ooo, me neither. Keep us informed, GM!
@ Learner
Yes, it will. It won’t be on a set schedule, but I will be writing regularly on this subject, just as promised in this article.
Thanks for the support.
Thought I’d share this with you all. Some of you, may find it amusing.
Critics attack Air NZ’s hunting cougars:
(sigh) Well that didn’t work. Here’s the link: http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10620747
You absolutely
just made my
Top Ten
Oh, stop with the Bart and Lisa bit.
Bart is the show. He dominates it, partly because, as Lisa once said, society is phallocentric.
Lisa is regularly mocked as a tiresome do-gooder.
Homer gets far more attention than Marge.
The Simpsons is male-dominated because males are more interesting and much funnier than females.
Your articles are hilarious.
Keep ‘em coming.
I am going to read this to my wife’s best friend, who is always bitching about men [unmarried at 32, with a therapist AND antidepressants!], the next time she comes over to do her damn laundry. And now let me lean back and shudder with delight at the prospect of it….
I think I found my new hero!
We need to get you on Oprah one time. That’s an episode I would watch.
Dr Paul – first off want to say loved your other article. Didn’t comment for various reasons, but the advice was sound and snarkily fun to read. I look forward to more!
However, I found it very similar to the #1 most popular self help book for women of the past 5+ years, also written by a man, “He’s Just Not That Into You.”
I bring this up because that is a mainstream book supported by the Oprahs and Cosmos of the world. It was far gentler in its approach (few women would listen if he were to be overly radical). But I think to truly tackle bad mainstream advice specifics would help.
Next to the article on pleasing a man in bed to hook him one might also find an article on women who submit to the will of their husbands and are happy.
Also mainstream advice is from Dr Laura Schlesinger who I’d imagine has pro-male views ( I could be wrong though, haven’t paid attention to her for 10 years).
Just saying to not dismiss mainstream advice entirely because there is good stuff out there. If you want to attack mainstream advice, I suggest you get a little specific about it. Heck even the other Dr, Dr Phil, plainly says women who marry for women will pay for it later, and that women who gain weight after marriage are doing a terrible thing. (Want quotes just let me know and I’ll dig tthem up.)
Typo – Dr Phil calls out and chastises women who marry for MONEY.
Forgivable. I’m always thinking the words ‘women’ and ‘money’ are interchangeable as well.
@LSB
If I can stop laughing my ass off at piercedhead’s comment I’d like to respond to your post.
Ok, ok, calm down, Dr.
Right. Here’s the deal. I am going to tell you a secret. I don’t write for female consumption. I don’t expect to reach women and change their minds about anything. That sort of thing isn’t done with self help or books and articles. Not directly anyway.
And if I could I would not be in the least interested in getting women to submit to their husbands.
The point is, as some of the comments have already pointed to, is that we aim our spearhead at the collective consciousness. The trick is to get a few people talking, then a few more. So I have decided to do this column that targets some of the problems with women, but that will resonate with men who are fed up with those problems. If I can take a counter culture shot at the Oprah’s and Phil’s of the world in the process, all the better.
Oh, and which reminds me, any admonition from that snake McGraw about what people should and shouldn’t do for money is a really bad joke.
Here is my most excellent article about that asshole.
http://mensnewsdaily.com/2009/08/04/gender-lies-and-phil-mcgraw/
All that being said I appreciate your support of the work, but I urge you to take another read through the article. I don’t think you are quite seeing what my point is.
Thanks
Looking forward to more. Men and women both need to hear this, though it’s far more common for men to already be aware of bits and pieces. After all, we’re generally the ones who have to deal with these women.
Quit milking my humor.
You’re only permitted to do that if we’re sleeping together.
David,
So are you saying that it’s ok to portray mainly males as idiots and deviants because it’ll be much more interesting and funnier?
Males have more range, and it’s a comedy show (or intended to be).
Let’s not get PC and insist that The Simpsons must have a ‘straight’ guy who does nothing but act intelligently.
When I watch The Simpsons, I want to see Bumblebee Man and evil Mr Burns. Not male versions of Lisa and Marge, because they wouldn’t be at all funny – as Lisa and Marge aren’t. Anyone who thinks that people’s views of men are affected by this clearly ridiculous and unrealistic cartoon must also believe that men view women as sex objects because they watch pornography. The argument is bunk there and it’s bunk here. As human beings we have the capacity to distinguish fantasy from reality.
Lol @ piercedhead and firepower… *sigh*
Dr. Paul, thanks for the response. I think I am clearer on your aim. it also supports a point I wanted to add further.
I don’t think the issue at hand is completely one of bad advice or lack of sound guidance out there – there is also a huge issue of women not listening and following the sound, proven advice they get.
It’s like some people who go to church (or rehab, or ___ with “good advice”), but still do wrong. intellectually they get what the right thing to do is and why. Immediatley after session they have this new mindset and actually make better decisions. But usually they fall back to old habits after constant bombardment from bad influences (like society and even one’s social circle) takes over.
Many people are too weak to change even when the reasons to do so are staring them in the face. Change is hard and seeing the benefits takes time; in our society of “immediate return on investment” its hard to suffer through short term pain for lifelong betterment.
My thoughts aren’t fully formed yet, so I do look forward to more of your thought-provoking commentary.
. For my part I have been planning to start book reviews/discussions for GirlGame so that hopefully that will enable me to provide interesting ideas of my own on the advice that is out there. (My own personal journey with some of that advice has yielded both disastrous along with miraculous results.)
