Tiger Woods’ indiscretions and his wife’s ride on the crazy train are being beaten to death in the pop press, so I know the story may already be a bit tiresome, but the glaring hypocrisy and double standard where domestic violence is concerned simply has to be pointed out by someone.
At this point it’s obvious Tiger cheated. Big deal. Infidelity has become the norm in marriages across America, and that goes for women as well as men. In fact, the only women who appear unlikely to cheat these days are those for whom it would be economically disadvantageous, such as Tiger’s wife, which suggests what measures ought to be taken to reduce infidelity in general. However, the law today affords no excuses for domestic violence, no matter how heinous the behavior of the victimized spouse. Except, apparently, when the perpetrator is a wife. I suppose VAWA was named the “Violence Against Women Act” for a reason.
Whatever one may think of Tiger’s behavior, the fact is that, every year, millions of American men are subjected to the exact same thing his Swedish wife Elin Nordegren faced. Any husband who reacted in the same manner Mrs. Woods did would find himself behind bars in no time. He’d probably do some serious time if he’d picked up a deadly weapon such as a golf club.
Nevertheless, countless comments left by women on articles have been congratulatory in a “you go girl” manner and, sadly, a number of men appear to share the same opinion. Today, I came across an article in which the columnist actually applauds domestic violence. Jessica Ashley, writing for Shine, supports Elin’s golf club attack:
Of course, she leaves out the part about Tiger being in the car at the time, which makes it a plain case of assault. I should know about this. At one point in my life I got into a fistfight with a guy who threatened me over a traffic dispute, and beat him fair and square. Being a sore loser, the fellow snuck up on me while I was stopped at a red light and took out my window with a baseball bat, spraying glass into my face. The surprise and blood in my eyes blinded me temporarily, and if I’d been moving at the time I’m sure I would have crashed.
Fortunately, a witness took note of his license plate number, a detective called me over to the station to pick him out of a photo montage, and the guy was arrested. He ended up doing a couple months in jail for his ill-advised attempt to mimic a wiseguy. Aside from having to endure a doctor picking tiny glass shards out of my face and eyes with tweezers, I was fine, and the remaining scars are tiny. The point is that attacking someone with a baseball bat, even if they happen to be in a car, is a violent crime. Same goes for an attack with a golf club, I’m sure. In fact, here in Seattle a member of the “Critical Mass” bicycle gang was arrested a couple years ago for attacking a man’s car with a bicycle lock, and the driver, who tried to run the cyclist over following the attack, was let off the hook.
So now that it’s been established that Mrs. Woods likely committed a violent crime, we ought to ask why she was never arrested. In cases of suspected domestic violence, police are virtually required to make an arrest, but they chose not to in this incident. Now I’m not sure if it was because of the stature of the family in question, but I’d be willing to bet that there is far more political pressure to arrest men than there is to arrest women. In other words, the double standard comes straight from the top. Politicians and judges (who are also politicians) are directly responsible for this state of affairs. I don’t think the police, who are quite often victims of false accusations themselves, are the ones who are calling the shots on the ground here.
Honestly, I don’t really give a damn about Tiger Woods fooling around, or even about his wife’s insane response, but as a man, I am not at all happy about the fact that women can commit crimes against men with impunity. Think about this: if a woman can get away with going after Tiger Woods and be congratulated for it, how much do you think the authorities would care if an ordinary, anonymous guy gets assaulted by a woman? This simply proves that men are second class citizens in the eyes of the law.
To add insult to injury, it has been reported that Tiger’s wife has used the incident as an opportunity to revise her prenup with him and receive a huge cash transfer into a personal bank account. If this is how it is, men are truly screwed here in America.