Intrigued by your Dr Phil article, I read it quickly and the book you quoted seems to contradict other advice and books of his I have skimmed. I wonder how much he, as someone *trying to get people to fix a problem*, is kowtowing a bit to just get women to listen. Sort of like, “OK, you are right! Well not really… But regardless what are you going to do to fix the situation?”
Changing a person’s mind and then getting them to actually rewrite mental scripts and behavioral scripts is very, very hard. I have way too many thoughts on this so I’ll stop there. Apologies for any solipsistic lengthiness with my comment. Thanks again.
By the way, reread your article here and I do catch the point about tongue in cheek… Or maybe I don’t. Perhaps when it sinks in… I guess you are also talking about the actual life experience women go through – the rush of p—-y power and ability to basically control h-rny guys with it. It is a power trip and does corrupt a person…
@ LSB
Indeed. When Warren Farrell published “Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say,” my initial response was to yawn. In the end though, all his self promotion aside, he has a point. That sort of explains what I am doing with Dr. Paul. If one man says this to one woman, she likely won’t pay any attention. But if she can’t log on and read about relationships without being exposed to this POV, then it might promote some change.
I’ll check your link.
Dr. Paul.
I call feminism the greatest game of “lets you and him fight” ever concocted.
I think its an easy and catchy phrase to remember and gets people to ask the right question about its origins (Soviet) and its purpose (the destruction of Western birthrates).
Ayup. Pussy power corrupts and absolute pussy power corrupts absolutely.
I checked out just the front page of your blog. Interesting. I don’t like every line (as though I would) but it will prompt me to come back and read more. That says a lot.
I did notice, however, that is was missing a link to my website.
lovelysexybeauty said:
Yeah, it must be really annoying for con-men to be asked to deliver within a decade or two. The “magic box” must remain unlooked at, and unchecked, for at least forty years before it’s wonderful contents are revealed!
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Loved the article. Please keep writing them.
I just wanted to share a quick anecdote:
This past weekend, my friend and I went to grab some food at a local fast food joint. After we had received our food and had started eating, a late 20′s woman walked in. She was wearing clothing for going out on the town. Tight stretch pants, a halter top (all in black) and a set of a$$-antlers. She was an 8 in the looks department until you saw her eyes. She had DEAD eyes…
Anyways, the owner, an nice older woman and her son were watching us watch her. She asked me after the woman had left if I “enjoyed the view?”
I told her, “No. I don’t like a$$ antlers and besides that she was a disease ridden slut!”
Her son nearly fell over at my comment. She was amused.
I think that as men get more and more fed up with the crap they are having to endure with these creatures that men will get more bold and say what they are really thinking. It will be a shock to these self-absorbed women.
LRe: Rebel on Jan.17th, 13:22
“It may become just as rough for women in a not too distant future. I am one who believes that pain is what makes humans progress: ”
My dad used to say before disiplining one of his 6 children,
3 strikes (warnings)…your out…”
…”IF YOU CAN’T —LISTEN, -THEN- PERHAPS YOU CAN —FEEL…?
It worked then , and will in the future…but I hope it is seldom needed…
Does anybody still know what a father is or does ? Or has Chivarist / feminist laws, deleted that position for males , too ?
My dad taught me to have respect for things living…he always said, ” Be very patent with animals, women, and children….god what a great man..I miss him terribly…
I read a book called “The cinderella complex”, though my interpretation of its contents was that women needed a father to encourage them to be decent people, capable adults, and most importantly a good example of the kind of men women should want to marry and what men like that want the woman they marry to be. Dad is an important figure in a girl’s life, and it’s important that a father has the opportunity and the mindset required to be a good teacher who has an idea of what’s really “best” in mind for his children.
I have no sympathy nor do I provide safe quarters to women that expect to deny dad has a critical part he should be allowed to play in the lives of his offspring – particularly when said women think that the only role dad should get is the one where he provides the money for the kids he never is permitted to see unless it’s the rare time that’s convenient. Doesn’t mean that I don’t wish things were able to be done more pro-actively, with both genders leaving their ego and blaming behind when dealing with matters regarding their children – or that I don’t recognize there are many who simply just don’t have that available as an option.
Posted to /Women on reddit. I am looking forward to seeing what sort of reaction it gets…
Nice article, Dr.Paul. I doubt that woen can be saved without an ass-reaming with the shame beatstick, but stranger things have happened.
Unfortunately, B&G will come back after a week or two. Is not the first time she has ragequitted this place.
This is brilliant.
I have seen and understood this emotional deception and blackmail women use ever since I was a young man and I didn’t pander to women just to get in their pants because I knew it made me so much less of a man.
To this day it is hard to find a woman that isn’t a emotional wreck, women nowadays think that hating men will get men to love them more? How fucked up is that, REALLY FUCKED UP!
Women are taught that they are princesses and from grade school that boys are smelly oppressive, over-aggressive bastards that have been destroying the world since the beginning of time! What a great way to alienate men from women and give women a false sense of superiority complex. What’s worse is that young girls are so fucking confused, they want to date but they still have the feelings of a 4 year old, I want food, waah! I want love, waah! I want, I want, I want, men are all bastards until they are 30 years old and aren’t fertile living in a shack with ten cats, then women start to realize they were wrong the whole fucking time, some not until their deathbed!
Men want to have sex but when we know that you are an emotional psychopath why would we ever marry you? Women complain men don’t commit when women are far more afraid of it than any man ever was! Women instinctively know they have nothing to bring to the table so just cop out and blame the nearest man, that works! Fuck accountability that takes work and self critcism, I’ll just fuck for it later to get what I want!
Grow up young women, Men stop treating your daughters like royalty, women don’t “deserve” respect, they have to earn that, not be given it like a lollipop!
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